lifestyle tips

So i've been hanging out with this girl a fair bit: great personality, really cute. I can tell she's interested and I really like her

However, she's 5 foot tall and about 50 kilo's (slim) and like pretty much everyone here , I like my girls to have some chub: a little cushion for the pushin if you know what I'm saying ahaha

I really like her but physically I find she's just a bit skinny for me. Needs an extra 10/15 kilos, ideally. Is it unrealistic to get involved with the intention of encouraging her to gain weight/fattening her up? I mean she does seem the open minded type. If so, how do you suggest I bring this up?

Continue hanging out building a relationship that is usually the best way but still taking things slow not committing anything g to her full force so she doesn't get the wrong idea.

Not knowing your exact preference with this fetish. Do you just like a little bit chubby girls, do you like them overweight and cute or would you really like it if you found the girl like you mentioned and wish she was chubby already and would get nice and Fat over time?

Girls/women typically gain weight as they age a bit but if it is a deal breaker that this smaller and thinner girl that you like on a many levels never gets any bigger....I say tread lightly. I just know from experience that I like my women plump to overweight when I was a bit younger and that has only gone up as I aged as well as many other guys on this site and now I like my wife Fatter and fatter....which is a good thing if your wife keeps getting fatter but if she is skinny and only gets a little chubby it leaves one craving for more and more weight.

So knowing what I know now.....my wife happens to be heavier than I thought I wanted or liked many years ago....but currently she is probably 100 lbs. less than I would love to see on her figure.
Keeping in mind I used to think chubby to chunky girls were my ideal....my taste has certainly gone up and up and up over the years....just so Ethan g to honk about.

Totally agree. You gotta say it. In whatever way feels best. It's hard I've been there. I'm very open about my attraction to Big girls so there's that base going into any relationship.

I struggle with sharing the feederism parts the most. That's been reveled to less then half my partners and only slightly indulged with one. (It wasn't her kink at all) our relationship didn't end because of it, but many other things. Long story short.

If you have a "base weight" or size preferences of a woman that you wish to be with maybe shoot for girls like that?

Idk I'm just thinking out loud here.

If you do this against her will, or without telling her you are a garbage human being. If shes not into gaining or anything like that then Id say this would be almost as bad as rape. So take that for what its worth.

You can talk to her, tell her your interests and if shes into it and wants to try it- Then great! But you also cant brow beat her or guilt her into to it.

If you have a "base weight" or size preferences of a woman that you wish to be with maybe shoot for girls like that?

Idk I'm just thinking out loud here.[/quote]


This sounds like simple advice.....but
it is totally true. You should look for women that are heavier and attractive first and then see about the many other characteristics as you get to know them. It should be kind of easy because what generally attracts most guys or girls for to the opposite sex is the physical first and then you can find out all the other important stuff you are looking for.
So aim "not high". .......but heavy!

Don't let what could be a great love or great friend slip away!

Our physical "ideals" are only part of the formula for a successful relationship.

Years ago, I, like you, met someone who was perfect in every way -- except way way too thin. But we could talk and laugh for hours.

Fortunately for me, once she was in a long-term relationship with me, she gained a bit and that was wonderful! But even if she hadn't, I can't imagine not having been with her.

See what you can do to hang on to her. I don't think you will regret it.

The other suggestions here of waiting and seeing if she gains weight and possibly introducing "foodplay" and weight gain to sexuality, all those are good.

No matter what, however, don't give up on her because of her appearance. There is much more to the human sexual experience than just the visual.

Besides, we will all change over time, grow fat, grow thin, grow wrinkly, grow bald, whatever. The ability to see past appearance to that shining wonder inside her eyes, to the esssence of her soul, that is much more precious than a few extra pounds on her.

Best to you.

Be completely open and honest up front.

I'm into BHM's, but I started dating my bf when he was ripped because I loved his personality. I told him about my fetish and he was actually really accepting and wanted to gain some weight. I would just tell her what you're interested in and see what she thinks, but don't pressure her to be involved in your fetish if she does not want to be. Maybe she will open up to you too? Good luck

I eliminate guys who are not feedees and wanting to get huge as potential bfs. Yes, it limits my dating pool, but I'm not going to spend my life miserable with a thin guy, or a BHM who's not a feedee.

I learned this lesson the hard way after like ill-advisedly trying to to maintain a relationship with a woman who called me a "freak" and told me I "needed help" when I explained to her that I'm a feedee.

Never again will I date a non-feeder. Partially because, like you said, it's not worth the pain. Partially also because now I *am* dating a feeder that I'd better put a ring on, because I'll probably be 500 lbs by like 2019 >_>

If I were to put myself in her situation, I would prefer if you waited a bit until the relationship has become a bit more serious. Tell her that there is something that has been on your kind for a while (try not to make her worry too luch though ^^) and explain it to her. Try to phrase it in a way that doesn't seem to foreceful and that makes it clear that this is what you like but that the choice lies with her..

Don't say anything out right away...
Even people who are really confident in their bodies, don't mind being chubby, and would actually start to enjoy getting fat, generally feel really uncomfortable if a lover just tells them about getting them fatter too soon.

The real way to tell is if you start to get intimate with each other, just rub her belly!

From my experience, you can tell right away.
Some women are really uncomfortable when you touch their tummies while making out.
"No, not there." "How about somewhere else." "I don't like that part of my body."
You know right away she won't gain weight for you, and even if she does inadvertently she'll be unhappy about it. You'll have to look for someone else, or just accept that her body size is smaller and just be happy as-is. I'm all about body acceptance, and skinny people deserve it too.

But...
"Please rub a little harder." "That feels so good I could just fall asleep in your arms." "You never rub my tummy enough!"

You can tell right away who will enjoy getting fat with you and who won't. You don't even need to say a word about it anytime soon. Even if you later confess to them you want them to get bigger and they feel awkward about it...
the belly doesn't lie!

Even if you find the right sort of person, it happens in stages.
FROM MY EXPERIENCE:

HER: "Rub my belly, it feels so good."
YOU: "Wow, you're really fat!"

HER reply stage 1: "Shut up! No I'm not, I'm just curvy! Why would you say something like that!"

HER reply stage 2: "Yeah, I guess I really am too large to deny it..."

HER reply stage 3: "Ohhh, feeling my belly jiggle makes me sooo sleepy...
Hey, could you go out and get me some ice cream fast? I need something to eat before I fall asleep. Get three servings!"

You seem to be thinking too far ahead as you aren't even dating her yet!
If you end up dating, you should enjoy the relationship as it is and if you cant look the past the weight and enjoy her without the weight , it probably isn't worth trying to introduce gaining to her!

But good luck!!

Dude, if you like her, you like her...don't turn her into a tool for your fetish or kink. If it ever gets to a point where you're comfortable talking about this kind of thing, just bring it up. Missing out on a good opportunity to spend time with a PERSON who you like [this is very important], then you can maybe begin to explore the kink TOGETHER. Keep that in mind. Otherwise, good luck, man!