First, my condolences to xOrexOx. Losing your husband is certainly a difficult pain. I understand not wanting to dive into another relationship right away.
However, I believe sex is an important part of life for almost everyone. Masturbation can be a release, but only up to a certain point. The feel and touch of another person cannot be replaced. Add your feeder, feedee, and domination desires and I can see why you need another person.
As a person who has had the opportunity to experience casual sex, I can say it is very exciting and fulfilling. I should add that I have never just met a person and had sex. I typically meet people via the internet - Fantasy Feeder, Feabie, kik, etc. We chat for a while - get to know each other, share our likes and dislikes, and see if we seem to be a good match.
Yes, it takes time, but the results can be awesome. I had a couple of experiences where we met but it didn’t click. Some others turned into long time “friends with benefits” relationships. As was said before, be honest with want you want. Keep talking about it. You can make it work.
2 years