Submission and domination

I though about this lately...
In day-to-day life I am all about consensus, I´m actually very put off by dominant people and don´t like hierarchies. Sexually, I love to be dominant, but not openly, but in a calm and friendly way, but with a treacherous side to it. Being friendly, offering tasty goodies while contemplating how all that fat will stick on her body and how hard it will be to carry it around...
It´s not an easy combination, when I talk openly about it, the inherent double bind often causes irritation or mistrust. But that´s just the way I am wired.

If push were to come to shove (and by "shove," I mean food being shoved into my mouth), I'd say I identify as a sub feedee. Learning about all of this has been an eye (and mouth) opening experience.

I'm naturally dominant; that being said, i think handing over the reigns and being told what to do is silly fun, and I beta fairly quickly to other dominant alpha women and actually enjoy submitting to the dommes i have had the pleasure of knowing in my life. Barely switch, but still switch? And above anything else i am extremely psychologically sadistic lol!

Feedee's are sub's just by the basic def. If they True feedees, where they allow they feeder to control what they eat, how much they eat and how offen. if they willest to allow the feeder to actual feed the feedee. if they give control to they feeder. to the ways they eat or are feed.

That a sub!

Funny how a lot of people flip roles in kink vs. their daily lives. Nothing wrong with that as long as you get to be yourself when it counts.

Agreed. Wasn't that old Billy Joel song, The Stranger, sort of about this?

I feel bad for people who never figure out how to properly live out their sexual Dom/sub tendencies. I think more people have them than even understand them.

Dom.

Myself and my wife, have started to embrace the sub/dom thing in the last year, it's great fun !
I sometimes fantasise about the sub side, but in reality, I am definitely a dom. My wife is naturally sub, and I have talked about having some 'fun' with male chastity etc, even got a cage for myself, but she just doesn't seem into it at all.
I guess if you are not getting off on 'whatever it is your trying' then it is not going to appeal to you.
She really likes tame 'restriction', and sensory deprivation, and really gets off on that, and I enjoy providing it for her ;-) so I could not ever see myself being a sub in reality (even though I sometimes quite secretly like the idea of switching).

You're pretty much where I'm at. I've been known to switch between my more nurturing Daddy Dom side and my Primal damn near animalistic-mating-instinct Dom

Beeing a feeder is more of a new thing to me. But it's become part of a recent fantasy I've had which includes all three sides of me sexually (Daddy, Primal and now Feeder) of having a girl let me fatten her up and "train" her up to be Daddy's ideal "mate"

But as you've guessed, it's pretty damn hard to find a girl who'd be entirely okay with that, so here I am, trying my luck on here lol

Sub here too