Gaining

First gaining relationship

I've been seeing a girl recently and the subject came up around her weight or more, me being an FA. We've been very open with one another about everything so I had no problem telling her.

So then the idea of her gaining on purpose came up. She said she would need to think about it. I've never been in this situation before so I'm a little lost. I'm not pressuring her to do anything she doesn't want because obviously it's a very big decision.

I was just wondering if this is a common experience, or if there's anything in particular we need to discuss if she does decide to go ahead with it?
10 years

First gaining relationship

I would let her bring it up. If you really love her without gaining, you don't want to scare her away. Make sure she knows that gaining is her choice, and that you will still love her if she decides to stop. (if that is the case)
10 years

First gaining relationship

moho91 wrote:
I was just wondering if this is a common experience, or if there's anything in particular we need to discuss if she does decide to go ahead with it?


Off the top of my head, you should discuss:

1. how big you'd like her to get;
2. how big she'd like to get;
3. what to do if she gets bigger than she likes;
4. any additional responsibilities you're willing to take on to mitigate any of the downsides she may experience being bigger.
10 years

First gaining relationship

I agree with that. I'm definitely not pushing the issue. Haven't brought it up since we spoke about it. I'll leave it with her to decide. Now I've got a bit of a better idea of what to cover if she does decide to go ahead with it.

Anything I should specifically avoid??
10 years

First gaining relationship

Small update. So we haven't had much more of a discussion about it. She seems to be having fun though. I've been getting updates on what she's eating, and making sure she's eating more. Also been giving me updates on her weight. I asked her how she feels about it and she's told me she's in control, and she wouldn't be doing it if she was uncomfortable about it.
9 years