7 months
My dreams and desires have changed since i gave in
Munchies:
I had a feedee that was into extreme weight gain (like I am) and decided to get fat no matter the cost. Went from being a pretty chill guy to a man that pretty much worshipped the gains at all cost.
He was a pretty smart guy at first, but I noticed after he switched to a diet of heavy cream and fast foods, he got dumb real fast.
I'm super curious to hear more about this...
7 months
My dreams and desires have changed since i gave in
Bigdoug:
My priorities and interests and desires have changed too with getting fatter. A lit more of my life and efforts and wants and needs revolve around food these days.
Munchies:
Glad you are having fun, but I'd be careful making food your priority in most aspects of your life.
I had a feedee that was into extreme weight gain (like I am) and decided to get fat no matter the cost. Went from being a pretty chill guy to a man that pretty much worshipped the gains at all cost.
He was a pretty smart guy at first, but I noticed after he switched to a diet of heavy cream and fast foods, he got dumb real fast. He was missing huge swaths of necessary nutrients, and I couldn't get him to eat better.
Then other aspects of his professional and personal life started getting hit by his choices. I left him when it became clear he was too addicted to change.
So yeah. Have fun with the gains, but be mindful.
BigBallBellyGirl:
Agree with Munchies here. There's definitely nothing inherently "bad" about rearranging your priorities to gain, but it's important to understand A LOT will change. When I decided to regain some lost weight, I was obsessed with it. I was eating and snacking all day, every day, and if I wasn't putting food in my face, I was too bloated to function, existing in a stupor almost. Ultimately, I couldn't concentrate well while working from home, didn't want to clean, and didn't want to go anywhere unless it was to eat. While in theory that was fine (and I did pack on 100 pounds in five months), it became all there was to my life. Again, not inherently bad and certainly a personal choice, but I found I had to be more realistic. Still gaining by the way-- ten to fifteen pounds a month, which some might consider a lot -- and still eating tons of food, just had to reestablish some balance. I said that all to say, there's some merit in checking in with yourself along your journey to make sure what you're doing is still bringing you joy.
Munchies:
Yup. Consume, but don't be consumed.
Bigdoug:
Well, that’s a whole lot of assumptions and advice I didn’t ask for, based on a pretty broad, non-specific comment of mine. I don’t think my IQ has changed just because I got older and fatter; still holding the same job I had ten years ago, still with my spouse and family, interacting and enjoying my life.
Nofbar:
I don't think that was a personal attack...
Munchies:
You are correct Nofbar. It was not a personal attack at all.
If you reread what I posted Bigdoug, you will see I said be careful about prioritizing food. I didn't say that you were actively participating in such behavior.
If you look through the forums, you will see that I give this warning to a lot of users. Why? Because, unfortunately, a lot of people on this site engage in disordered eating habits in an attempt to get fat - sometimes on purpose.
If I believed you were actively engaging in disordered eating, I would be telling you to seek help instead of saying to be mindful.
BigBallBellyGirl:
Munchies, I definitely take your point as it was intended. Not everyone has the same experience. In my case, when I was at peak obsession:
- I was completely sedentary because I was constantly wildly overstuffed.
- I rejected social interaction because I didn't feel like moving.
- I was often in pain, nauseated, or constipated.
- I felt like I couldn't focus, and work suffered.
- I stopped caring about hygiene, when I had previously taken a lot of pride in my appearance as a fat woman.
Was I bad or immoral because of these things? Of course not. Will others necessarily have the same experience? No. But for me, when the obsession took over, I realized I wasn't actually happy anymore, so I adapted. I definitely didn't reverse course. In fact, I've already gained 10 lb since July 1st, and I plan to gain a lot more. My only point is that there's a benefit in checking in with yourself to see if you're happy and still enjoying what you're doing. If the answer is yes, keep going. If not, then make the changes you need to make to be happy.
My priorities and interests and desires have changed too with getting fatter. A lit more of my life and efforts and wants and needs revolve around food these days.
Munchies:
Glad you are having fun, but I'd be careful making food your priority in most aspects of your life.
I had a feedee that was into extreme weight gain (like I am) and decided to get fat no matter the cost. Went from being a pretty chill guy to a man that pretty much worshipped the gains at all cost.
He was a pretty smart guy at first, but I noticed after he switched to a diet of heavy cream and fast foods, he got dumb real fast. He was missing huge swaths of necessary nutrients, and I couldn't get him to eat better.
Then other aspects of his professional and personal life started getting hit by his choices. I left him when it became clear he was too addicted to change.
So yeah. Have fun with the gains, but be mindful.
BigBallBellyGirl:
Agree with Munchies here. There's definitely nothing inherently "bad" about rearranging your priorities to gain, but it's important to understand A LOT will change. When I decided to regain some lost weight, I was obsessed with it. I was eating and snacking all day, every day, and if I wasn't putting food in my face, I was too bloated to function, existing in a stupor almost. Ultimately, I couldn't concentrate well while working from home, didn't want to clean, and didn't want to go anywhere unless it was to eat. While in theory that was fine (and I did pack on 100 pounds in five months), it became all there was to my life. Again, not inherently bad and certainly a personal choice, but I found I had to be more realistic. Still gaining by the way-- ten to fifteen pounds a month, which some might consider a lot -- and still eating tons of food, just had to reestablish some balance. I said that all to say, there's some merit in checking in with yourself along your journey to make sure what you're doing is still bringing you joy.
Munchies:
Yup. Consume, but don't be consumed.
Bigdoug:
Well, that’s a whole lot of assumptions and advice I didn’t ask for, based on a pretty broad, non-specific comment of mine. I don’t think my IQ has changed just because I got older and fatter; still holding the same job I had ten years ago, still with my spouse and family, interacting and enjoying my life.
Nofbar:
I don't think that was a personal attack...
Munchies:
You are correct Nofbar. It was not a personal attack at all.
If you reread what I posted Bigdoug, you will see I said be careful about prioritizing food. I didn't say that you were actively participating in such behavior.
If you look through the forums, you will see that I give this warning to a lot of users. Why? Because, unfortunately, a lot of people on this site engage in disordered eating habits in an attempt to get fat - sometimes on purpose.
If I believed you were actively engaging in disordered eating, I would be telling you to seek help instead of saying to be mindful.
BigBallBellyGirl:
Munchies, I definitely take your point as it was intended. Not everyone has the same experience. In my case, when I was at peak obsession:
- I was completely sedentary because I was constantly wildly overstuffed.
- I rejected social interaction because I didn't feel like moving.
- I was often in pain, nauseated, or constipated.
- I felt like I couldn't focus, and work suffered.
- I stopped caring about hygiene, when I had previously taken a lot of pride in my appearance as a fat woman.
Was I bad or immoral because of these things? Of course not. Will others necessarily have the same experience? No. But for me, when the obsession took over, I realized I wasn't actually happy anymore, so I adapted. I definitely didn't reverse course. In fact, I've already gained 10 lb since July 1st, and I plan to gain a lot more. My only point is that there's a benefit in checking in with yourself to see if you're happy and still enjoying what you're doing. If the answer is yes, keep going. If not, then make the changes you need to make to be happy.
Very well put. In my opinion.
7 months
My dreams and desires have changed since i gave in
Munchies:
I had a feedee that was into extreme weight gain (like I am) and decided to get fat no matter the cost. Went from being a pretty chill guy to a man that pretty much worshipped the gains at all cost.
He was a pretty smart guy at first, but I noticed after he switched to a diet of heavy cream and fast foods, he got dumb real fast.
Biggerstudentbody:
I'm super curious to hear more about this...
What more is there to say than I already said?
7 months
My dreams and desires have changed since i gave in
Munchies:
I had a feedee that was into extreme weight gain (like I am) and decided to get fat no matter the cost. Went from being a pretty chill guy to a man that pretty much worshipped the gains at all cost.
He was a pretty smart guy at first, but I noticed after he switched to a diet of heavy cream and fast foods, he got dumb real fast.
Biggerstudentbody:
I'm super curious to hear more about this...
Munchies:
What more is there to say than I already said?
Just examples of what changed or what he did that led to a diagnosis of "getting dumb" I suppose. I can understand his physical abilities degrading as he put on weight but I suppose I don't understand his mental ones degrading so fast.
7 months
My dreams and desires have changed since i gave in
Munchies:
I had a feedee that was into extreme weight gain (like I am) and decided to get fat no matter the cost. Went from being a pretty chill guy to a man that pretty much worshipped the gains at all cost.
He was a pretty smart guy at first, but I noticed after he switched to a diet of heavy cream and fast foods, he got dumb real fast.
Biggerstudentbody:
I'm super curious to hear more about this...
Munchies:
What more is there to say than I already said?
Biggerstudentbody:
Just examples of what changed or what he did that led to a diagnosis of "getting dumb" I suppose. I can understand his physical abilities degrading as he put on weight but I suppose I don't understand his mental ones degrading so fast.
It makes perfect sense. You think and make decisions with your brain. Your brain is an organ that needs the proper nutrition to function. He wasn't getting that.
Remember, he was living off of heavy cream and fast food. These are not know for being bastions of nutritional wellbeing. On top of all that, too much fat in your diet can lead to nutritional malabsorption and too much sugar and/or salt causes brain fog.
And that's not even considering how he got addicted to rapid gaining. So he really wasn't making good decisions.
You might have noticed from my posts, but I'm a huge nerd. I like to learn, and I have a sizable repository of knowledge. My friends and family call me a walking encyclopedia. It was exciting when we first met because he could keep up with me mentally. We had a number of intellectually stimulating conversations.
It was great.
However, once he got hooked on rapid, intense gaining, it got harder and harder to hold a conversation with him about anything. The whit I'd admired was long gone, and I hated it. He also made a number of reckless decision that put him into precarious situations in his regular life.
I was scared for him. I tried to help him any way I could. I even tried to get him to eat better and go back to enjoying the things he used to enjoy. But nothing I did or said could get through to him.
So, eventually, I had to walk away.
7 months
My dreams and desires have changed since i gave in
Munchies:
I had a feedee that was into extreme weight gain (like I am) and decided to get fat no matter the cost. Went from being a pretty chill guy to a man that pretty much worshipped the gains at all cost.
He was a pretty smart guy at first, but I noticed after he switched to a diet of heavy cream and fast foods, he got dumb real fast.
Biggerstudentbody:
I'm super curious to hear more about this...
Munchies:
What more is there to say than I already said?
Biggerstudentbody:
Just examples of what changed or what he did that led to a diagnosis of "getting dumb" I suppose. I can understand his physical abilities degrading as he put on weight but I suppose I don't understand his mental ones degrading so fast.
Munchies:
It makes perfect sense. You think and make decisions with your brain. Your brain is an organ that needs the proper nutrition to function. He wasn't getting that.
Remember, he was living off of heavy cream and fast food. These are not know for being bastions of nutritional wellbeing. On top of all that, too much fat in your diet can lead to nutritional malabsorption and too much sugar and/or salt causes brain fog.
And that's not even considering how he got addicted to rapid gaining. So he really wasn't making good decisions.
You might have noticed from my posts, but I'm a huge nerd. I like to learn, and I have a sizable repository of knowledge. My friends and family call me a walking encyclopedia. It was exciting when we first met because he could keep up with me mentally. We had a number of intellectually stimulating conversations.
It was great.
However, once he got hooked on rapid, intense gaining, it got harder and harder to hold a conversation with him about anything. The whit I'd admired was long gone, and I hated it. He also made a number of reckless decision that put him into precarious situations in his regular life.
I was scared for him. I tried to help him any way I could. I even tried to get him to eat better and go back to enjoying the things he used to enjoy. But nothing I did or said could get through to him.
So, eventually, I had to walk away.
Thank you for elaborating. Sorry you had to go through all that.
7 months
My dreams and desires have changed since i gave in
Munchies:
I had a feedee that was into extreme weight gain (like I am) and decided to get fat no matter the cost. Went from being a pretty chill guy to a man that pretty much worshipped the gains at all cost.
He was a pretty smart guy at first, but I noticed after he switched to a diet of heavy cream and fast foods, he got dumb real fast.
Biggerstudentbody:
I'm super curious to hear more about this...
Munchies:
What more is there to say than I already said?
Biggerstudentbody:
Just examples of what changed or what he did that led to a diagnosis of "getting dumb" I suppose. I can understand his physical abilities degrading as he put on weight but I suppose I don't understand his mental ones degrading so fast.
Munchies:
It makes perfect sense. You think and make decisions with your brain. Your brain is an organ that needs the proper nutrition to function. He wasn't getting that.
Remember, he was living off of heavy cream and fast food. These are not know for being bastions of nutritional wellbeing. On top of all that, too much fat in your diet can lead to nutritional malabsorption and too much sugar and/or salt causes brain fog.
And that's not even considering how he got addicted to rapid gaining. So he really wasn't making good decisions.
You might have noticed from my posts, but I'm a huge nerd. I like to learn, and I have a sizable repository of knowledge. My friends and family call me a walking encyclopedia. It was exciting when we first met because he could keep up with me mentally. We had a number of intellectually stimulating conversations.
It was great.
However, once he got hooked on rapid, intense gaining, it got harder and harder to hold a conversation with him about anything. The whit I'd admired was long gone, and I hated it. He also made a number of reckless decision that put him into precarious situations in his regular life.
I was scared for him. I tried to help him any way I could. I even tried to get him to eat better and go back to enjoying the things he used to enjoy. But nothing I did or said could get through to him.
So, eventually, I had to walk away.
Biggerstudentbody:
Thank you for elaborating. Sorry you had to go through all that.
It is what it is. But stuff like this is why I am a huge proponent of balancing your health with enjoying this fetish. I see post after post on FF deifying kink at the expense of all else. People destroy their lives and encourage others to do the same all in the name of this fetish.
It's terrifying to see.
I know that most of these people are like this out of ignorance which is why I can't help but say something. You can enjoy this fetish - even the extreme parts of it. But you don't have to throw away your quality of life to do it. It's all about finding your balance.
7 months
My dreams and desires have changed since i gave in
Munchies:
I had a feedee that was into extreme weight gain (like I am) and decided to get fat no matter the cost. Went from being a pretty chill guy to a man that pretty much worshipped the gains at all cost.
He was a pretty smart guy at first, but I noticed after he switched to a diet of heavy cream and fast foods, he got dumb real fast.
Biggerstudentbody:
I'm super curious to hear more about this...
Munchies:
What more is there to say than I already said?
Biggerstudentbody:
Just examples of what changed or what he did that led to a diagnosis of "getting dumb" I suppose. I can understand his physical abilities degrading as he put on weight but I suppose I don't understand his mental ones degrading so fast.
Munchies:
It makes perfect sense. You think and make decisions with your brain. Your brain is an organ that needs the proper nutrition to function. He wasn't getting that.
Remember, he was living off of heavy cream and fast food. These are not know for being bastions of nutritional wellbeing. On top of all that, too much fat in your diet can lead to nutritional malabsorption and too much sugar and/or salt causes brain fog.
And that's not even considering how he got addicted to rapid gaining. So he really wasn't making good decisions.
You might have noticed from my posts, but I'm a huge nerd. I like to learn, and I have a sizable repository of knowledge. My friends and family call me a walking encyclopedia. It was exciting when we first met because he could keep up with me mentally. We had a number of intellectually stimulating conversations.
It was great.
However, once he got hooked on rapid, intense gaining, it got harder and harder to hold a conversation with him about anything. The whit I'd admired was long gone, and I hated it. He also made a number of reckless decision that put him into precarious situations in his regular life.
I was scared for him. I tried to help him any way I could. I even tried to get him to eat better and go back to enjoying the things he used to enjoy. But nothing I did or said could get through to him.
So, eventually, I had to walk away.
Biggerstudentbody:
Thank you for elaborating. Sorry you had to go through all that.
First off, I think it is a very good choice to leave a relationship that no longer meets your needs. People change (or don’t) at different rates and in different directions and may become incompatible over time. So sometimes you have to call it quits for everybody’s sake and well-being.
However, no one outside of a relationship can ever be an accurate judge of what goes on between two people. Heck, most of the time not even the people in the relationship can do that, since we really only can see things from our own point of view. I would be very curious how your ex would describe his side and experience of that relationship. My suspicions are that his “cognitive decline” may be less linked to a high-fat diet maybe more to depression (?), ceasing to make an effort to impress you ( as people are prone to do at the beginning of a relationship) or other factors we have no idea about. Nutritionally speaking, the brain needs fat to function ( and unlike other parts of your body) it’s not too picky about where that comes from. Brain function is much more negatively impacted by an extremely low fat diet than the other way around. Please, this is not to say, that your ex didn’t change or that his eating habits were ideal, I was not there to judge that, however, these changes may have had other causes.
7 months
My dreams and desires have changed since i gave in
Biggerstudentbody:
I'm super curious to hear more about this...
Munchies:
What more is there to say than I already said?
Biggerstudentbody:
Just examples of what changed or what he did that led to a diagnosis of "getting dumb" I suppose. I can understand his physical abilities degrading as he put on weight but I suppose I don't understand his mental ones degrading so fast.
Munchies:
It makes perfect sense. You think and make decisions with your brain. Your brain is an organ that needs the proper nutrition to function. He wasn't getting that.
Remember, he was living off of heavy cream and fast food. These are not know for being bastions of nutritional wellbeing. On top of all that, too much fat in your diet can lead to nutritional malabsorption and too much sugar and/or salt causes brain fog.
And that's not even considering how he got addicted to rapid gaining. So he really wasn't making good decisions.
You might have noticed from my posts, but I'm a huge nerd. I like to learn, and I have a sizable repository of knowledge. My friends and family call me a walking encyclopedia. It was exciting when we first met because he could keep up with me mentally. We had a number of intellectually stimulating conversations.
It was great.
However, once he got hooked on rapid, intense gaining, it got harder and harder to hold a conversation with him about anything. The whit I'd admired was long gone, and I hated it. He also made a number of reckless decision that put him into precarious situations in his regular life.
I was scared for him. I tried to help him any way I could. I even tried to get him to eat better and go back to enjoying the things he used to enjoy. But nothing I did or said could get through to him.
So, eventually, I had to walk away.
Biggerstudentbody:
Thank you for elaborating. Sorry you had to go through all that.
Bigdoug:
First off, I think it is a very good choice to leave a relationship that no longer meets your needs. People change (or don’t) at different rates and in different directions and may become incompatible over time. So sometimes you have to call it quits for everybody’s sake and well-being.
However, no one outside of a relationship can ever be an accurate judge of what goes on between two people. Heck, most of the time not even the people in the relationship can do that, since we really only can see things from our own point of view. I would be very curious how your ex would describe his side and experience of that relationship. My suspicions are that his “cognitive decline” may be less linked to a high-fat diet maybe more to depression (?), ceasing to make an effort to impress you ( as people are prone to do at the beginning of a relationship) or other factors we have no idea about. Nutritionally speaking, the brain needs fat to function ( and unlike other parts of your body) it’s not too picky about where that comes from. Brain function is much more negatively impacted by an extremely low fat diet than the other way around. Please, this is not to say, that your ex didn’t change or that his eating habits were ideal, I was not there to judge that, however, these changes may have had other causes.
I'm super curious to hear more about this...
Munchies:
What more is there to say than I already said?
Biggerstudentbody:
Just examples of what changed or what he did that led to a diagnosis of "getting dumb" I suppose. I can understand his physical abilities degrading as he put on weight but I suppose I don't understand his mental ones degrading so fast.
Munchies:
It makes perfect sense. You think and make decisions with your brain. Your brain is an organ that needs the proper nutrition to function. He wasn't getting that.
Remember, he was living off of heavy cream and fast food. These are not know for being bastions of nutritional wellbeing. On top of all that, too much fat in your diet can lead to nutritional malabsorption and too much sugar and/or salt causes brain fog.
And that's not even considering how he got addicted to rapid gaining. So he really wasn't making good decisions.
You might have noticed from my posts, but I'm a huge nerd. I like to learn, and I have a sizable repository of knowledge. My friends and family call me a walking encyclopedia. It was exciting when we first met because he could keep up with me mentally. We had a number of intellectually stimulating conversations.
It was great.
However, once he got hooked on rapid, intense gaining, it got harder and harder to hold a conversation with him about anything. The whit I'd admired was long gone, and I hated it. He also made a number of reckless decision that put him into precarious situations in his regular life.
I was scared for him. I tried to help him any way I could. I even tried to get him to eat better and go back to enjoying the things he used to enjoy. But nothing I did or said could get through to him.
So, eventually, I had to walk away.
Biggerstudentbody:
Thank you for elaborating. Sorry you had to go through all that.
Bigdoug:
First off, I think it is a very good choice to leave a relationship that no longer meets your needs. People change (or don’t) at different rates and in different directions and may become incompatible over time. So sometimes you have to call it quits for everybody’s sake and well-being.
However, no one outside of a relationship can ever be an accurate judge of what goes on between two people. Heck, most of the time not even the people in the relationship can do that, since we really only can see things from our own point of view. I would be very curious how your ex would describe his side and experience of that relationship. My suspicions are that his “cognitive decline” may be less linked to a high-fat diet maybe more to depression (?), ceasing to make an effort to impress you ( as people are prone to do at the beginning of a relationship) or other factors we have no idea about. Nutritionally speaking, the brain needs fat to function ( and unlike other parts of your body) it’s not too picky about where that comes from. Brain function is much more negatively impacted by an extremely low fat diet than the other way around. Please, this is not to say, that your ex didn’t change or that his eating habits were ideal, I was not there to judge that, however, these changes may have had other causes.
For someone who said "no one outside of a relationship can ever be an accurate judge of what goes on between two people" you sure do seem intent on not believing what I have to say.
I'm not going to go into every little detail about what did and didn't happen with him. There is a difference between talking about my experiences and giving out his personal business. That said, he was not depressed. I am intimately familiar with depression as I have had chronic depression for a number of years. He had none of the symptoms.
Also, him having a high fat diet was not the problem. As I said, very explicitly, he was living off of heavy cream shakes, junk food, and nothing else. He was not getting the nutrition he needed to function.
Again, it was not the fat. It was the malnutrition. The high fat in his diet simply amplified the issue. Diets high in fat can least to nutritional malabsorption. If you are already malnourished, this makes a bad problem worse. Eating too much fat blocks the intestines from efficiently absorbing the nutrients from the food you ate.
7 months
