I wasn't quite as direct, it was more like "I'm not a fan of thin. I like pretty much all other sizes, so don't worry that I'll ever think you are too fat for me. I want you happy and healthy above everything though." It probably wasn't as coherent or concise as that, and I think was broken up over a few conversations to get the full message, but basiclly that.
At the time she'd gained maybe 15 pounds from when we'd met, and was maybe overweight by the BMI chart but nothing close to fat. But she loves food, and genetics were on my side (SSBBW and BHM parents), and from there she gained another 75 pounds over the next five years before deciding that she'd gotten too big for her comfort and losing ~20 for a while. She's been back to around that initial high a few times, lost 20-30 pounds a few times, but keeps drifting back upwards over time until she really begins to feel too fat again.
She doesn't have any fat related kinks. Her tummy is sensitive, but my playing with her fat there is no sort of turn on for her. Sure she loves her butt being grabbed, but because butt grabs feel good not because it is big and fat. Some days she feels pretty good about her looks, some days she'd like to lose fifty pounds (I always listen sympathetically, but I don't think she is in any danger of her actually losing that much, certainly not of keeping it off for long).
But she does like the lifestyle, of being able to enjoy plenty of good food. She really is a foodie, loving to explore food, make food, eat food, think about food! She appreciates that I'm perfectly happy with that, but that I also help her to stay active.
So how did it work out? Pretty well I guess. It didn't work out like in my fat fantasies, and our sexualities have never matched up perfectly, but we muddle along pretty well and life is good.
3 years