I think it's important for feeders to examine their motivations for wanting to "keep their weight under control" in this kink. If you (a feeder) and your partner (a feedee) genuinely love the contrast, great! If they genuinely want you to be fit for them while they get fatter, also great! But if you're begrudgingly forcing yourself to stay thin because of societal expectations or internalized fatphobia it may be time to examine why society and the diet industry feel like you owe them the debt of thinness. You think fat is beautiful, right? If so, what's wrong with being ever so slightly soft?
Generally speaking, even if you and your feedee have an agreement where they want to blow up for you, any incidental weight gain on your part will probably be insignificant. But if you've examined your motivations and are still concerned about gaining, either for agreed upon aesthetic reasons or for maintaining strength as they get bigger and possibly less able to do things:
1. Keep both healthy and indulgent food in the house. That way they can load up on calorie-heavy food and you can eat with them but fill up on fruits, veg, healthy carbs like brown rice and whole grains, lean protein, and healthy fats like nuts and avocados. And feed them some healthy food too, maybe dressed up with buttery cream sauces so they get their calories in but lbh there's nothing sexy about vitamin deficiency.
2. Maintain a regimen of daily activity. This can be anything from a 20 minute walk every day to some lifting. And if it's just a light walk honestly take them with you if they want to retain their mobility. A walk is also a great opportunity to talk about whatever is on your mind, your relationship, and the future.
3. For the love of god don't work a desk job. It's menial, it's boring, you sit on your ass all day and burn less calories than if you were sleeping. And you can make more money as a bartender and also be working on those sick guns hauling kegs of beer all day.
Generally speaking, even if you and your feedee have an agreement where they want to blow up for you, any incidental weight gain on your part will probably be insignificant. But if you've examined your motivations and are still concerned about gaining, either for agreed upon aesthetic reasons or for maintaining strength as they get bigger and possibly less able to do things:
1. Keep both healthy and indulgent food in the house. That way they can load up on calorie-heavy food and you can eat with them but fill up on fruits, veg, healthy carbs like brown rice and whole grains, lean protein, and healthy fats like nuts and avocados. And feed them some healthy food too, maybe dressed up with buttery cream sauces so they get their calories in but lbh there's nothing sexy about vitamin deficiency.
2. Maintain a regimen of daily activity. This can be anything from a 20 minute walk every day to some lifting. And if it's just a light walk honestly take them with you if they want to retain their mobility. A walk is also a great opportunity to talk about whatever is on your mind, your relationship, and the future.
3. For the love of god don't work a desk job. It's menial, it's boring, you sit on your ass all day and burn less calories than if you were sleeping. And you can make more money as a bartender and also be working on those sick guns hauling kegs of beer all day.
3 years
