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Im not asexual. I have not had sex yet but, still am sexually attracted to males. I just have never been able to get turned on by porn. I have just never really under stood the appeal of it. I also really cant fantasize about porn I think because I am still a virgin and dont know what sex feels like and I also dont masturbate lol. Is this normal for anyone else?

Of course! It’s not like it’s known for being a realistic portrayal of sex or relationships. You can still want those things and not get anything out of porn.

Ok thanks for the response. I also cant fantasize about sex and get turned on. The reason for this I think is because I have never had sex and dont really know what it is like or what to expect. Is this also normal?

I mean,I’d say so.
Personally I’m not big on it either! I’m into the whole feederism thing, but the act of penetrative sex doesn’t do anything for me.

For many people, until the physical association has been made, or you've actually had the experience, visual stimulation will have minimal effect.

Consider any other dopamine ramping activity like say extreme sports. Watching a ski or downhill biking or skate video triggers memories of the interactive process and hence affects your mood far more if you have had a similar experience to the activity being viewed.

The same is true for war films.

Before a tour of duty, and particularly if that tour saw a fire fight, you will have a very different reaction to the fire fight scenes in screen to just the normal ramp in adrenaline from a person without closer associative memories of similar events.

How do you respond to reading erotica?

If your own imagination of erotic moments bring arousal and further to that, stimulated visualisation by reading and imagining erotic moments cause you to be aroused, then it is unlikely that you are asexual.

Porn was not and is still not a massive thing for me unless it matches experiences I've had. However erotic literature or erotic real life experiences have a normal effect.

I am a heterosexual man and porn for me is what I find on FF. That turns me on - pics of dicks and pussies do not and never have.

DO you not like normal sex? Are you asexual?

yeah im not asexual? I can get turned just by looking at an attractive guy. I find it weird how people are saying that they are into feedism stuff but not normal sex. Is that common?

She keeps calling me asexual when in the past ive repeatedly told her im not and it gotten really annoying so ive stopped responding to her. Just because she identifies as asexual she feels she can throw that label on anyone and tell people how they are wrong.

That's simply not true. Asexuals can be turned on by all those things, they just don't have any innate drive to have sex. For example, someone writing about someone getting fatter can turn me on.



If not including grey asexuality, then by the definition of psychological asexuality he does not by his description demonstrate sufficient trait to be defined as wholly asexual and under definition should not be categorized as such.

Understanding that psychological terminology is not always how terms relating to sexuality are used inmodern online parlance, I assume that you are implying that he may wish to explore the idea of being in the grey scale.

This isn't a bad thing, but again given his wish to have sexual relations and that he simply doesn't enjoy graphical pornography, I fail to see the evidence for your response. Please elaborate if you have time.