this sounds like something you should post in the personal ads, if you want a bbw to squash you.

thanks for doing the research for us and sharing these sources!

it is still up. marilyn and stef still post regularly.

heather, who runs the site, has had some real health challenges over the last several years, going back to the pandemic. i think that's why things have gotten quieter over there. but i have noticed that she has been a little more active in the last month or two on feabie, so hopefully that is a sign that she's doing and feeling better.

big cuties has been around for a long, long time. the internet landscape has changed a lot in that time. i am sure the number of options (not just onlyfans, but all of the others too) has had an impact, but i think the big cuties model is probably still attractive to many. they provide an outlet where you know what to expect, both in quality and frequency. one of the problems with onlyfans is that they can be very active for a short time, and then... nothing. maybe it's just too easy to get started, before they are really committed to the idea?

as an old fart, i am very glad to see places like dimensions and big cuties still hanging in there!

thanks for clarifying. not sure i agree with everything that you said, but that's fine. i am not schooled in psychology, biology, etc. so i am definitely not an expert.



i agree with you - not every male feedee. by far. in fact, they are probably in the minority.

however, in kink space (which i am very experienced in) there is a big overlap on the venn diagram of those with the male feedee/gainer kink and a feminization kink. hence why this topic is re-initiated by someone new every two months.

i don't know why anyone has to "push back" on anything? it's like the people who decry death feedists... it's their kink. if you don't like it (it's certainly not my thing), don't participate. but let them do what they like if they're consenting adults.

you lost me - who has no choice, and who is the dinosaur???

ironic stance given your user name.

i got the joke. i thought it was funny. you didn't like the joke. that's fine too. If urchie said what you said, no, it's not funny. but they way they said it was funny.

what they said was not meant to demean, it was not said to dismiss anyone. it was not said from a position of power. it was not hurtful. it was not even directed at anyone in particular, they didn't call any single person a name. they said it to "the room."

it's even on topic, the more i think about it. we have two stances in this thread: people saying "i think fat people are more feminine, or become more femme-like as they gain," and the other side saying, "no, not true, fat can be masculine too."

you mentioned you have struggled with this, and you are working on getting to a better place by working out, which is great. kudos for you. but you may also want to more carefully examine why you feel compelled to assert your masculinity. i don't know you, but i detect your discomfort with feminine side.

i speak from experience. i spent my teens/20s as a straight man. being called gay was a perjorative term. later in my 20s i become bi. now in my 40s i am with a trans partner, and gender play is a thing. it's a journey, and it's not done yet! but i can look back at how i thought, how i saw myself and others 25 years ago, and i see how much was just me - not anyone else.

and if this discussion topic (it's a common one here on ff) is triggering, i suggest just avoiding it. if you don't like it or agree with it, i understand. if you're offended at the mention of an egg, not even specifically directed at you, fine - sometimes it's ok to be offended. but i don't think urchie was being offensive. there's a difference.

i am tending to agree with urchie on this one.

i think the challenge is just number of calories... and something to do with the metabolism.

i never got to 500 lbs (kudos to you on that amazing achievement!), and at my heaviest i was consuming probably 7000-8000 calories a day! (i had a few 10k days but those were exceptional.) a lot of those calories were just maintaining my size at that time.

when i had to make diet changes for health reasons, i cut out beer and sugary foods, and i lost like 50 lbs... but i didn't keep losing. so somehow my metabolism adjusted itself for the change in my diet.

i don't know the science behind it, but there's a relationship there, but i wouldn't mess with it for fear of health issues (blood sugar levels, etc.) personally, i like being fat, but i don't want to be sick.

it's always helpful to have someone who is encouraging you and pushing you when you're gaining, though. having a person ask, "just one more?" after you say you're full, and pushing you to finish one more serving.

lol, i didn't know what this meant.

i am old, sorry, lol, my slang is vintage.

my partner, who is both trans and more than a decade younger than me (but still probably old from urchie's point of view) explained it to me.,

we both thought it was funny, not offensive.

it seemed to read the room pretty well, and wasn't directed at anyone in particular.

i love drinks - beer, wine, scotch... i was a real beer aficionado, and love the exotic (and strong) styles, like triple IPAs, russian imperial stouts... big flavours, big alcohol content!

i credit drinking (beer in particular, in my case) for a lot of my gains. not just the drinks themselves, but that it would make me hungry. so drinking always led to more eating.

sadly i've had to cut out alcohol from my diet (getting sugar under control). i lost about 50 lbs - again, mostly due to reducing booze, i think. but my weight kind of stablized at around 425 lbs.

can confirm - drinking helps you get fat(ter)!

it's so different for everyone. my arms did not get really big, even after gaining a few hundred pounds. my partner, who at less than half my size, has nice, fat. jiggly gorgeous arms.