Maltesepigeon:
I’m new here but I’m hoping I can get some constructive feedback. Two years ago I discovered my husbands feeding fetish. He is deeply closeted about it. I immediately got on board and have been a happy feedee ever since. No matter how encouraging, understanding, and enthusiastic I am, he still refuses to open up completely. The other day I was being a little extra, trying to get him in the mood (we are trying to get pregnant) and he made some heated comments that implied he doesn’t like how much I’ve become involved in his fetish. I mean I guess if he wants to keep that part of his sexuality to him individually, then I’m the one who needs to get over it. But I’m kind of hooked now and all I want to do is please him.
We don't know how old he is, how long he's been aware of this, personality, etc.
Another very important question is how exactly, did you learn this about him? This is a very pertinent question. There's a world of difference between going through his computer, mobile phone, and/or diary and confronting him, as opposed to somehow getting him to voluntarily talk about it with you. I also wonder how that conversation took place, how recent it was, whether he felt grilled and pressured, finally revealing it out of exasperation.
I also wonder if he perhaps still feels intense guilt, or self denial.
It took me a long time to admit this to myself. First that I really do very much prefer BBWs or folks who are becoming one, and later on, especially when they do so on purpose.
For now, I recommend trying to continue to be patient. Maybe he's still trying to come to terms with it, not the easiest thing to do.
