Fat Heidi:
Nothing to add, but I do it anyways 😉
It might be confusing but sadly true, that many who fetishize fat are indeed fat phobic. He's not worth your time but goid that he doesn't even bother to hide his real personality. Thanks god there are a lot of people out there who are able to genuinely appreciate fuller bodys *and* the person inside of it.
Startnew:
Ok, since you are the 3rd girl who says more or less the same thing, I must be trasforming into a man....
I thank you girls for your time, but I 'd like to get some guys' opinions too. As for him wasting my time: we are both in it and having fun, it's not like "I am doing it for him".
Enas:
Okay, after reading the hole thread and trying to comprehend what's going on, one thing that has come to my mind is that...
He may have poor focus cababilities. For example, when he is texting with you he might be aware of your size and thus put, more effort than usual, into being respectful about your size. I have no idea, however, about in what context he makes jokes about fat. For example, what jokes exactly are they? Is it on other people that he is friends with? Ect.
That could explain the inconsistent behavior. I don't want to get into any more stuff, as the two ladies here already have done, but... maaaybe it whould be a good thing, depending on your interests of course, to seek out a more genuine form of fun. That's if he is rightout cheating on his wife tho.
An advice I could give is that you ask him directly what's up with these jokes, hopefully he will answer honestly, but don't commit yourself that he's gonna be honest,
Anyways this thread seems to be kind of boiling. Just keep in mind that what you read doesn't always represent the intended expression of the writer! 😂
(oh and that's what emojis are for)
Thanks, finally some constructive advice. First of all: I agree that sometimes he doesn't focus, but it doesnt sound like he is faking it. Second: I agree with you that some fatfetishers overcompensate with fatphobia, but I dont think this is the case because he seems to like different kind of girls, regardless of the size. I say this because his jokes were about fiction characters, such as Peppa Pig. If he had made fun of real people I would have immediately blocked him.
Third: I am NOT having an affair, never have, never did. Harmless virtual flirting is NOT the same as having an affair. Sending each other hearts and naughty messages doesn't count. Trust me, if it did , there wouldnt be any couples still together. But anyway, my thread was NOT about judging a woman for having an affair and all that "slutshaming" was quite uncalled for.
Anyway, thanks a lot for your input. Apparently, it took a Greek Socrates to answer my thread without prejudices.
