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Are there girls who like obese men?

Letters And Numbers:
I'm not sure that those are the most accurate/scientific comparisons. The sites seem to have different cultures which could sway the way people use them. Interesting though?

Is there a reason you chose that "chubby with a belly" category instead of something bigger like the OP was talking about? He asked about obese men.

Munchies:
This data is less about different genders that like chubby people with a belly than it is about women who are comfortable enough to admit it on the platform they are on.

Basically, it's apples and oranges.

It also doesn't take into account plus-sized body types like chubby without a belly, morbidly obese, strong fat etc., etc.

It would be interesting to see a robust demographic study on the online feedist community. Unfortunately, despite all the attempts I've seen to make such a thing, the engagement has been piss-poor.


No, it's not totally scientifically accurate. It's also impossible to get data like that. However, I don't think that on its own completely invalidates the results, this is a lot better and more accurate than merely speculating based on anecdotes. Just take it with a grain of salt. The way I see it is that it gets closer to the truth than we can get without it, but it doesn't fully arrive.

If you're not on Feabie, here's how it works. When you create a profile, one of the fields is "body types I like". There are several options and you can check multiple. The options are thin, average, toned muscle, thick/curvy, slightly chubby, chubby with a belly, pear-shaped chubby, chubby all over, and super chubby. Basically, chubby is their lingo for fat. The vast majority of women's profiles I've seen have filled out this field because it helps with filtering. When doing a profile search, you can select "only members who like my body type". That is unfortunately the only option related to this. I actually can't search multiple body types at once, or even body types that aren't mine. It just so happens that "chubby with a belly" is the one I selected for myself when creating my profile. This search is the best I can do with the tools that are available.
1 year

Are there girls who like obese men?

Letters And Numbers:
I'm not sure that those are the most accurate/scientific comparisons. The sites seem to have different cultures which could sway the way people use them. Interesting though?

Is there a reason you chose that "chubby with a belly" category instead of something bigger like the OP was talking about? He asked about obese men.

Munchies:
This data is less about different genders that like chubby people with a belly than it is about women who are comfortable enough to admit it on the platform they are on.

Basically, it's apples and oranges.

It also doesn't take into account plus-sized body types like chubby without a belly, morbidly obese, strong fat etc., etc.

It would be interesting to see a robust demographic study on the online feedist community. Unfortunately, despite all the attempts I've seen to make such a thing, the engagement has been piss-poor.

Malvineous:
No, it's not totally scientifically accurate. It's also impossible to get data like that. However, I don't think that on its own completely invalidates the results, this is a lot better and more accurate than merely speculating based on anecdotes. Just take it with a grain of salt. The way I see it is that it gets closer to the truth than we can get without it, but it doesn't fully arrive.

If you're not on Feabie, here's how it works. When you create a profile, one of the fields is "body types I like". There are several options and you can check multiple. The options are thin, average, toned muscle, thick/curvy, slightly chubby, chubby with a belly, pear-shaped chubby, chubby all over, and super chubby. Basically, chubby is their lingo for fat. The vast majority of women's profiles I've seen have filled out this field because it helps with filtering. When doing a profile search, you can select "only members who like my body type". That is unfortunately the only option related to this. I actually can't search multiple body types at once, or even body types that aren't mine. It just so happens that "chubby with a belly" is the one I selected for myself when creating my profile. This search is the best I can do with the tools that are available.


Fair enough.

That said, if we engage with your study as is, we have to ask if the percentage difference on Feabie and Grommr is negigible or not. 40% and 47% are very close. You did not control for a great number of variables, so is it safe to assume they are about the same?

I think they are, but that's my assumption.

We could say the true problem is there aren't as many self-indentified women in male dominated fetish spaces. After all, your datasets imply that to be the case.

Enough people in this thread discusses why that is enough already.
1 year

Are there girls who like obese men?

MRFATS53:
Here's a clue for anyone who needs it - on here at least: Look at the number of female fatties photo's and the number of positive comments these attract, most often from males. Now compare that with the photo's of male fatties - how many comments do you see from either sex, let alone from females. Not many...

Letters And Numbers:
That could just mean that women have better manners (not that every comment is rude) or don’t want to express themselves that way. It doesn’t necessarily reflect attraction in a big sense.

I think Malvineous’ example is closer to some actual data, even though I think it has problems.

MRFATS53:
Isn't expressing oneself A, if not THE, major attraction for being on this site in the first place? F/F is an essentially anonymous site so I see no other logical reason for the comments imbalance I mention. Other interpretations are always a possibility - but in this case I think it's a hard case to argue anything other than many more men find fat woman attractive than women find fat men so.


Ah man. Tell me you don't understand women without telling me you don't understand women.

A few truths for you for free.

Most women will not comment on a man's photos on here. It is far too dangerous. There is a very high risk the guy thinks you want him and will inflict himself upon you. No matter how cute he is, it's best not to engage.

A lot of men's pictures on here aren't comment worthy. They don't understand how angles and lighting work. A lot of them do not out any thought to their appearance or background when they upload selfies and videos.

Women are more likely to engage with erotica than cute strangers on the internet due to the aformentioned reasons.

Scores of people from both genders (men and women) look at sexy things without interacting with them.
1 year

Are there girls who like obese men?

I got some personal experience from an ex of mine from another forum. They vented on how hard it was to find a dating site where they could find bigger people, and publically invited people to chat with them. I was just throwing the dice for fun, but turns out I was the safest of the suitors and they wanted to give me a chance.

We used VRchat as an icebreaker, and although I wasn't fat myself, we basically used to LARP being a mutually fat couple in private. Although they were cool if I didn't gain weight, we found out our tolerances were around 350 lbs (chunky but not immobile) so I humored bulking up to 30 lbs for them at first (we didn't get far). We even had a bit of ERP where I was solely the fat guy and I personally got to hear how into it they were. Although we had a lot in common, there were too many logistic problems and we had to break up early. Totally worth it, imo.

Do women like this? Yes. Can they cut you some slack? Yes. Is it easier to stay together once you find each other? Probably not.
1 year

Are there girls who like obese men?

I ain't found any, tbf,
1 year

Are there girls who like obese men?

Bellyhangjim:
I ain't found any, tbf,


As a female feeder who lives in a culture where women overfeed their husbands and boyfriends, I find this very interesting.

You and I have been on FF for about the same time. I've run into female feeders, mutual gainers, and feedees who prefer bigger men. Sometimes, they even loudly announce it.

I've even seen entire forum threads about feedees who say they prefer me who are bigger because they tend to make better feeders.

With peace and love, are you struggling to find women who are attracted to fat men or are you having issues finding a woman that wants to be in a relationship with you? These are two different struggles with two different solutions.
1 year

Are there girls who like obese men?

Bellyhangjim:
I ain't found any, tbf,

Munchies:
As a female feeder who lives in a culture where women overfeed their husbands and boyfriends, I find this very interesting.

You and I have been on FF for about the same time. I've run into female feeders, mutual gainers, and feedees who prefer bigger men. Sometimes, they even loudly announce it.

I've even seen entire forum threads about feedees who say they prefer me who are bigger because they tend to make better feeders.

With peace and love, are you struggling to find women who are attracted to fat men or are you having issues finding a woman that wants to be in a relationship with you? These are two different struggles with two different solutions.


Finding a lady, there is plenty of fake don't find many for real that just like a larger guy, especially off the peg pre-fattened
1 year

Are there girls who like obese men?

Bellyhangjim:
I ain't found any, tbf,

Munchies:
As a female feeder who lives in a culture where women overfeed their husbands and boyfriends, I find this very interesting.

You and I have been on FF for about the same time. I've run into female feeders, mutual gainers, and feedees who prefer bigger men. Sometimes, they even loudly announce it.

I've even seen entire forum threads about feedees who say they prefer me who are bigger because they tend to make better feeders.

With peace and love, are you struggling to find women who are attracted to fat men or are you having issues finding a woman that wants to be in a relationship with you? These are two different struggles with two different solutions.

Bellyhangjim:
Finding a lady, there is plenty of fake don't find many for real that just like a larger guy, especially off the peg pre-fattened


It sounds like you aren't talking about struggling to find people who find you attractive. It sounds like you are looking for a relationship.

Is that a fair assumption?
1 year

Are there girls who like obese men?

Misterelephant88:
Maybe there are women who like obese men, but most of them are only a virtual relationship and no contact (which are very few) but they would never have a date with one in public, because of what other people would say about them, I see more men who have no problem dating a beautiful obese or chubby woman, I also noticed something sad (correct me if I'm wrong) the so-called Body Positive is more for women than men, if an obese man asks a girl out and she says no, the guy can not say to her: ``You are a fatphobe! '' they just laugh at him and nothing happens, and when it is the other way around, when a chubby girl is rejected by a guy, then society labels the man as bad and fatphobic, that's the perception I have where I live.


I am very curious as to the people you are hanging around.

Fat men and AMABs can get it. Even outside the kink, they can get it. A lot of them end up in happy, fulfilling relationships.

And yeah, fatphobes of all stripes exist, but I'm shocked you think women and AFABs have better protection than men and AMABs in this regard. Society says some of the most deplorable things about women's bodies. In fact, a woman who isn't overweight but has a bit of a belly is called all kinds of horrible things. This is compounded if she's a POCs, disabled, a mother, etc

This is not to say that men don't experience fatphobia. They do. I've seen some really vile shit that no one should even endure. However, you need to understand the difference in society between men and women to understand why things are so different.

In society's eyes, men's value is their ability to provide. Yes, he might bullied for his size, but if he can provide in other ways, he gets a pass. Being fat is a sin, so you better be useful to make up for this.

Contrast this with society's view for women. For us, our value is in being pretty and reproducing. It doesn't matter of we excell in other area. To society, if a woman is ugly, then she might as well drop dead.

There's a men's body positive movement. It's not hard to find it, but it doesn't get as much press as the female counterpart. This is because there's more shame directed at fat women than fat men.

I've seen some evil things said about fat people. However, there's a huge difference in how that hate is expressed. When a man or AMAB is fat, society wants them to hide themselves. When a woman or AFAB is fat, society wants them to die.
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