Sending good vibes.
I totally understand about telling your parents or them finding out.
It took me a while to finally admit to my Mom that I wanted to gain weight and that I had gotten fat by choice.
I had always been really skinny and hated being that way.

I think you are right.
Abuse can come in different forms and none of it is good.

Mine is soft and flabby and its hard to keep my hands off it.

Kitsune I never suggested anything about you personally or your situation.
Claiming You were hurt by what was in my comments is a stretch so please do things like that.
All I did was relay something I went thru nothing more. It had nothing to do with you personally.
I do hope you can get your life sorted out and have a happy life.

I knew all about the no fault but there were legal property issues that I needed to protect at the time

In my case having a husband that controlled everything in your life from what time you got up in the morning to the time you went to bed is enough to make spite a very strong thing.
I was his "trophy wife".
I had to dress to the nines any time I went out with him and even if I went to the grocery.
If I failed to do exactly as he ordered he would slap me around and call me horrible names.
I doubt any of you ladies here would put up with that.
My spite was not really self harm to me but to his ego.
I knew it was temporary.

When I was in a bad marriage I decided to stop with my skincare routine and it took around 2 months to see changes.
I was trying to gain weight too just to piss off my husband.
I did gain around 30 lbs and really stopped showering every day.
I ended up showering only if we were going out somewhere and never washed my face.
3rd month in and a few more lbs from binging on ice cream while he was at work that I noticed I was getting very oily skin and developing blackheads on my face.
I really started breaking out more and more and he finally filed for divorce.
After it was final I lost the weight and started going to the dermatologist to get my skin issues under control.

The 2 secretaries I hired 5 years ago have all gained weight.
Not sure exactly how much but both 150 ish when they started but are approaching the mid 200s I would think now.

I have no problem with PDF.

Sock it to me cake.