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Correct. Well said. 👏🏻

That’s awesome you’re educating men on the issue you come across, there’s alot of men who are down in the dumps cause they got a belly it doesn’t need to be the case, it’s okay to be fat it’s okay to eat. You’re doing the lords work!

Morbidly A Beast:
People who have been fat all their lives have feelings associated with it and them seeing people enjoying what causes them so much suffering could come off as trivializing their struggles and hardships. Also yeah, people aren’t ready for people who are fat and happy

DollGirl:
This is a very valid point, Morbidly A Beast. At this point I am fairly open about being a feedist (on both sides of it) and often have to educate people about the kink, including fat guys I have met on vanilla dating apps and other kinksters not in this community.

However. I have kept quiet about it with regard to my mother, who has been fat her whole life and grew up in an era when there was no body acceptance. She faced a lot of rejection and ridicule and hurt in her life as a result of being fat. Even from my father. I worry that she would see this kink and my interests as trivializing and insulting.[/quote]

This is a good point and I like the specific example that DollGirl gives. I think we can broaden this context to anything where the socially constructed values system is changing or reversing - there will be hurt feelings on both sides. I think the most difficult argument for anyone to accept is one that challenges their established worldview (even if it's a worldview that disadvantages them personally).
Doesn't this sound just like something parents say to their children or the classic boomer/millennial rift. "When we were kids, we had/didn't have ____." You could insert many things here: fat acceptance, religion, the internet, segregation, un-closeted homosexuality, contraceptives, college education, good paying jobs, crippling student debt/loan forgiveness, drugs, a mortgage/affordable housing, Bitcoin, free healthcare, etc.
Whenever a major societal value or construct shifts, even if we can mostly all agree it's for a good reason, people will still be bitter about it. Why wouldn't they be? They spent their whole life hearing and believing something like "the only way to get ahead in life and be wanted is to be thin, and therefore beautiful." Just to later find out, actually all of that was BS. "Your fat body was beautiful all along" and yet you spent 40 years being unhappy about it for no good reason! That must be simply infuriating.

Reading this thread got me thinking a bit. I remember a wave of pro-anorexia content creators and the such going around a few years back. I'm sure there are still some out there. The mainstream is all for weight loss. As it's seen as someone bettering themselves. But then there is pro-anorexia which is for obvious reasons seen as a horrible thing. Not only for the person influenced but then people influencing.

Can there be a sort of connection where weight gain might be more accepted by the mainstream if the "lighter side" (no pun intended) of weight gain is promoted more. The mutual relationships to alleviate the view of predatory men going after women. FFAs that would help with the previous and give a voice to the women FAs. Also that in the vast majority of cases most people aren't gaining, whether on their own or with a feeder, to the point of immobility and severe health problems. Of course there are those that do and there are health problems that arise for many. I think feedism is all to often seen as the extreme, like the pro-anorexia stuff. Where most don't go that far nor want too.

Now, having said all that I know there are people that do want those extremes. I'm not one to say nor think people should be told how they can live their own lives. Or do what they want with their own bodies. But, when I see so many who find this community and it improves their life. Makes them feel they aren't alone and the only ones who like this stuff. That there are many positives to feedism that get glossed over for the taboo. At least by the mainstream. It's much more of a story to show the extremes. The pro-anorexia might be the same, I dont know. Basically seems we've gotten bad PR. But that as more people come to the community and things progress it won't be seen as extreme. Because for the most part it isn't. Just some thoughts.

I don‘t see a reason to promote kinks or fetishes in general as someone famous.

Body positivity or positivity in general? Yes, of course.

If I‘d be called out in an interview for my fat partner or own obesity and be confident about it, I think everyone can do the math.

Hey fellas, so after reading other people’s comments it has put some aspects in my mind at an ease so I definitely appreciate that. ☺️

I am also aware that I might have now gotten a few haters from what I’ve said in this thread. While I respect other people’s opinions and other people can prove me wrong, at the end of the day we don’t really know each other and no one really knows what I have been going through in the last few weeks.

But hey other than that, I’m pretty much at the point where I’m really to put this all behind me and move on with my life already. 👍