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Ironically I (fit guy) seem to struggle to get the interest of chubby girls... they literally never match me and never seem that interested even when I flirt irl.

Perhaps this is arrogance talking but I was quite surprised to discover this since I assumed the fact how I was fit and muscular would work to my advantage here.

I give off a friendly and open vibe as far as I know so the only thing I can think of is that perhaps me being fit is making them feel a bit daunted or insecure about their own bodies. These aren’t 500lb girls mind you, just girls who have a bit of a belly.

Of course there’s a chance they just don’t find me attractive, but it seems too extreme.

Meanwhile I seem to get a bit of attention from “gym girls” but of course it’s not worth much because I’m turned off by that body type.

So I’m wondering how you would react to a fit person showing interest in you. Would you feel unsettled? Assume they’re just desperate? Trying to lead you on? Or is their physique not really a factor?

I absolutely love fit guys. If one seems to be flirting though I just assume it is to make fun or me or a dare or realllllllly desperate! This is just in theory though because I don't think guys have actually flirted with me or been interested in me IRL since I became bigger

That’s a stereotype as well that chubby girls have more fun lol. I know skinny barbie girls who are genuinely nice and great company and I know fat girls who are boring as fuck and bitter - but I agree that many more guys actually like chubby girls than the media and society would have us think.

Several of my friends who also workout a lot have admitted that they find soft and curvy girls sexier than gym girls - that was one on one... I don’t know if they’d admit it to the group because of some silly fear of being judged.

That’s strange, I’ve found it incredibly easy to get matches/talk in real life.
Honestly just keep trying, maybe some don’t have confidence.

It’s funny cause I went viral on Facebook almost three years ago cause I made a post ranting about the very things you said lol. Every time I stepped to a BBW, their response is ALWAYS “I’ve liked you I but I didn’t think you liked me”

It’s plenty of fit guys that prefer big women. Confidence is key. Nothing turns a fit guy on more than a big woman with confidence. If you love fit guys, go for it you never know.

I had major bullying issues when I was younger so that def makes me a bit worried when talking to fit guys! I guess I need more confidence!

Same here! I love fit guys also but on the rare occasion one talks to me I also assume it’s someone being dared or desperate. Really hard for me to be confident when it has never worked out for myself :/

I guess i have a very niche preference - I’m not really into generally big girls, i go for more conventional attractive thinner/regular girls with particularly chubby bellies - so come to think of it their self esteem is probably higher because they’re still conventionally attractive in most ways. Plus it’s a rare and often temporary body type. But still, I’ve seen maybe 100 or so girls like that on dating apps and haven’t matched with a single one, meanwhile if I swipe on a thin or fit girl I’ll often match.
I’ll start focusing more on offline approaching... plus I can actually get a better idea of what they look like that way.

I think everyone deserves to feel confident in their skin regardless of their size tho of course

In all honestly, if a FIT as in musclar man is interested in me i would feel it is a joke as many are REALLY mean to us bigger ladies here in the USA. So I would remind him i am fat and avoid him ^_^

I find that disheartening, cause while I am chubby now I used to be really fit and had love for bigger ladies then too.