My boyfriend is currently 6 ft tall, 308 lbs and isn’t into feederism. He knows that I have a thing for fat/obese guys and weight gain, but but he wants to lose weight for health purposes (preventing diabetes). He’s accepting of my preferences, and even told me that he doesn’t plan to drop below 250 lbs, but I can’t help but feel anxious, as if I’m losing a part of him that I adore and will deeply miss. My weight preference for guys ranges between 300 lbs-400 lbs, with the 330-350 lbs range being my ideal. I just wish he’d not fall below 300. Like, losing approximately 60 lbs is so drastic. It’s upsetting to me. I love caressing his stomach and just the sight of it can easily turn me on.
I kind of hate myself for being this way. I’ve looked up posts about healthy weight gain on here and have done some research on whether it’s possible to be healthy at 300 lbs, but the fact of the matter is, it really doesn’t seem to be. I truly, deeply wish it was. A part of me wants to suggest maybe not falling below 275 lbs, but I’m afraid even that might be too big a loss. He’s just so perfect to me the way he is. I truly love him and care about his health and well-being, which makes me feel even worse about how much this is stressing me out. Maybe he won’t lose the weight quickly. Maybe he’ll eventually gain it back. Either way, I feel trapped between my sexual desire for him at this weight and my concerns for his health. I don’t know...has anyone else gone through something like this? I know that for some people it isn’t such a big deal. I would never break up with him over this, I’m just trying to figure out how to cope.
I kind of hate myself for being this way. I’ve looked up posts about healthy weight gain on here and have done some research on whether it’s possible to be healthy at 300 lbs, but the fact of the matter is, it really doesn’t seem to be. I truly, deeply wish it was. A part of me wants to suggest maybe not falling below 275 lbs, but I’m afraid even that might be too big a loss. He’s just so perfect to me the way he is. I truly love him and care about his health and well-being, which makes me feel even worse about how much this is stressing me out. Maybe he won’t lose the weight quickly. Maybe he’ll eventually gain it back. Either way, I feel trapped between my sexual desire for him at this weight and my concerns for his health. I don’t know...has anyone else gone through something like this? I know that for some people it isn’t such a big deal. I would never break up with him over this, I’m just trying to figure out how to cope.
3 years