Hello all,
I'm a first-time poster, but really do like the site and the positive attitude and confidence that everyone here seems to exude. It's truly beautiful.
However, the truth is, it makes me feel entirely inadequate and ashamed of myself. I'm sure this isn't the first time this has been posted, but I have so much trouble coming out of the 'fat closet' (a term I stole from a Supa Thick Mami rant on youtube). I know that I'm going to get hated on by everyone here that is so comfortable with their attraction to fat, but I have no other outlet.
I'm 23, very good looking, smart, and fun to be around. I'm headed to a top-20 law school next year and (despite the terrible economy) feel that I have a great career ahead of me. I have absolutely no problem meeting women, and have always dated girls that society would call 9's or 10's. I'm sincerely apologetic for such braggadocio, but I'm trying to put my predicament in perspective.
My problem: I've always been attracted to overweight women. I truly cannot remember a time when I did not find fat women sexy; they are always the subject of my sexual fantasies. I am instantly aroused by overweight women. However, I have never had the courage to allow myself to get very involved with a women of size because I am afraid of what the people around me would think. I'm incredibly ashamed about this issue, because I should be more confident.
It has reached the point where it seriously affects my relationships. I lack sexual desire towards my skinny girlfriends almost to the point of erectile dysfunction. I recently went out with an absolutely beautiful girl that borders on ssbbw, and she exudes sexuality and intelligence (she's also a total movie geek like me and we get along incredibly well). However, I've yet to bring her out with any of my friends or family; it would be an uncomfortable situation for everyone involved.
I truly feel like a monster, because I know that I'll break this girl's heart. I break skinny girls' hearts and destroy their confidence because I'm not sexually attracted to them, and I break fat girls' hearts and destroy their confidence because I am not comfortable being in a serious relationship with them.
How has everyone on this site dealt with these societal pressures? Any stories, advice, encouragement, perspective, or just the relation of stories would be so appreciated. I feel very lonely because of this, and I guess I could just use some people to talk to about it, as I'm sure it is not an unfamiliar situation. Both women and men are very welcome to offer perspective, but, lovely ladies, please don't take out your frustration with other silly men like me. I'm here as humbly as could be, and hope that you can understand that while I hate the way society sees big women, I still feel smothered by its pressures.
Thank you.
I'm a first-time poster, but really do like the site and the positive attitude and confidence that everyone here seems to exude. It's truly beautiful.
However, the truth is, it makes me feel entirely inadequate and ashamed of myself. I'm sure this isn't the first time this has been posted, but I have so much trouble coming out of the 'fat closet' (a term I stole from a Supa Thick Mami rant on youtube). I know that I'm going to get hated on by everyone here that is so comfortable with their attraction to fat, but I have no other outlet.
I'm 23, very good looking, smart, and fun to be around. I'm headed to a top-20 law school next year and (despite the terrible economy) feel that I have a great career ahead of me. I have absolutely no problem meeting women, and have always dated girls that society would call 9's or 10's. I'm sincerely apologetic for such braggadocio, but I'm trying to put my predicament in perspective.
My problem: I've always been attracted to overweight women. I truly cannot remember a time when I did not find fat women sexy; they are always the subject of my sexual fantasies. I am instantly aroused by overweight women. However, I have never had the courage to allow myself to get very involved with a women of size because I am afraid of what the people around me would think. I'm incredibly ashamed about this issue, because I should be more confident.
It has reached the point where it seriously affects my relationships. I lack sexual desire towards my skinny girlfriends almost to the point of erectile dysfunction. I recently went out with an absolutely beautiful girl that borders on ssbbw, and she exudes sexuality and intelligence (she's also a total movie geek like me and we get along incredibly well). However, I've yet to bring her out with any of my friends or family; it would be an uncomfortable situation for everyone involved.
I truly feel like a monster, because I know that I'll break this girl's heart. I break skinny girls' hearts and destroy their confidence because I'm not sexually attracted to them, and I break fat girls' hearts and destroy their confidence because I am not comfortable being in a serious relationship with them.
How has everyone on this site dealt with these societal pressures? Any stories, advice, encouragement, perspective, or just the relation of stories would be so appreciated. I feel very lonely because of this, and I guess I could just use some people to talk to about it, as I'm sure it is not an unfamiliar situation. Both women and men are very welcome to offer perspective, but, lovely ladies, please don't take out your frustration with other silly men like me. I'm here as humbly as could be, and hope that you can understand that while I hate the way society sees big women, I still feel smothered by its pressures.
Thank you.
13 years