I’ve been with my gf for around 4 years. When we met she was around 5’4” and 140 lbs. I recall her saying at that time “Can you believe that I was 180lbs?” I think that she was subconsciously telling me that I was meeting the thin version of her.
She started to gain weight a few weeks after we met. Having had gained weight in the past myself. I’ve done a body recomposition since but at one time it was all in my belly. It took a long time to get rid of the belly because I wasn’t actively trying to. I warned her to take care of it now or it’s going to become hard much later.
I mention this because there’s a cognitive dissonance there. On the one hand she wants to be skinny and on the other hand she’s not actively trying to lose weight. If ça i had to guess I think that she’s probably around 190 lbs now. I think that she looks better and I’ve told told her so but I support her either way.
Im 5’ 9” and 185 lbs up from 174 lbs at the end of last year. We’re moving in together in a few months and I notice that she’s been ordering out Pizza a lot more then we have in the past and orders one for me. She’s also been cooking for me a lot more. The other day I mentioned on purpose that I’m at my heaviest. I don’t have a gut and if I had to put a label on it I’m chunky.
Also a family member says that I look the best that I have ever been. At my lowest in the past I was 126 lbs and usually hovered around 150 - 155 lbs. My gf said to put on weight and body fat.
The reason why I post this is because she didn’t like that her ex husband was over weight. I feel conflicted because I feel better when I’m heavier. I feel more grounded like I like having a larger behind, legs, arms etc. feel less tired, I enjoy my gf’s cooking but I recall the comments years ago when I had a belly. Some people and not all commented that I put on weight or that I was fat. I’m posting this for advice on how you deal with similar comments.
She started to gain weight a few weeks after we met. Having had gained weight in the past myself. I’ve done a body recomposition since but at one time it was all in my belly. It took a long time to get rid of the belly because I wasn’t actively trying to. I warned her to take care of it now or it’s going to become hard much later.
I mention this because there’s a cognitive dissonance there. On the one hand she wants to be skinny and on the other hand she’s not actively trying to lose weight. If ça i had to guess I think that she’s probably around 190 lbs now. I think that she looks better and I’ve told told her so but I support her either way.
Im 5’ 9” and 185 lbs up from 174 lbs at the end of last year. We’re moving in together in a few months and I notice that she’s been ordering out Pizza a lot more then we have in the past and orders one for me. She’s also been cooking for me a lot more. The other day I mentioned on purpose that I’m at my heaviest. I don’t have a gut and if I had to put a label on it I’m chunky.
Also a family member says that I look the best that I have ever been. At my lowest in the past I was 126 lbs and usually hovered around 150 - 155 lbs. My gf said to put on weight and body fat.
The reason why I post this is because she didn’t like that her ex husband was over weight. I feel conflicted because I feel better when I’m heavier. I feel more grounded like I like having a larger behind, legs, arms etc. feel less tired, I enjoy my gf’s cooking but I recall the comments years ago when I had a belly. Some people and not all commented that I put on weight or that I was fat. I’m posting this for advice on how you deal with similar comments.
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