4c. This brings me to the fourth way, which follows from the previous ones rather naturally: The only outlet for most people here is porn. Really, FF and most other such sites are not dating sites, they're porn-sharing sites with a side of social. Since most people don't find partners that are into this genre, and those that do face all of the other problems mentioned, the result is that most people only find satisfaction for this part of themselves in ways and sites like this one. This in turn creates a rather massive market for people to model and/or gain for money. The result of this is that people become used to an easy but unfulfilling substitute for what they really want and, in all honestly, will probably never have. This can (and often does) make even normal people anxious, aggressive, depressed, needy, resentful, and further out of touch with reality. Furthering the irony dramatically and depressingly is that in the internet age, by the time you're 25 porn is boring, you've seen everything you care to see more times than you care to count, and now you want to try to find a real relationship and realize that while the internet is great for finding porn when you're 12, it sucks for finding relationships, and the very fact that porn is so easy on it indirectly sees to that.
4d. The last way is the other side, which is that a tremendous amount of profiles, especially those with the most "content" and exposure, are for pay, either porn profiles, or scammer/begger profiles. (Capitalism, am I right?) Even a normal person, one interested in this genre, who is young and in college, may find it hard to resist the appeal of a little bit of modeling, even just through DMs, in exchange for praise and enough money to pay for college, esp if you are probably going to gain weight there anyway, and if college costs 50k/year. And half the stories in this genre reflect that, lol. But once you do that, you go one of two ways, either it's now a job and you lose interest in the genre, esp. due to the more ridiculous, demanding, creepy, insulting, and even dangerous customers, or you love it and gain two hundred pounds in a year and have to quit for health reasons. Either way, those people are going to find it difficult to date in a community they've been exposed to on that level - personally, I think I'd quit it within a week and never come back. (In the end, this whole genre is a really a nest of catch-22s, and this one in particular, since if you don't post a picture of yourself you don't get attention, but if do post a picture you get way too much attention, as well as DMs demanding you gain weight, do other poses, or move across the world to marry them.) Again, this goes back to the above points as well, as the people still in this genre, the long-haulers, are very often affected by the nature of never finding fulfillment. And combine all this with how many profiles, both real and fake, are asking for "food" money... and yah, few people that want to date, bbws/bhms, FAs/FFAs, feeders or feedees or foodees, are going to try dating here, and those that do don't stay. And there's really nowhere else. Feabie is worse, as far as I remember. Fetlife is a joke. Etc.
Well. That was depressing. Welcome to internet dating lol. It'll be better in 30 years, but I doubt anyone reading this gives a shit if the wild west someday gets tamed. I can offer solutions, though they're unlikely to go anywhere, such as separating the dating profile portion of sites like this entirely from rest of the site, allowing unlimited DMs on it but no pictures or video of any kind, relegating that to other services like gmail if the participants want. But then it's just a meeting site, and suffers from the same fiscal issues of all internet dating sites, namely that the better it works, the shorter the time customers pay for it. Again, I love capitalism, but it's crap for this kind of stuff, lol. Anywhere a buck can be made, it will be, and anyone that isn't willing to buy or to sell can get out of the way of industry.
4d. The last way is the other side, which is that a tremendous amount of profiles, especially those with the most "content" and exposure, are for pay, either porn profiles, or scammer/begger profiles. (Capitalism, am I right?) Even a normal person, one interested in this genre, who is young and in college, may find it hard to resist the appeal of a little bit of modeling, even just through DMs, in exchange for praise and enough money to pay for college, esp if you are probably going to gain weight there anyway, and if college costs 50k/year. And half the stories in this genre reflect that, lol. But once you do that, you go one of two ways, either it's now a job and you lose interest in the genre, esp. due to the more ridiculous, demanding, creepy, insulting, and even dangerous customers, or you love it and gain two hundred pounds in a year and have to quit for health reasons. Either way, those people are going to find it difficult to date in a community they've been exposed to on that level - personally, I think I'd quit it within a week and never come back. (In the end, this whole genre is a really a nest of catch-22s, and this one in particular, since if you don't post a picture of yourself you don't get attention, but if do post a picture you get way too much attention, as well as DMs demanding you gain weight, do other poses, or move across the world to marry them.) Again, this goes back to the above points as well, as the people still in this genre, the long-haulers, are very often affected by the nature of never finding fulfillment. And combine all this with how many profiles, both real and fake, are asking for "food" money... and yah, few people that want to date, bbws/bhms, FAs/FFAs, feeders or feedees or foodees, are going to try dating here, and those that do don't stay. And there's really nowhere else. Feabie is worse, as far as I remember. Fetlife is a joke. Etc.
Well. That was depressing. Welcome to internet dating lol. It'll be better in 30 years, but I doubt anyone reading this gives a shit if the wild west someday gets tamed. I can offer solutions, though they're unlikely to go anywhere, such as separating the dating profile portion of sites like this entirely from rest of the site, allowing unlimited DMs on it but no pictures or video of any kind, relegating that to other services like gmail if the participants want. But then it's just a meeting site, and suffers from the same fiscal issues of all internet dating sites, namely that the better it works, the shorter the time customers pay for it. Again, I love capitalism, but it's crap for this kind of stuff, lol. Anywhere a buck can be made, it will be, and anyone that isn't willing to buy or to sell can get out of the way of industry.
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