Don't trust anyone right away. Facetime with them so you know they're real, but don't meet with them in person or send them nudes or money for a few weeks. If after that time they haven't broken any promises and you haven't caught them in any lies, you can gradually go to further steps. Whatever those may be.

Why not just jump in with both feet? (Not saying you should or shouldn't--I just have the sense that it might help me answer your question.)

As long as you agree that sexuality is part of it I don't have a problem.

But you haven't answered my question. If feedism--at least the sexual part of it--isn't a kink, what is it? A paraphilia? A deviant tendency? A perversion? A sexual preference?

Morbidly A Beast:
Not sure how Doug thinks of it but I think of it like a lifestyle of abundance and indulgence.[/quote]

I wouldn't call it that. It may be part of a lifestyle, but to limit it to that omits the weight-gain and sexual aspects, which I regard as critical components of feedism.

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Doing whatever a feeder will agree to pay you for, including: selling feedist content; eating, talking, or posing on-line; or meeting in person and doing whatever is agreed to.

A sort of feedist strip-club, where you gain weight on stage or something like that would be another way, but I don't know of any.

Check out OnlyFans and Curvage to find examples of people doing these sorts of things.

What do you call it?

I usually don't like it except for oomfy's work on deviantart.

Here's an article I wrote on the subject.


Why is there Feedism?
An Evolutionary Explanation

In "The World Until Yesterday: What Can We Learn from Traditional Societies"? Jared Diamond describes some traditional societies-- they don't call them "primitive" anymore--that have periodic food shortages. The people gorge themselves in times of plenty to gain weight to get them through lean times. In such places Feedism would be adaptive and be selected for.

Of course, in many societies (including modern ones) they figured out ways to store food so they didn't have to do the gorging thing. Storing food in a granary or whatever is usually much more practical than storing it as fat on your body. So genetically I figure we're a mixed bag. We have ancestors from both kinds of societies. So some of us have Feedist tendencies, some don't.

I imagine those tendencies will dwindle over the coming millennia since gorging and gaining is no longer adaptive. But we won't be around by then anyway!

I agree. You're young, and you have plenty of time to get fat. But ideally you should do it when you're independent of your parents.

There's no sure-fire way except to get fat and see if you like it. The risk in that case is you might not like it, and then you have a bunch of weight to lose. In fact you might never get back to normal.

What interests me: there are feedees who gain weight, don't like it, and then lose it. Then deliberately gain it back again. Some even lose again and gain it back again!

For example, consider KellieJelliBelli. She got fat three times and lost the weight twice before she decided to stick with being fat.

Of course it would have been easier if she'd just gotten fat once and been content with that.

But perhaps she had to make sure she could lose the weight if she wanted, and wasn't just caving to her cravings. I'd think one gain/loss cycle would be enough for that, but perhaps she had to double-check.

If anyone else has a theory on why one would gain and lose more than once I'd be interested to hear it.