In need of advice: experimenting in real life

TheStoryteller:
Hey guys
I’ve been seeing this guy in the past month who’s really nice and we’ve been experimenting in bed a bit.
I’d never thought of bringing feederism up before because my attraction is mostly to seeing someone outgrow their clothes / eat until they’re helplessly full / being generally greedy in a way that has weight-related consequences, but unintentionally. Being the direct cause of that is something that I find immoral, since none of my partners were ever into that kind of thing.
Anyway, I think this guy has some sub/shame-related kinks that he hasn’t fully shared with me yet. He likes food and he likes cooking and he often eats too much. I find myself thinking of trying to somehow play into my fantasies in real life, if he’s into it.
What are some practical ways to start? How would you bring this up?


It’s really respectful that you are mindful of his boundaries and don't want to force anything. However, from the perspective of someone who absolutely loves the feeling of gaining weight and having a heavy, growing belly, finding a partner who actively desires and encourages this is an incredible experience.

Since you mentioned he already loves cooking, eats a lot, and might have some sub/shame kinks, you actually have a perfect and natural way to start.

I would start with positive reinforcement, praise his appetite. When he cooks or eats a big meal, tell him how much it turns you on to see him enjoy his food.

And play into the sub/shame kink: Next time he overeats, playfully tease him about it. You can touch his full belly and say something like, 'Look how stuffed you are,' or encourage him to finish that extra portion just for you.

Most important, create a safe space, because ppl often feel guilty about gaining weight or overindulging. So make it very clear that you find his indulgence and his physical changes highly attractive. This removes the stigma.

Something that helps me in the past is to play it one meal at a time. gauge his reactions to your gentle teasing and encouragement. If he blushes or leans into it, you'll know you can slowly turn up the heat.
4 days

How to be unapologetically fat

Fatgirlbelly:
I am more this way now. I was at a wedding last weekend and talking with a chubby friend and a pregnant friend. The chubby one said to me - aww look at her belly, it’s not fair people like us wouldn’t be celebrated if we had our bellies showing in dresses like that!

First of all - Rude! 😂 that might have offended me at one time but it didn’t I kinda loved it being pointed out that I have a big belly
2 - you have know idea how much some would celebrate it! 😉

What I actually said in response was - “actually I’m on a mission to make the belly more acceptable! We should all be able to show it off like this! All hail the belly!” - not sure they realised how serious I was 😂

And if I HAD worn the dress that I ordered that was way too small, I’d have been more than showing it off 🙄 instead of wearing it for the wedding I’ll post some pics up now for you guys and gals who may appreciate it more!


😅 you just nailed it!
1 week

Conflicted and need advice

Randydoe:
I (m, 20s) have always had this fetish but now that I’m actually gaining weight it sometimes feels like it’s getting too real.
In the last two years, but mostly the last year, I have semi-unintentionally gone from 190 lbs to 240. I was a little chubby before but feel properly fat now, with a prominent beer gut and moobs. My face has filled out, my legs and arms are getting thicker for the first time, I sweat more, feel more out of shape, and jiggle and bounce with every movement.Sometimes it feels like a dream come true but other times it causes a lot of anxiety and sadness.
Style is important to me and at this point I’ve outgrown most of my wardrobe. I have a few friends who work in or around the fashion industry, and while they don’t treat me differently now that I’m a little fatter, I get depressed when they invite me to parties or events and I can’t dress like I used to. I worry about my health and mobility long term. I feel more self-conscious and less confident in public. I worry that eating and gaining weight is taking over my other hobbies as now that I’m in worse shape and tire easy I’m turning down more things and stay inside more than I used to. Sometimes I find the motivation to try to lose weight, but my attempts rarely last longer than a week or two now, and the voice that tells me to lose is getting quieter.
When I’m not feeling down, I love my body. I am addicted to how soft I am and want more. My appetite is insane now, I love stuffing my face and giving into cravings without worry. My girlfriend is also into this and it feels like if I didn’t gain I’d be giving up an opportunity to explore this with her. The few times we’ve done a stuffing session it’s like nothing else. I am so close to 250, which feels like a milestone I’d always be curious about if I didn’t reach it.
I’m conflicted. On the one hand I want my old wardrobe and the confidence I had when I was a little smaller. On the other hand, the actual work of losing weight sounds miserable and I’d rather just continue to eat and drink whatever I want. I don’t know if I want to lose, maintain here, or gain a little more and just try to accept and find confidence in my larger body. This fetish is something I feel I’ll struggle with forever, so I’m not sure how to manage it. Curious to talk to anyone who has been here and has either managed to lose weight or pushed through, gotten bigger, and found happiness there. Not really looking for horny stuff but I know that’s asking a lot from a fetish forum lol. Any advice is helpful!


You don’t necessarily have to choose between never gaining again or gaining indefinitely.

Maybe ask yourself this: if the fetish disappeared tomorrow, would you still want to keep gaining? Or is it the fetish making you overlook things that matter to you?

Whatever you decide, try to make it a conscious decision rather than just drifting because it’s easier not to resist your appetite. If you choose to stay around your current size, that’s a choice. If you choose to gain more, make sure it’s because you’ve weighed both the benefits and the costs, not because you feel like you’ve lost control.
1 week

Question for feeders... hypnosis?

Harleen Zaftig:
Question for the feeders out there, putting out feelers:

Would you listen to a hypnosis file to make you into an even more addicted worshipper of fat?

To make you more desperate to make someone grow?

I'm curious, cuz I have *fat appreciator* files, and I'm wondering if I should do a feeder file, too.


will it make me gain more weight? why not? smiley
1 week

I turned my boyfriend into a feedee lol

Angelhoney:
My bf and I have been dating for over 7 yrs now, he’s tall (6’3) and handsome, when we first started dating he was pretty skinny! We started dating right after high school for reference.

Over the years I’ve introduced him to my fetish, which he accepted but at first wasn’t super into. Honestly, I mainly am interested in the fantasy of me gaining weight but I love to see others indulge as well.

I’ve fed him a ton of hearty home cooked southern meals. He always bragged about how good my cooking was, and how good his metabolism was. He loves junk food, his favorite meal is pizza or anything fried and he’s obsessed with soda. I knew his slim waistline couldn’t last long once he started drinking beers pretty consistently a couple years ago.

He’s about to turn 26 and I’ve managed to help give him a pre-dad bod. It’s soo hot to me and he likes to tease me about it!!! He joked that I just want him bigger and that he eats more for me.

I love his soft chest and how he almost has moobs. He has a pretty soft ass too lol. I’m bisexual so he jokes to me about how his ass is fat like a girls, and it turns me on.. He has a permanent muffin top in all his clothes, he wears XL shirts but we both notice how the swell of his belly pokes out in all his clothes now.

I’m seriously not writing fiction! I’m just aroused and feeling grateful for my boyfriend and wanted to give anyone hope in a relationship that wants to practice their fetish- I was terrified to share my fetish with my boyfriend at first. He slowly accepted the notions of it and we had some awkward sex sessions messing around with it but now it’s awesome.

We still divulge in my own fantasies of gaining weight some times but the spotlight is definitely on him right now. I always thought feeder turned feedee stories are hot and it happened to him and I might let go one day with him and get fat.

For right now though, I like the difference between our bodies. I’ve always been the one in the relationship that actually likes working out (he dislikes doing so, at a point he was only working out his arms but never his abs so he could ‘keep the belly’). I swear he’s such a fatty, if it wasn’t for his metabolism that is slowly eroding with age he’d be huge right now.


It honestly sounds like you two found something really special, and I think that's the most important part. My favorite part was reading how he went from being hesitant about your fetish to actually joking with you about it. sounds like a success story.

I honestly wish I could let go like that too. I've been on a few dates with women who were into fattening men, but for them it was mostly just a sexual fetish, and we didn't really have much in common outside of that. Now I'm dating a chubby woman who I'd actually love to end up being fatter than her. She's a great cook and genuinely enjoys seeing me eat, but she isn't part of the feederism world at all. She just loves food. I've started opening up a little by telling her how much I enjoy eating, and I've casually made a few comments about gaining weight. It doesn't really seem to bother her, although she did seem a bit uncomfortable with talking too much about body size. So for now I'm just enjoying being with her and not diving too deeply into the fetish side of things. Maybe one day it'll naturally happen the way it did for your boyfriend. I can only hope!

Congrats to you both!
1 week

What's your fat lifestyle?

MitchHedberg:
I think it would be fun to hear what everyone's "fat lifestyle" is like. The basic idea is you give us an idea of an average day in your lifestyle.

For the sake of inclusivity feel free to respond even if you're not fat and just want to share, but the goal of this post is definitely to gain insight into the fat life (can also be useful for anyone that wants to emulate a lifestyle that's fatter than theirs)



So here's the format

Are you intentionally gaining weight:

Do you gain weight every year:

Weight:

Size:

Avg calories per day:

Avg # of meals per day:

Typical meals eaten on average day:

Exercise amount:

Laziness level:

Relationship with food:


So for me a response would like like this

...........................................................
Are you intentionally gaining weight: Not currently

Do you gain weight every year: My weight has plateaued naturally

Weight: 200lbs

Size: Chubby

Avg Calories per day: 2200

Avg # of meals per day: 3

Typical meals:
- turkey sandwich
- buckwheat, veggies and chicken
- snack assortment/dessert meal late at night

Exercise amount: 1hr walk and sometimes weight lifting

Laziness level: Not very lazy, will travel up and down stairs frequently, don't often look for excuses to be sedentary

Relationship with food:
I mostly eat when I'm hungry but I snack for pleasure. I sometimes eat to improve my mood when I'm down.

What's your lifestyle look like?

I love this idea!
So I’m currently trying to gain weight and become really big and huge. So here are my answers.

Are you intentionally gaining weight: Yes, slowly and deliberately. I’m not trying to get huge overnight, I just enjoy the process of filling out over time.

Do you gain weight every year: Pretty much. Usually somewhere around 5-10 lbs a year depending on how motivated I am.

Weight: 180 lbs

Size: average
Avg calories per day: I don’t really count them.

Avg # of meals per day: 3 meals plus snacks.

Typical meals eaten on average day:

* Big breakfast with pancakes, eggs, salads, yogurt, and coffee.
* Burger, fries, and a lot of junk food for lunch.
* Afternoon snacks like chips, cookies, nuts, ice cream, or leftovers.
* Large dinner (pizza, pasta, barbecue, or takeout).
* Dessert while watching Netflix before bed.

Exercise amount: Very little. I walk when I have to and occasionally do something active with friends, but I don’t have a workout routine anymore.

Laziness level: I’d say moderately lazy. As I got heavier I naturally became more comfortable spending evenings on the couch or at my desk. I don’t avoid moving completely, but convenience usually wins.

Relationship with food: Food has become one of my favorite parts of the day. Growing up I ate pretty normally, but in my twenties I started appreciating good food a lot more. I like trying restaurants, ordering extra sides, and having dessert even when I’m already full. Eating is relaxing, comforting, and something I genuinely look forward to. I don’t feel guilty about enjoying it, and watching myself slowly get bigger has become part of the fun. My wardrobe has changed a few sizes over the years, my belly is noticeably rounder than it used to be, and I actually like the softer, heavier build I’ve grown into. But of course I still have a long road ahead.
I should also mention that I’m currently dating a female feeder who absolutely loves my appetite and enjoys encouraging my weight gain. She’s an amazing cook, so it’s a pretty great combination!
2 weeks

Anyone else really love their man boobs?

Feedbunny:
So much but my bf hasn't got them, yet

With you it’s only a matter of time 🤓
2 weeks

How to make you gain faster

Fattyfresh:
I want to be able to feel huge


oh! i love this question! so just eat more then usually. feel stuffed? don't mind it, push more into yourself. feeling stress? take that ice cream. feeling happy? finish those chocolate, so basically drown your feelings with sweets. in time, that will make you really huge.
2 weeks

New to this.

Feedbunny:
I've been my bf's feeder for 3 weeks after he finally voluntarily consented.
I made some dreadful mistakes in the first week but still have so much to learn.
I'm looking to make friends with people in a similar position and advice from experts.
His CW 210
my GW for him 300-350


first of all, welcome! i'm glad your bf is open and ready to gain weight for you, as a feedee myself with experiance with female feeders, as long as you are constant it will be okay, but what kind of mistakes you talking about?
2 weeks

At what weight does a bbw/bhm become a ssbbw/ssbhm

In my opinion, the definition of SSBBW/SSBHM is less about a number on the scale and more about the physical sensation and the space you occupy.

I think the line is crossed when your stomach truly starts to 'interfere' with simple actions, or when the biggest clothes in your closet start feeling like a tight second skin. That’s the moment you realize you aren’t just 'big' anymore, but in a completely different category of mass.
2 months
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