Lifestyle tips

Her mother fat shamed her growing up which is giving her struggles with getting into feederism. She has confirmed she really does want this. Any advice on helping her get over her past and become a feedee?

Make it an open subject of talk. Explore the subject with her, her feelings about it, her fears, her shames. Work on it.

There is a huge gap between emotions and what we think about them. Intellectually we can decide "this doesn't mater" but our feelings can still stand in the way. Talking it through helps uncover the often irrational logic of those feelings.

Thank you.

Thank you

I'd say to be wary that she may just be "wanting to do it" to please you and it may not make her happy. Something to just be cognizant of.

I agree with Sadie.
Talk thru it is about all you can do.

You have to put up with a lot of crap to be a feedee and gain weight. This includes crap from friends and family, job discrimination, possible health issues, limiting places you can go and things you can do. Someone who wants to be a feedee will have to want it bad enough to overcome the problems associated with it.

That is very true.
If you just think you want to gain or you have a fantasy about being fat isn't quite enough.
You have to have the will and the drive to actually do it.

Ditzy:
That is very true.
If you just think you want to gain or you have a fantasy about being fat isn't quite enough.
You have to have the will and the drive to actually do it.[/quote]

Will and drive is certainly *helpful*, but we can’t overlook the importance of care and support from others. And I don’t mean like a feeder that will *push* you, but friends and a partner (or more than one, if that floats your boat) who will support you and your happiness regardless of amount of food consumed or the direction of the numbers on the scale.

My BF at the time supported me in my gain but was not a feeder or into weight gain.
My parents didn't like my gain and many friends thought I was nuts.
So just one supportive person was all I had.