Fat experiences

Dan34:
I’m a male feeder 24 and my gf 22 weighs 317lbs and I would love for her to keep gaining but I am starting to see the health implications of the weight gain, so my question is when should I just accept how big she is and not encourage her to gain more.


Thanks in advance

Munchies:
Experienced extreme feeder here.

Ignore everything that Emitrack has told you. It is some of the worst advice that I have ever seen.

What you two need to do is sit down and talk about things. You both need to discuss the short-, mid-, and long-term goals you have for your feedist relationship. You need to discuss what her limits are, what your limits are, what kind of support she expects , and what you are capable of giving her.

Being the feeder of an extremely large, barely mobile person is not easy. The less she is able to do, the more she will depend on you. How much of yourself are you able to give? Will it have any impact on your relationship? Does she have plans if something happens to you and you are not able to give her your support?

If she isn't happy with the level of mobility she has, do not push her to lean into it. That's a terrible idea, and your relationship will suffer. In fact, as her pain gets worse, she will start to associate you with that pain. It will not end well.

I would highly encourage her to work on her mobility. If walking is too much pain for her, then she should look into aquatic exercise/therapy. The water will ease the pain in her joints and make the process far more pleasant. If she doesn't want to head to the pool since it's getting cold out, she can do sitting mobility exercises as well.

Emitrack:
I told him that communication was key, but it’s clear he wants her to gain and she wants to and we all know that with that comes reduced mobility, so yes they have to both accept and accommodate that.

Munchies:
You told him to encourage her to be less mobile. Shit like that is precisely why people hate us feeders.

Munchies:
You told him to encourage her to be less mobile. Shit like that is precisely why people hate us feeders.

Emitrack:
Well why not encourage her to be less mobile, that’s a huge part of extreme weight gain you lose mobility slowly until either you stop gaining or become immobile. They need to make that decision themselves but she’s young she can afford a quite a bit more weight before that decision has to be made

Munchies:
You told him to encourage her to be less mobile. Shit like that is precisely why people hate us feeders.

Emitrack:
Well why not encourage her to be less mobile, that’s a huge part of extreme weight gain you lose mobility slowly until either you stop gaining or become immobile. They need to make that decision themselves but she’s young she can afford a quite a bit more weight before that decision has to be made

Munchies:
Spoken like a person that's never been responsible for any kind of feedee.

There are extreme feedists that maintain mobility, and there are some that do not. But either way, a feeder that tries to push their feedee into a more vulnerable capacity is not a feeder worth having.

No matter what the feeder wants, it's ultimately speaking not up to us. The feedee has to live in their body 24/7. As such, they have the final say.

If you find a feedee who wants to be immobile/ have limited mobility and trusts you to care for them, that's great! Good for you. But if your feedee explicitly does not want to lose more mobility, then the only thing you do is help them maintain or improve their mobility. Anything else is abusive.

Dan34:
I’m a male feeder 24 and my gf 22 weighs 317lbs and I would love for her to keep gaining but I am starting to see the health implications of the weight gain, so my question is when should I just accept how big she is and not encourage her to gain more.


Thanks in advance

Munchies:
Experienced extreme feeder here.

Ignore everything that Emitrack has told you. It is some of the worst advice that I have ever seen.

What you two need to do is sit down and talk about things. You both need to discuss the short-, mid-, and long-term goals you have for your feedist relationship. You need to discuss what her limits are, what your limits are, what kind of support she expects , and what you are capable of giving her.

Being the feeder of an extremely large, barely mobile person is not easy. The less she is able to do, the more she will depend on you. How much of yourself are you able to give? Will it have any impact on your relationship? Does she have plans if something happens to you and you are not able to give her your support?

If she isn't happy with the level of mobility she has, do not push her to lean into it. That's a terrible idea, and your relationship will suffer. In fact, as her pain gets worse, she will start to associate you with that pain. It will not end well.

I would highly encourage her to work on her mobility. If walking is too much pain for her, then she should look into aquatic exercise/therapy. The water will ease the pain in her joints and make the process far more pleasant. If she doesn't want to head to the pool since it's getting cold out, she can do sitting mobility exercises as well.

Dan34:
Thank you, we have spoken about a lot of things, I do most things around the house anyway as once she gets home from work she is too tired to do anything (despite it being a desk job. She never seems to want to do anything to get moving so I will have to work on that with her I suppose.

Dan34:
I’m a male feeder 24 and my gf 22 weighs 317lbs and I would love for her to keep gaining but I am starting to see the health implications of the weight gain, so my question is when should I just accept how big she is and not encourage her to gain more.


Thanks in advance

Munchies:
Experienced extreme feeder here.

Ignore everything that Emitrack has told you. It is some of the worst advice that I have ever seen.

What you two need to do is sit down and talk about things. You both need to discuss the short-, mid-, and long-term goals you have for your feedist relationship. You need to discuss what her limits are, what your limits are, what kind of support she expects , and what you are capable of giving her.

Being the feeder of an extremely large, barely mobile person is not easy. The less she is able to do, the more she will depend on you. How much of yourself are you able to give? Will it have any impact on your relationship? Does she have plans if something happens to you and you are not able to give her your support?

If she isn't happy with the level of mobility she has, do not push her to lean into it. That's a terrible idea, and your relationship will suffer. In fact, as her pain gets worse, she will start to associate you with that pain. It will not end well.

I would highly encourage her to work on her mobility. If walking is too much pain for her, then she should look into aquatic exercise/therapy. The water will ease the pain in her joints and make the process far more pleasant. If she doesn't want to head to the pool since it's getting cold out, she can do sitting mobility exercises as well.

Dan34:
Thank you, we have spoken about a lot of things, I do most things around the house anyway as once she gets home from work she is too tired to do anything (despite it being a desk job. She never seems to want to do anything to get moving so I will have to work on that with her I suppose.

Munchies:
As someone who used to be a caregiver, I can tell you that this arrangement is not sustainable. It is a recipe for caregiver burnout and resentment.

If she is too tired to do anything after working a desk job, she needs stress management, better nutrition, or a combination of the two. My partner was 500 lbs at his highest weight and still made sure to keep things neat. It might not happen that same day, but he ensures it gets done the next day.

Obviously, you can't expect her to do the same things you do. But she should be able to do something.

Munchies:
You told him to encourage her to be less mobile. Shit like that is precisely why people hate us feeders.

Emitrack:
Well why not encourage her to be less mobile, that’s a huge part of extreme weight gain you lose mobility slowly until either you stop gaining or become immobile. They need to make that decision themselves but she’s young she can afford a quite a bit more weight before that decision has to be made

Munchies:
Spoken like a person that's never been responsible for any kind of feedee.

There are extreme feedists that maintain mobility, and there are some that do not. But either way, a feeder that tries to push their feedee into a more vulnerable capacity is not a feeder worth having.

No matter what the feeder wants, it's ultimately speaking not up to us. The feedee has to live in their body 24/7. As such, they have the final say.

If you find a feedee who wants to be immobile/ have limited mobility and trusts you to care for them, that's great! Good for you. But if your feedee explicitly does not want to lose more mobility, then the only thing you do is help them maintain or improve their mobility. Anything else is abusive.

Emitrack:
I never suggested that he do it against her will I said speak to her, but from what he said about her just wanting to sit around and binge and do no exercise to me suggests that she isn’t scared of losing mobility

Dan34:
I’m a male feeder 24 and my gf 22 weighs 317lbs and I would love for her to keep gaining but I am starting to see the health implications of the weight gain, so my question is when should I just accept how big she is and not encourage her to gain more.


Thanks in advance

Munchies:
Experienced extreme feeder here.

Ignore everything that Emitrack has told you. It is some of the worst advice that I have ever seen.

What you two need to do is sit down and talk about things. You both need to discuss the short-, mid-, and long-term goals you have for your feedist relationship. You need to discuss what her limits are, what your limits are, what kind of support she expects , and what you are capable of giving her.

Being the feeder of an extremely large, barely mobile person is not easy. The less she is able to do, the more she will depend on you. How much of yourself are you able to give? Will it have any impact on your relationship? Does she have plans if something happens to you and you are not able to give her your support?

If she isn't happy with the level of mobility she has, do not push her to lean into it. That's a terrible idea, and your relationship will suffer. In fact, as her pain gets worse, she will start to associate you with that pain. It will not end well.

I would highly encourage her to work on her mobility. If walking is too much pain for her, then she should look into aquatic exercise/therapy. The water will ease the pain in her joints and make the process far more pleasant. If she doesn't want to head to the pool since it's getting cold out, she can do sitting mobility exercises as well.

Dan34:
Thank you, we have spoken about a lot of things, I do most things around the house anyway as once she gets home from work she is too tired to do anything (despite it being a desk job. She never seems to want to do anything to get moving so I will have to work on that with her I suppose.

Munchies:
As someone who used to be a caregiver, I can tell you that this arrangement is not sustainable. It is a recipe for caregiver burnout and resentment.

If she is too tired to do anything after working a desk job, she needs stress management, better nutrition, or a combination of the two. My partner was 500 lbs at his highest weight and still made sure to keep things neat. It might not happen that same day, but he ensures it gets done the next day.

Obviously, you can't expect her to do the same things you do. But she should be able to do something.

Dan34:
I may have misrepresented what she does slightly she does some things around the house but I do big things like the weekly shop because she just can’t manage a supermarket anymore. But I really don’t mind I love her no matter what not just because of her weight

Munchies:
You told him to encourage her to be less mobile. Shit like that is precisely why people hate us feeders.

Emitrack:
Well why not encourage her to be less mobile, that’s a huge part of extreme weight gain you lose mobility slowly until either you stop gaining or become immobile. They need to make that decision themselves but she’s young she can afford a quite a bit more weight before that decision has to be made

Munchies:
Spoken like a person that's never been responsible for any kind of feedee.

There are extreme feedists that maintain mobility, and there are some that do not. But either way, a feeder that tries to push their feedee into a more vulnerable capacity is not a feeder worth having.

No matter what the feeder wants, it's ultimately speaking not up to us. The feedee has to live in their body 24/7. As such, they have the final say.

If you find a feedee who wants to be immobile/ have limited mobility and trusts you to care for them, that's great! Good for you. But if your feedee explicitly does not want to lose more mobility, then the only thing you do is help them maintain or improve their mobility. Anything else is abusive.

Emitrack:
I never suggested that he do it against her will I said speak to her, but from what he said about her just wanting to sit around and binge and do no exercise to me suggests that she isn’t scared of losing mobility

Munchies:
Do you know any fat or chubby people personally? Because that response makes it sound like you don't.

She is in a lot of pain when she moves, and food makes her happy. It's not about her lack of fear about losing her mobility. She's taking the path of least resistance while pretending nothing bad will happen. This is extremely common behavior in and out of fat fetish spaces.

And don't act like you didn't say that because you did. And then you said that health issues are sexy anyway. My reading comprehension exceeds that of a 6th-grade level, beloved.

Munchies:
You told him to encourage her to be less mobile. Shit like that is precisely why people hate us feeders.

Emitrack:
Well why not encourage her to be less mobile, that’s a huge part of extreme weight gain you lose mobility slowly until either you stop gaining or become immobile. They need to make that decision themselves but she’s young she can afford a quite a bit more weight before that decision has to be made

Munchies:
Spoken like a person that's never been responsible for any kind of feedee.

There are extreme feedists that maintain mobility, and there are some that do not. But either way, a feeder that tries to push their feedee into a more vulnerable capacity is not a feeder worth having.

No matter what the feeder wants, it's ultimately speaking not up to us. The feedee has to live in their body 24/7. As such, they have the final say.

If you find a feedee who wants to be immobile/ have limited mobility and trusts you to care for them, that's great! Good for you. But if your feedee explicitly does not want to lose more mobility, then the only thing you do is help them maintain or improve their mobility. Anything else is abusive.

Emitrack:
I never suggested that he do it against her will I said speak to her, but from what he said about her just wanting to sit around and binge and do no exercise to me suggests that she isn’t scared of losing mobility

Munchies:
Do you know any fat or chubby people personally? Because that response makes it sound like you don't.

She is in a lot of pain when she moves, and food makes her happy. It's not about her lack of fear about losing her mobility. She's taking the path of least resistance while pretending nothing bad will happen. This is extremely common behavior in and out of fat fetish spaces.

And don't act like you didn't say that because you did. And then you said that health issues are sexy anyway. My reading comprehension exceeds that of a 6th-grade level, beloved.

Emitrack:
lol I weigh nearly 430lbs so don’t act like you’re the only person with experience in this fetish or dealing with fat people. Maybe rethink your level of comprehension skills because not once did I suggest do anything behind her back I said lean into it, but communicate with her. Yes I do think health issues such as breathlessness are sexy because it shows how hard you have worked.

Munchies:
Do you know any fat or chubby people personally? Because that response makes it sound like you don't.

She is in a lot of pain when she moves, and food makes her happy. It's not about her lack of fear about losing her mobility. She's taking the path of least resistance while pretending nothing bad will happen. This is extremely common behavior in and out of fat fetish spaces.

And don't act like you didn't say that because you did. And then you said that health issues are sexy anyway. My reading comprehension exceeds that of a 6th-grade level, beloved.

Emitrack:
lol I weigh nearly 430lbs so don’t act like you’re the only person with experience in this fetish or dealing with fat people. Maybe rethink your level of comprehension skills because not once did I suggest do anything behind her back I said lean into it, but communicate with her. Yes I do think health issues such as breathlessness are sexy because it shows how hard you have worked.