Forgive me in advance; I’m a wordy. :-)
Mental health issues are a pain. I have an anxiety disorder, bipolar disorder, getting over an eating disorder, and diagnosed as being on the autism spectrum (they used to call it Aspergers but Hans Asperger was a Nazi and Nazis are icky.) I’ve had to take leaves from work here and there when my symptoms get out of control and higher doses of meds or new meds are needed. I’m still not sure if my mental health issues, besides my meds, effect my feelings surrounding gaining save for occasional bouts of anxiety when my self esteem/self image is low.
I think the distressing parts of being a feedee/gainer are worrying about what others will think, primarily that they may be concerned regarding my rapid gaining and think something is wrong. I don’t like to worry people so I tend to keep things to myself, which my friends know, hence the possibility of them being concerned. I think this stems from a need to be seen as independent and in charge, which I’m trying to work on.
Another thing is that I’m using gaining as a way to overcome a history of disordered eating and obsession with losing weight, so I still experience times where my body image is poor and I worry about what I’m doing to myself. A little while back I started a medication called Seroquel which is notorious for weight gain despite diet and exercise (it changes the metabolism and makes one hungry all the time.) Knowing that if I were to try to lose weight I’d have to eat 1000 calories or less a day due to metabolism AND do cardio daily (heck no!) reminds me that I’m just going to keep gaining and then I use the things I tell myself to remind myself the reasons why I’m doing this and why it’s okay.
I’ve never had a feeder/encourager and though I find the idea interesting and an experience I think I’d like to try, I do worry about getting too big and finding myself unable to stop. I think this is where a feeder with morals might be conflicted: when their feedee has gotten so big that they struggle with every little task and probably should discontinue gaining, but knowing the feedee will keep eating as long as the feeder keeps supplying food. It’s exciting as fantasy but in reality I can see how a feeder can be torn between the fantasy and the reality. Then again, I’m not a feeder so I can’t claim to understand how feeders think/feel, but I can see where guilt could come into play.
Hopefully that kind of speaks to your question/topic.
Mental health issues are a pain. I have an anxiety disorder, bipolar disorder, getting over an eating disorder, and diagnosed as being on the autism spectrum (they used to call it Aspergers but Hans Asperger was a Nazi and Nazis are icky.) I’ve had to take leaves from work here and there when my symptoms get out of control and higher doses of meds or new meds are needed. I’m still not sure if my mental health issues, besides my meds, effect my feelings surrounding gaining save for occasional bouts of anxiety when my self esteem/self image is low.
I think the distressing parts of being a feedee/gainer are worrying about what others will think, primarily that they may be concerned regarding my rapid gaining and think something is wrong. I don’t like to worry people so I tend to keep things to myself, which my friends know, hence the possibility of them being concerned. I think this stems from a need to be seen as independent and in charge, which I’m trying to work on.
Another thing is that I’m using gaining as a way to overcome a history of disordered eating and obsession with losing weight, so I still experience times where my body image is poor and I worry about what I’m doing to myself. A little while back I started a medication called Seroquel which is notorious for weight gain despite diet and exercise (it changes the metabolism and makes one hungry all the time.) Knowing that if I were to try to lose weight I’d have to eat 1000 calories or less a day due to metabolism AND do cardio daily (heck no!) reminds me that I’m just going to keep gaining and then I use the things I tell myself to remind myself the reasons why I’m doing this and why it’s okay.
I’ve never had a feeder/encourager and though I find the idea interesting and an experience I think I’d like to try, I do worry about getting too big and finding myself unable to stop. I think this is where a feeder with morals might be conflicted: when their feedee has gotten so big that they struggle with every little task and probably should discontinue gaining, but knowing the feedee will keep eating as long as the feeder keeps supplying food. It’s exciting as fantasy but in reality I can see how a feeder can be torn between the fantasy and the reality. Then again, I’m not a feeder so I can’t claim to understand how feeders think/feel, but I can see where guilt could come into play.
Hopefully that kind of speaks to your question/topic.
3 years