General

It is not like we picked this fetish from a catalog of fetishes, isn't it?

I liked fat people since forever. It is a preference. Yes, also a fetish as a fetish is "a form of sexual desire in which gratification is linked to an abnormal degree to a particular object" in this case fat.

But you shouldn't be ashamed. You didn't pick this. It was selected for you.

Maybe whoever picked it for you could be ashamed if he cares that much.

My friend loves super skinny girls. It is also a preference and a fetish and we all are fine with it.

Some people have a preference for tall girls, some for short, some for skinny, and some for fat.

When the fetish became a serious health issue, then there is a problem. That is true for ALL other fetishes that are taken too far.

Being ashamed is letting see yourself through the eyes of others. Don't. See yourself through your own.

I'm not ashamed to be attracted to fat people- everyone has preferences, and frankly, I don't see much stigma around it from others these days. Even when I do, it doesn't come anywhere close to ruining the pleasure of meeting and dating someone I consider beautiful.
However, I do feel iffy about the fetishy aspects of my attraction, although it's mostly because I know that the vast majority of fat people aren't turned on by it themselves. Based on past experiences, I'm constantly worried that people will think I'm ONLY dating them because they're fat, or that I'm just using them for sex... and sometimes, I worry about that myself.