5 years
What could be done to stop so many from leaving the community?
I know for me personally I've come and gone from this site and gaining/feeding in general a few times over the years. I did have a previous account that I forgot the email to or something and had to make this one a year or so ago. I used to be Primal113. I have no idea what happen to that account.
Anyway, the main reason for me is my life situation. My wife and I have had lots of ups and downs in life. Mainly because of my health issues. When struggling in life the last thing on my mind is gaining, weight, fat, etc. But, when things calm down and get better, then here I am. Hopefully this time will be for much longer. That I can actually accomplish something. But, I can't predict the future. I do think many people leave because this fetish/preference/kink often becomes at odds with social stigma. I know for myself it took a long time to come to terms that I loved that my wife was fat and to tell others. Its a whole other thing coming to terms with wanting to gain weight intentionally. I've flip flopped on that many times. Each time I come back around I feel more and more comfortable with it and closer to really living the dream so to speak. Its taken me decades to get to this point. So I'm sure others also take time too. Leaving and rejoining the community many times over the years. Thats my 2 cents anyway.
Anyway, the main reason for me is my life situation. My wife and I have had lots of ups and downs in life. Mainly because of my health issues. When struggling in life the last thing on my mind is gaining, weight, fat, etc. But, when things calm down and get better, then here I am. Hopefully this time will be for much longer. That I can actually accomplish something. But, I can't predict the future. I do think many people leave because this fetish/preference/kink often becomes at odds with social stigma. I know for myself it took a long time to come to terms that I loved that my wife was fat and to tell others. Its a whole other thing coming to terms with wanting to gain weight intentionally. I've flip flopped on that many times. Each time I come back around I feel more and more comfortable with it and closer to really living the dream so to speak. Its taken me decades to get to this point. So I'm sure others also take time too. Leaving and rejoining the community many times over the years. Thats my 2 cents anyway.
5 years
What could be done to stop so many from leaving the community?
Rachhole:
Well as someone who was here years ago and just come back, I have a couple thoughts on this thread and subject.
As for the initial leaving like 10 years ago, it was based on life circumstances and more that at that time I had stopped making genuine connections with people and still wasnt comfortable with myself and had growing to do.
That being said, upon my return ff is a different animal. As I've grown (physically and mentally), ive decided to embrace and enjoy myself and get back into what brought me here originally. Ive stopped being ashamed of my body or my relationship with food. That being said, I can see why it's hard for some people to stay.
Firstly as a feedee and content creator we get a bad rap. When I returned I had no idea about feabie or scamming or any of this "pay me or I wont talk to you" tom foolery. So many people I talk to are put off because of fetishes being more monetized than ever, with things like of and other pay walls. If people feel that they are being reduced to a piggy bank and not real people then I would understand leaving as well or being weary of feedees. Though I will say it's a double edged sword for me because I do create content but if you've ever spoken to me personally you can attest I dont push it on you, if you're interested fine. If not, my main purpose is chatting.
Secondly, I get the fat and food and sex and that is all well and good. But being just an object of your lust and not a human being is demoralizing. I am always up for fat chat or talking about fantasies but it's nice to have a real conversation because I'm more than my jiggly bits, no matter how plentiful they are.
My last point is for john, who as a queer poc I'm going to agree with. It happens less so here than on other sites, but I feel that I dont get the same treatment or respect because I am a woman of color. No one had ever said anything blatantly racist to me, but it's how things are worded. If some of you check my content you know I work with my lovely counterpart quite often. We have a lovely relationship. This is our platform of choice and we have met a lot of genuine people. That being said we do get a lot of private messages. We will be offered to make custom work or feeds and more often than youd think, she gets a private message saying that they only want something from her in the end or set up something with the pair of us and decide that I'm not needed. I'm not going to say that my race is always the case but I do notice the difference in treatments across all platforms (except insta which is treats fat models as second class in general).
Im obviously aware that some people like me better and some people prefer her, that's normal. But what isnt is the disproportionate way in which I am spoken to treated and over all disregarded. There will be people that will think that this is just some weird figment of my imagination but I promise you the race card is still being held.
John Smith:
I am glad that we finally have a content creator who put a word about it.
Mod teams and conservative minority lobbies on F.A. forums lately are less bent into gaslighting, making pass people for fools and/or bullying into silent dozens of vocal forumgoers when BBW models are the ones who expresses their grievances about these same issues.
There definitively have differences of treatment against content creators of color. I've been pointing out this issue for months on FF, DM and Curvage and it resulted into FF banning any thread topic centered about forum members of color this summer, DM banning me and later their very admin and mod team lobbying amid a minority lobby on Curvage to put me into silent.
Forums may continue to snub at these issues and sees their frequency visitations rates dropping as catastrophically as their membership rates for the sake of some foolish status quo in their heads, or face up the truth: even if that means losing up some members who refuses to contemplate any change the same way majority of 200,000+ Americans refused to recognize there has a pandemic outbreak. Patterns remains patterns.
Well as someone who was here years ago and just come back, I have a couple thoughts on this thread and subject.
As for the initial leaving like 10 years ago, it was based on life circumstances and more that at that time I had stopped making genuine connections with people and still wasnt comfortable with myself and had growing to do.
That being said, upon my return ff is a different animal. As I've grown (physically and mentally), ive decided to embrace and enjoy myself and get back into what brought me here originally. Ive stopped being ashamed of my body or my relationship with food. That being said, I can see why it's hard for some people to stay.
Firstly as a feedee and content creator we get a bad rap. When I returned I had no idea about feabie or scamming or any of this "pay me or I wont talk to you" tom foolery. So many people I talk to are put off because of fetishes being more monetized than ever, with things like of and other pay walls. If people feel that they are being reduced to a piggy bank and not real people then I would understand leaving as well or being weary of feedees. Though I will say it's a double edged sword for me because I do create content but if you've ever spoken to me personally you can attest I dont push it on you, if you're interested fine. If not, my main purpose is chatting.
Secondly, I get the fat and food and sex and that is all well and good. But being just an object of your lust and not a human being is demoralizing. I am always up for fat chat or talking about fantasies but it's nice to have a real conversation because I'm more than my jiggly bits, no matter how plentiful they are.
My last point is for john, who as a queer poc I'm going to agree with. It happens less so here than on other sites, but I feel that I dont get the same treatment or respect because I am a woman of color. No one had ever said anything blatantly racist to me, but it's how things are worded. If some of you check my content you know I work with my lovely counterpart quite often. We have a lovely relationship. This is our platform of choice and we have met a lot of genuine people. That being said we do get a lot of private messages. We will be offered to make custom work or feeds and more often than youd think, she gets a private message saying that they only want something from her in the end or set up something with the pair of us and decide that I'm not needed. I'm not going to say that my race is always the case but I do notice the difference in treatments across all platforms (except insta which is treats fat models as second class in general).
Im obviously aware that some people like me better and some people prefer her, that's normal. But what isnt is the disproportionate way in which I am spoken to treated and over all disregarded. There will be people that will think that this is just some weird figment of my imagination but I promise you the race card is still being held.
John Smith:
I am glad that we finally have a content creator who put a word about it.
Mod teams and conservative minority lobbies on F.A. forums lately are less bent into gaslighting, making pass people for fools and/or bullying into silent dozens of vocal forumgoers when BBW models are the ones who expresses their grievances about these same issues.
There definitively have differences of treatment against content creators of color. I've been pointing out this issue for months on FF, DM and Curvage and it resulted into FF banning any thread topic centered about forum members of color this summer, DM banning me and later their very admin and mod team lobbying amid a minority lobby on Curvage to put me into silent.
Forums may continue to snub at these issues and sees their frequency visitations rates dropping as catastrophically as their membership rates for the sake of some foolish status quo in their heads, or face up the truth: even if that means losing up some members who refuses to contemplate any change the same way majority of 200,000+ Americans refused to recognize there has a pandemic outbreak. Patterns remains patterns.
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