Fantasy Feeder

Blackmail and force feeding

I've also written one like this, after I read a story on here with a similar idea about a decade ago. Still a favorite! Especially in a work setting, oh boyyyy can be a lot of fun!

2 weeks

LoraDayton

UnbredHeifer:
Current fantasy that I actually would not be upset if it became reality...

Imagine being nervous about gaining weight. Maybe you have played a bit and gained a little. Or you're testing that first few lbs. Or maybe you have actually gotten notably chubbier but you're afraid of getting any bigger...

Now imagine an understanding feeder. 'Of course you don't have to get any bigger! You can absolutely stay this size... but I won't allow you to lose any of the weight you already have.'
You are weighed each week and the weights are logged. Maintenance is acceptable. 180 lbs last week and still 180 lbs this week? Nothing wrong with that ☺️ Maybe you enjoyed a nice stuffing during the week - you do like feeling your stomach full to the brim after all - and you ended up a lb heavier at 181. Hey, that's cool! Gaining isn't required but it perfectly fine with your feeder! 😁 But... now that 181 is your new minimum.
So when you weigh in next week at 180 again? Oh no... that's not allowed. You are NOT to lose whatever belly you already have!
You are punished. Maybe you are subject to belly smacks until it turns red. Maybe you are made to wear your 'thin' (too small) clothes since you think you're going to be slim(er) now.
And then, afterwards, you are force fed. You are *going* to regain that lost weight. And you'd better hope that force feeding doesn't overshoot you heavier than 181 or else you will find yourself with a new minimum weight you can't go under.

I don't usually quote-reply a whole post when it's just "hell yeah!" but ALL of this (less the impact play!) is right up my alley!

I'm not a gainer, though I am still a very sub and obedient-type feedee, and I've actually had dynamics sort of like this.

Weighing is a trigger for me and thus a hard limit, but measuring has been a fun thing in the past! So on a big stuffing day, I might be required to measure before and after, and that becomes the new stuffing standard. Food by volume or calorie load has also been a new stuffing rule (though I leave that up to the feeder because the numbers/stress of counting macros are a softer limit for me).

I've also had feeders in the past require small things like having a dessert daily. I love having my grocery list approved and they always add something fun to it. Another fun one to maintain weight is watch my step count; and assign a task to remain inactive for some time to "counter" the extra steps (like gaming, watching a show, making a craft, often while eating lol). Or for more formal/stricter play, literally have to collar and leash myself to seated furniture for the day and can't get up without permission.

These are all in addition to a stuffing/forcefeeding! Just very fun ways to keep a plump feedee well-fed even if gaining isn't on the menu (ba dum tsch).

2 weeks

LoraDayton

Are there any other feederism sites? one with block features that actually work???

Hiccupx:
I realise that sometimes it can be hard see that this website is being updated, because so much of the work we do is on the back end. As admins, we probably don't shout enough about website updates, but then, if it's on the back end it's probably not of that much interest to members. Anyway here goes:

Registration/Account Blocking:

We have spend a temendous amount of time this year on improving the registration validation process, to stop bots and spammers creating accounts. We have over 20 validation checks, written by AI, that automatically block the majority of them.

For those that do manage to create accounts, we have new scripts that check the uploaded content to highlight spammers which we then immediately ban.

We're never going to be able to keep out all spammers on a site like this because we want to make it easy to sign up for genuine members and also protect your privacy. Therefore we haven't gone down the phone verification route. We've also learnt that most of the spammers we get are not bots, but people sat in data centers in the far east who do this for a living.

Member Blocking Feature:

This stops blocked members from contacting you but it doesn't stop them viewing your content. The maxmium number of blocks is 100, which we believe should be plenty on a 'community' website. After all, what would be the point in joining a community site, and then blocking hundreds of members?

1) 100 blocks is not NEARLY enough, especially considering...

2) you actively choose to not do anything about people who CONSTANTLY re-delete their accounts *to evade blocking at the outset*

Bots are not the problem. Boundary violators are.

3 months

LoraDayton

So i guess tumblr has banned feedism now?

Lbd4:
And reporting people who encourage overeating? Where’s the line? I still think this is more about the fat people ick factor than any liability. Couch it however you want.

I already explained where the line is. The content is SOLELY for mature adults and it exists on a site that is NOT exclusive to adult viewership. That's the line.

It's not about your feelings. And fat people =/= feedism. Continuing to center ONLY your experience in it devalues fat people as a whole. Because you're then saying that fat people MUST be feedists, and that's not the case.

I'm not saying this as a theory. I'm saying this as someone who's had to moderate content before. It's not about you, it's about liability.

4 months

LoraDayton

So i guess tumblr has banned feedism now?

Lbd4:
This is tumblr moralizing fat and fat people. It’s shameful.

Feedism can include fat people enjoying their bodies. It is not EQUAL to that. That's not how that works. Not all fat people are feedists. Not all feedists are fat people. Stating that tumblr allowing feedism to be reportable content means that they are moralizing fat people as a whole... is EXTREMELY harmful to fat people. Fat people's bodies are not solely for sexual spectacles. That's you stating that fat people ONLY exist in the vacuum of fetishism.

When a website has content policies - whether or not I agree with their standard or execution - it isn't about morals. It's about *liability.* Feedism is NSFW, full stop. Feedist content, regardless of what is or is not included, is exclusively for mature audiences. That's true everywhere. If minors and vulnerable adults access that adult-only content and are harmed as a result, that's on Tumblr. That's why those policies exist. Tumblr is not an adult-only site.

Moreover there IS a lot of parallel if not outright equation of disordered eating and feedist content. Some feedists really *are* quite disordered in their eating. That's just an objective truth. Even if the content is fantasy based or not, the fact that it's structured very similarly to other EDs (body focused, checking, extreme behaviors, value scripting around ones' body, and CAN cause harm to ones' body)... they're gonna lump them together because that's content that ONLY adults should consume and engage in.

4 months

LoraDayton

Any feedees actually want to have a real feedee / feeder connection

SkinnyFeedee:
Good points! Sorry if anything came off the wrong way. Just tryna let them know they suck. You did that a lot better than I could 😭

No worries! They already know they suck. The insecurity shown by people who behave that way is evident; that's *why* they treat people this way (in a very broad sense, people who feel bad about themselves will treat others in a way to inspire the same feelings in them, aka "hurt people hurt people"

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When I comment on these posts, it's not for the OPs/bad actors, it's to set an example for those who are sincerely open to change, who need to see advocacy in action, and to just speak up about it. My goal is never to convince the bad actors of anything, it's just to point out "your behavior is gross and this is why" so others can learn to identify it for themselves.

7 months

LoraDayton

Any feedees actually want to have a real feedee / feeder connection

SkinnyFeedee:
EXACTLYYY. This whole thread just screams sexually frustrated.

It's not sexual frustration; that would "justify" their behavior and imply that they are not responsible for their actions, which is not the case. There are plenty of people here who are sexually frustrated and choose not to blame everyone else for it or behave in the ways I mentioned.

The amount of people that just expect free content or just immediately jump to trying to meet up really don't understand a woman's pov.

Because women aren't people to them. It's that simple. Their behavior wouldn't be like this if they had a shred of empathy for anyone besides themselves.

Obviously nobody wants to be scammed, or worse taken advantage of, so why would anyone ever put themselves in a position to meet up with somebody like that? Like it works the other way around too and a lot of men forget that shit.

I understand what you are trying to get at, because of course it sucks to be ripped off and it's not their fault it happens. However, having money scammed from you is not equivalent to the dehumanization people experience here in the ways I described. At the end of the day, the money cannot be scammed (or even stolen) without someone choosing to provide information for it. It can even be restored in many (not all) cases depending on your financial institution. Of course it can cause distress and mistrust, but it can be restored.

What these people do to feedees instead takes away something that cannot be quantified or restored; they know this, that they can get away with it, that is exactly why they treat fat people the way they do.

I was a feeder for a good bit and still love to every once in awhile. all of the times I've done shit like this, online or irl, I bought them food. Haven't had a problem yet. Do you know how many times I've heard about feedees being scammed or much worse by people with that attitude? It's sad. They never get it either.

Exactly! It's almost like there's a common denominator, and the first one is simply whether or not they view fat people as people first.

7 months

LoraDayton

I been making my roommate fat

LoraDayton:
This is a felony

Neonlemonforce:
As long as they aren't adding ingredients or supplements without consent it isn't. Ide wait for an explanation before going straight to "felony"[/quote]

The "without consent" is what makes it a felony regardless.

Stop defending shitty behavior. It's really interesting how y'all will cape for those who condone violating consent. Sure wouldn't want to be known for that, would you?

See, the things is - even if it's just fantasy, we have no way of knowing that.

So many who retort "it's just a joke!" (Fat bodies and consent aren't a punchline) or "it's just a fantasy!" (there's a reason we have forums separate for it, and again - consent and/or disclaimers are still required to ethically share a fantasy) ultimately don't care about consent. Only the violation of it is what matters, that's the point of the material. Therefore, I will treat each one of these as though they are real.

Third parties *cannot* consent in these spaces. Full stop. There are no exceptions. If you speak this way thinking "it's just a fantasy" and you aren't cluing others in - guess what, that makes you wilfully violating/ignoring consent. And we have words for people like that.

7 months

LoraDayton

I been making my roommate fat

Fatty101:
She loves fast food and it shows now that she gained 20 plus pounds

This is a felony

7 months

LoraDayton

Any feedees actually want to have a real feedee / feeder connection

Imtryingstuff:
Too many online feedees that don't ever want to meet up. Cashapp, paypal, curvage, fansly, onlyfans and manyvids get thrown around too much. Only online feedees are fake to me. They would meet up with someone for a date but don't want to meet up to do something with this kink? Too many fakes and scammers everywhere.

Once again:

1) no pictures

2) only activity is to complain about feedees or act entitled to their time

3) "banned from feabie for no reason" - there is always a reason

Fat people don't owe you anything. You get out what you put in. You are the scammer by treating feedees as disposable and objects to which you feel entitled.

7 months

LoraDayton