Stockylove:
Hello everyone, honestly, I posted this here because I didn't know where else to write this topic, but I think "general discussions" is still appropriate.
Anyway, I needed to share this bitterness and disappointment I feel about men. I've always been attracted to men "in theory," but... I don't know, there are a lot of things I don't like about them, in terms of their mentality and behavior, and ultimately, I even find women better than men in many ways. I think, and perhaps I hope, that you can change my mind about my perspective (which may be partly biased or even wrong, I hope so). I also want to say that I am absolutely not a misandrist, and I hope not to offend any other men who read my post; that's not my intention.
But yes, when I think about the type of man I like, or the qualities I would like in a man, I imagine a mature, empathetic man who listens to others, and I see that all these qualities are more prevalent in women than in men. And there are many more things like that, and points that I find problematic with men and that I find women better at. But it would take too long to list them all. But I find that, on a human level, women have far more qualities that could make me fall in love than men. Unfortunately, I'm a gay man, and I hope I'll meet a man like that someday. I've generally been disappointed by the mentality of men in my life. I know it's linked to social norms, gendered upbringing, and the toxic masculinity we've been taught. But I find it sad; I have the impression that the kind of man who could appeal to me is very, very rare.
i can totally understand your perspective. i am bi, having fallen for a guy in my 20s after years in heterosexual relationships. i spent about a decade exclusively in relationships with cis males.
during that time i spent a lot of time in the vibrant gay community here, and i was an athletic gym dude. that scene includes examples which are probably the worst case of what you describe.
generalizations are always rough, though. as others have mentioned, regardless of gender it's hard to find someone that you're attracted to, who is attracted to you, and who shares all those other qualities.
don't give up hope, though - it's totally possible. my match found me, and we've been together for five years now. just stay hopeful and positive and it will happen!
thanks for sharing. 
