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Standing up for yourself

Bravo. If you let slimeballs get away with it, they'll go on being that way.
12 years

Standing up for yourself

The thing that amazes me about this thread is that a girl who is a good looking as you are, has the spare time to give silly bollocks the time of day.

You must have a queue of prospective suitor vying for your time, surely?

Ok I don't know you and have not dipped into the forums that much, so I can't express a qualified opinion on how your personality comes across. You could be a crazy person for all I know (although I doubt it and even if you are, it would probably be crazy in a good way, but I digress). But, one thing I can say for certain is you obviously possess the smarts to get into college.

So as an intelligent woman ask yourself the question.

"Who would you like to spend your valuable time with?"

A ) Some silly bollocks who exhibits a quarterly loves you / hates you attitude towards you?

Or

B ) Some other chap (or chaps) who is (are) consistent in their affection for you?

Now I appreciate finding an FA is hard enough and an FA who doesn't give a monkeys nuts if his family, his friends, his acquaintances, the Pope and even his enemies know he is an FA is rarer still (almost as rare a a big girl genuinely comfortable with being a big girl, but that is my sad experience and I'm digressing again) BUT - there is a point I'm getting to, just let me remember what it was, ah there it is - don't ever forget that what ever size you are, you are a good looking girl and there will be men who find you, the whole package of you, very attractive.

So don't waste your time worrying yourself about what point in his mental merry-go-round knobjockey sal happens to be at today.

I probably could have just quoted one of the previous posters and added 'Ditto' but I kind of got carried away.

Good luck getting Mr Wrong out of your system and I hope Mr Right (or at least Mr Right Now as you are at college and, well I could tell you about my time at college but that would be another digression and I think if I make three digressions in one post I turn into a lampshade or something) walks into your life soon smiley
12 years

Standing up for yourself

XgorgedNgorgeousX wrote:
geekybibabe wrote:
Yeesh, what a total jerk.

To be charitable, he probably is genuinely conflicted. Being a young FA is hard. When all your friends have one standard of beauty, and you have another, it's not so easy. It'll be easier for guys like him when many of his friends' wives start putting on weight as they get older.

In some ways having a powerful preference for fat partners is like being gay. You can "pass" for a while by dating people your friends approve of, but that doesn't go so well in the long term...

But anyway, none of that makes him any less of a jerk.


At the same time, while it may be hard for him to come to terms with it, it is arguably much harder for people of size. Seriously, I've had people moo at me before. Most of the time peoples comments dont bother me. But sometimes it can just feel very degrading.

Like I said in my post, I wish the old message from July were saved. He said some really horrible stuff, about how I was worthless, not good enough for him, and that I was better off dead.


That's terrible, *shakes head* the only reason you should ever seek this person out again would have to be to stomp a mud-hole in his ass.

And about the random comments from strangers...I get that sometimes too. Not as much anymore, probably a side effect of being 6'6" tall. But once recently I had a couple of guys yell, "Hey fatty! McDonalds is that way!!" when I was walking back from classes the first semester at ODU. I didn't respond to them, I just turned around and stared at them until they ran way! xD
12 years