ForeverFFA:
I saw my therapist for something else entirely but eventually brought it up. Best decision of my life, and is the only reason I got the courage to be here now and to tell my partner. If they're kink friendly, I can't imagine a problem.
This is heart-warming! I'm so glad that you found someone who can listen to you and can be supportive of your effort to live your best life!
I agree that it can be awkward at first to bring it up with a therapist - when I first started discussing it, I asked if it was okay to discuss body image, fat positivity, and sexual kink because weight and fat and sexuality topics often contain potential triggers for people - even with therapists. (A good therapist should be able to separate their therapist-self from their own personal beliefs and phobias, but they're still human beings. A fat-phobic therapist might find it very difficult to help you with fat-positive intentions and goals.)
It has been so helpful for me, though, to discuss my feelings, frustrations, and physical/mental outlook with them, though. I was fortunate to have someone who is very understanding and has been able to work with me on how to cope with the potential mental drawbacks of getting and being fat.
For example, my therapist will often ask me if my kink is:
A. Helping me with - or getting in the way of - my overall happiness and positive mental outlook on life.
B. Causing me any personal harm physically, mentally, and/or emotionally - including any physical effects due to added weight. If my blood pressure skyrockets, for example, then is that effect something that will negatively hold me back from other things I want to do?
C. Interfering with or supporting my relationship and life goals?
Highly recommend! I can't stress enough how much having someone who is not a stranger on the internet who can listen objectively and then help clarify my own thoughts.