General

I do get the occasional comment or message from an aspiring gainer. But most of my attention does tend to come from someone that wants to "get with me".

The male population massively outnumbers the female on here. Which is why I find it perplexing there isn't more male bonding and mutual support on the site. Take photo comments for instance. I leave lots of comments on other girls' photos because I think they look great, I can empathise, or because I think it's nice to give credit and encouragement where appropriate. I see other girls do this for their sistas too. I don't see as much of a spirit of camaraderie amongst the male population of the site. Especially given there are so many of them. Maybe men are (more often than women) afraid of looking "gay" if they comment appreciatively on a fellow guy's photo? I'm sure that's not true of many, I'm just hypothesising. Maybe men aren't as nurturing and empathetic therefore can't see the point of supporting each other with comments? Maybe men don't have those skills as they haven't needed to develop them given their historical dominance? Whatever. But upshot is: all the men should go and puts a friendly comment on another dude's photo today!

Interesting thoughts. I rather suspect that this may be because heterosexual men tend to prefer not to interact with or even think about other men when thinking erotic thoughts. Quite why that should be I do not know exactly, but perhaps it is related to an instinctive desire to clear competitors out of the way before actually procreating (and making oneself vulnerable in the process).

I am not sure that this has ever actually been studied properly; it would make an interesting subject of scientific endeavour.

I'm not a straight man (!) but that sounds to my ears like ingrained "backs against the wall boys"-style reluctance to see other men sexually for fear of.... whatever it is that repressed/unreconstructed hetero men are afraid of?!

However, I may be wrong (I hope I am), and if you're right, MrMan, it doesn't explain the popularity of "classic" heterosexual porn films in which there is usually some kind of stud-type guy (with or without bad hair) who is very well-endowed who is showing the lady "a good time"... Don't men enjoy seeing that because they imagine themselves in that role?

In (maybe) the same way, I like to imagine that a woman with a gorgeous curvaceous figure is me (especially if she is a bit bigger than me). So although I'm straight, appreciating other women is like a form of narcissism.

Similarly I've talked to lots of hetero men from here - especially those who have thoughts about gaining themselves - who do look at other men's pictures on here. Not necessarily using that man as an object of desire, but as someone who has a shape they aspire to, or who they just think rocks a big belly or something. (As an aside, I do find that the vast majority of male FAs and feeders I talk to also - in the end - turn out to have desires of some kind or another about gaining themselves. I come across this with monotonous regularity, haha. But that's another topic.) Some are brave/bold/secure/kind (delete as applicable?) enough to post encouraging comments on those other men's photos. But very few.

def too many men
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I'm not really an aficionado of '"classic" heterosexual porn films', so I can't really comment on that aspect of things. It's interesting that some (it seems of both sexes) look at pictures of their own sex not out of attraction to members of that sex but as a sort of erotic role model (as with you imagining that some other gorgeous curvy woman is you plus a few cakes): I've never been one for role models, so I'm not sure that I fully understand that - the human mind is intriguingly complicated and diverse. Perhaps that is the reason behind the presence of both sexes in '"classic" heterosexual porn films', although that is not always appreciated by everyone.

Elanor's suggestion that it comes from a disinclination to be seen as homosexual is plausible, although there is nothing like enough evidence to make a confident conclusion that that and nothing else is the relevant factor (and it is pertinent to ask where precisely this disinclination, be it cultural or otherwise, actually comes from and whether this ultimate cause is the direct cause of the actual behaviour under discussion).

Incidentally, at a practical level, I suspect that Theik is to some extent also correct in that there is little motive for heterosexual men to look at pictures of other men; but that returns us to the interesting and as yet unanswered question of why some people such as Foxglove like to imagine other gorgeous and even curvier women as themselves plus a few extra helpings of pudding, whereas others simply have no interest in seeing pictures of those of their own sex at all.

(Having written that, I should add that the thought of Foxglove plus a few extra helpings of pudding is a rather happy sort of thought.)

There are definitely way more men looking for women on this site than anything else. From my experience, most guys on here are creeps. I've been on here for years so I think I'd know. I just do what I have to in order to keep the creeps at bay.

I think men who want comments from other men probably just go to grommr.

I feel like the gender ratio around here is actually less unbalanced than it used to be. That's what I'm remembering based on years of sporadic chatroom lurking, at least.

The gender imbalance itself could also be responsible for why girls around here tend to keep quiet. If a girl starts talking about things that could draw attention from boys, the number of responses to that can be overwhelming (and in some cases, horrifying) to the point that she never wants to speak up again.

I really hate the fact that the general male population only wants to talk to females any way but; my opinion is its a generation attribute. More so than just gender, like guys in my age group are way more sensitizing to our bros lol. i mean I meet a guy my age on here and I can have a better conversation than some women because some have been treated so horribly by males on here for the lack of prudence for that much but yea thank god I'm a prude i may suck at approaching women but I'm not a one night stand or get it and go masterbater either.