Another important thing is communicating your wants/needs/expectations and knowing what you're looking for before searching for someone on either side of this.
You should be talking about your limits, how much engagement/interaction you want, your goals and expectations for what your relationship will look like.
Everyone is going to do things differently, some feedees wanna be spoiled, some wanna be degraded. Having these conversations will help weed out people you aren't going to enjoy playing with anyway.
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