Fat experiences

Is a fat man a man?

eggs

Maybe. But Fatness is so androgynous for certain type of people, and for me, when I was slightly fatter, it gave me enough moobs and hips to pass as a girl multiple times. I hope regaining the weight and repeat it
2 days

Is a fat man a man?

Yall please it was a joke my lord
2 days

Is a fat man a man?

WannabeBBW91:
I’m just sayin, there’s def a masculine way to get fat. Like hello, most of the weight being in the midsection, moobs big enough to look kind of like swelled up pecs but not big enough to look like breasts, slightly thicc thighs, body hair everywhere??


Completely agree! Also: muscle chubs, dirty bulking, people who have a lot of muscle as well as fat, former athletes who maintain strength despite putting on fat and as a result have dense, solid mass to them and remain active and powerful. Simply having a bigger size and weight could be considered masculine, imo
2 days

Is a fat man a man?

Urchie:
Yall please it was a joke my lord


Jokes are supposed to be funny, i don’t care who wasn’t offended it’s like if I went to a gay person and said “youre actually just trans”. Not a joke.
2 days

Is a fat man a man?

Urchie:
Yall are such eggs

Harleen Zaftig:
Let's not shove our opinions about gender and sexuality on other people when they don't invite it, maybe? smiley

I absolutely am all about genderqueering etc, but I cringe when someone calls other people eggs or the like without them inviting it.

If you want to quietly muse about how they might be unaware they're trans, do that to yourself.

Speaking as someone who has been upset at being called an egg *while I am 100% aware that I am genderqueer*.

LGBT+ labels are delicate things, and people can explore their gender without being an "egg" or "trans" or etc etc

KlondikeBar:
While I understand people being upset with that comment. I wouldn't take it too personally. I think Urchie was just trying to be cheeky as usual. Their comments have that blunt sort of humor if I worded it right. I would just block and maybe take a break if your mental health is affected.


I have no reason to excuse it and your advice is dismissive. Just don’t call people eggs uninvited is the solution.
2 days

Is a fat man a man?

This gotta be ragebait
1 day

Is a fat man a man?

Urchie:
Yall please it was a joke my lord

Igetthejoke:
Jokes are supposed to be funny, i don’t care who wasn’t offended it’s like if I went to a gay person and said “youre actually just trans”. Not a joke.


ironic stance given your user name.

i got the joke. i thought it was funny. you didn't like the joke. that's fine too. If urchie said what you said, no, it's not funny. but they way they said it was funny.

what they said was not meant to demean, it was not said to dismiss anyone. it was not said from a position of power. it was not hurtful. it was not even directed at anyone in particular, they didn't call any single person a name. they said it to "the room."

it's even on topic, the more i think about it. we have two stances in this thread: people saying "i think fat people are more feminine, or become more femme-like as they gain," and the other side saying, "no, not true, fat can be masculine too."

you mentioned you have struggled with this, and you are working on getting to a better place by working out, which is great. kudos for you. but you may also want to more carefully examine why you feel compelled to assert your masculinity. i don't know you, but i detect your discomfort with feminine side.

i speak from experience. i spent my teens/20s as a straight man. being called gay was a perjorative term. later in my 20s i become bi. now in my 40s i am with a trans partner, and gender play is a thing. it's a journey, and it's not done yet! but i can look back at how i thought, how i saw myself and others 25 years ago, and i see how much was just me - not anyone else.

and if this discussion topic (it's a common one here on ff) is triggering, i suggest just avoiding it. if you don't like it or agree with it, i understand. if you're offended at the mention of an egg, not even specifically directed at you, fine - sometimes it's ok to be offended. but i don't think urchie was being offensive. there's a difference.

i am tending to agree with urchie on this one.
1 day

Is a fat man a man?

What the fuck kind of psycho babel nonsense is this horseshit. “You’re actually just feminine and you’re just scared” no, I understand what the fuck the endocrine system is.

Gender ideology and the trans issue had made people believe anyone can be whatever they want it is just a choice anyone is trans. This isn’t the case. This is why people fight trans nonsense. It turned from accepting people who had no choice into everyone is a purple dinosaur.
1 day

Is a fat man a man?

Morbidly A Beast:
Gender ideology and the trans issue had made people believe anyone can be whatever they want it is just a choice anyone is trans. This isn’t the case. This is why people fight trans nonsense. It turned from accepting people who had no choice into everyone is a purple dinosaur.


you lost me - who has no choice, and who is the dinosaur???
1 day

Is a fat man a man?

people are biologically male or female, people are not born into “wrong” bodies. Theres just people with psychosexual trauma and or hormone imbalances, which are transgender individuals who don’t have a choice.

The gender ideologues are the ones who believe anyone can be whatever they want there’s no distinction between male and females, hence everyone is “purple dinosaur”

I have nothing but respect for everyone, but this is fetish to some people her, it’s called sissy hypno. And I can’t help to push back on it, not everyone is into that. Every fat man every male feedeee is not secretly a woman, that is psycho babble nonsense
1 day
1234   loading