I can't believe how long it's been since I've posted on these boards.
I've always found these discussions interesting, and at this point, I'm reasonably convinced that female feeders are all over the place.
If I had to venture a guess, I'd say that probably 20% or more of women in any area are attracted to fat men to some degree, and many are also turned on by fattening a man up.
It's just that most people don't advertise their turn-ons, so it isn't usually obvious.
If you're looking for a specific 'type' of woman, you're probably going to have to date a lot of women.
Yeah, I know... It SOUNDS a lot easier than it is. We men have a built in fear of 'approaching' women we are attracted to that seems to be hardwired into our DNA.
Sometimes it'd almost seem easier walk out in front of a firing squad than to approach a woman we are attracted to, have a short conversation, and leave with her contact info.
So, when it comes to starting conversations, getting contact info, date requests, etc. you'll just need to feel the fear, and do it anyway.
Who knows, maybe It'll help to give your cojones a good soak in a vat of Miracle Grow beforehand.
I do have to say that, at the moment, I'm not actively dating or gaining for reasons I won't go into... right here, right now.
However, I have probably done more than my 'fair share' of dating, so I think what I have to say in this context has merit.
Before you even begin 'looking' you have to get very clear about what you want, what you don't want... what you are willing to accept, and what you aren't willing to accept.
The benefit to this, is that you'll be more inclined to notice women who have qualities that you want. When you encounter women who have qualities you are not willing to accept, you'll know to end things quickly.
My suggestion is to date many women at the same time. There is nothing wrong with 'seeing' several women at the same time, as long as you don't lead any of them to believe she is the only one... and when you agree to 'see' someone exclusively, don't cheat.
Most women aren't going to be what you want anyway. If you date just one woman at a time, you probably won't be moving along fast enough to find the woman you are actually looking for. Worse yet, you'll cling or commit to a woman who isn't right for you.
Since I haven't actually gone out looking for a female feeder for myself, this next part is based on my best guesses... but I think I'm pretty close to the mark.
If you want to catch the attention of a female feeder, it's probably best to flaunt your fatness and your feedeeness. (Yeah, I did just make that word up, but it works.)
Let women you date know that you're looking for someone who likes to cook... a lot. Don't be shy about eating fattening goodies, and huge portions.
If she suggests that eating 'that way' will probably cause you to put on a lot of weight, just agree and continue eating. ( Maybe say, "Yeah... probably," and then take another bite. )
If she is an feeder or an FFA, she'll probably enjoy it. If she isn't she might be upset or disgusted...
Either way, you win. If she enjoys it, she'll probably let you know in some way. If she's upset or disgusted, you've just found out that she isn't what you want, and you can move on quickly.
13 years