ForeverFFA:
Not to get off topic, but the distinction I've often heard is that all fetishes are kinks (along the lines of Munchies' definition), but fetishes feel more obligatory to the person who has them.
Not to get off topic, but the distinction I've often heard is that all fetishes are kinks (along the lines of Munchies' definition), but fetishes feel more obligatory to the person who has them.
To add to this, let me describe how it feels to have my brand of fetish:
There is a group of vtubers called Phase Connect, that is infamous for having dysfunctional girls who like dudes (mostly), but are so inept some call them femcels. Some of them blame the character, but some of their stories are more true than not. I would gladly date any of the girls behind the character, because I'm almost certain once they're comfortable with someone like me, at least I won't be bored. They might be insane enough to shank me from schizo delusions while I sleep, but if someone like Pipkin Pippa was my type, I'd gladly do crossfit, put on a blonde wig, and put on the dang Colress costume so she could have a good time too as I'm cosplaying as her husbando. (For reference, that is her fetish)
But, whenever looking at her character, even if she had D cup breasts, I'm flat as a board. She would at least need to be chubby for me to feel horny, and I'd like for her to be comfortable with it too. Even if the person behind the character was uglier and older than the character, that would be the only way to feel something aside from morning wood, and other cheat codes. If there was a halfway compromise where I'd have to be the gainer/feedee to be turned on, she'd probably find it to be gross enough where she'd end the relationship.
Nofap did little for me, for those who said to porn detox. Could barely last a week. If I had a girlfriend, I would happily practice monogamy since there's a lot of creative solutions these days, but living alone without a hole-in-one in golf would be a fate worse than death. I'm working on self-bettering myself and I don't have to give up everything to cope with my life, but if I became impotent, *man* would it suck. All of my old hobbies don't feel the same, and forming new ones is pain.
tl;dr Having low standards will not save you from dying alone.
6 months