I posted a bit about this for people in the
'how to treat other members' sticky, and it does indeed bear repeating for people:
4) Following on from above, while this site incorporates many fetishes, remember that others do not necessarily share the same fetish and/or kinks as you. For example, calling someone a 'pig' or trying to humiliate someone if they haven't actually said on their profile/pics/etc that they enjoy that, isn't a wise idea. Also they may practice their fetish in a way that is different to you.
In other words, don't launch into the 'pig' talk or insults or crudeness right off the bat with someone. Take a look at how the person describes themselves and what they have written about themselves on their profile - this should show how they like to be treated and what words they like to be used about themselves. It's not hard at all, can take minutes or seconds to do so.
If they invite humiliation and stuff, by all means go for it! It's fun - when both people are into it. Many people are not, however, and that's something that always needs to be kept in mind. Don't assume that everyone shares the same fetish and/or kinks as you.
