Slixxx666:Has anyone been involved with a feedee/partner/wife/husband who got cold feet?
Yes.
Slixxx666:Why partner is feeling unsure now after almost 3 years.
Only she knows why she is unsure, but no matter the reason, loving her means respecting how she feels about such an important decision about her body that will have lasting consequences, thus understanding that it is wholly her decision to make.
Slixxx666:I love her but she weighs 455lbs. I love her but she is also almost 500.
The way this is phrased -- both times -- sounds like your love for her is being hindered by said weight due to the "but" in there.
Slixxx666:Should I lay off or just make her a half ton
Again, loving her means respecting how she feels about such an important decision about her body that will have lasting consequences, thus understanding that it is wholly her decision to make.
Slixxx666:I mean in all honesty she can barely sit up.
Why does this matter?
Slixxx666:I don’t think she thought we’d take it this far.
Her not thinking it would be taken that far inherently means she hadn't thought this out and come to a decision about it yet.
Slixxx666:I think like it or not she will love being 500.
Firstly, it's wholly her decision to make. Secondly, if she doesn't like it, she definitely doesn't love it.
Slixxx666:I asked for advice. Not opinions.
Advice is by definition an opinion.