Jobs that offers lots of snacks throughout the day or events with a lot of food is likely to be an even bigger factor.

One time, I talked to a young lady who started a job at a bank shortly after college at around 220 lbs. There were always a lot of doughnuts, bagels, etc. In addition to whatever she ate at home or outside work, she ended up grazing on those snacks a lot. The result was that in a year, she reached 280+ lbs.

Another time at a job I applied for, I try to look up things like employer reviews. One review on Glassdoor mentioned, as a "negative" that there's a lot of events with a lot of food, and that if you aren't careful, you might end up gaining a lot of weight. Unfortunately, I didn't even get called in for an interview for it.

The main thing though, is that for any job, to focus entirely on salary, paid time off (if any), and if in a country that lacks universal healthcare coverage, the healthcare coverage offered. Never take the job that offers a lot of free food, if the salary is significantly less. The loss in salary is almost certainly greater than the value of whatever food there is, which can more easily disappear later on and stop being offered. You always want the job that pays $50-100+/day more even if it lacks doughnuts, because even if you stop by Krispy Kreme every day to pick up doughnuts, you'd still come out ahead.

I do agree that cream by itself is often not that great. The key is to mix it into a shake or drink, with whatever ingredients you find favorable.

I don't know if you like coffee or hot chocolate, but if you do, a heavy cream mocha tastes incredible, even if it may seem slightly thick. There's also lattes but I think that recipe may include less milk/cream content.

If you ever like to get shakes from fast food places, that's loads of ideas for making heavy cream shakes in a way you may find palatable. If you go this route, Hershey's syrup does *not* seem to mix well. You'd be better off checking out the flavoring syrups in the coffee aisle at the supermarket.

I'll also note that drinking enough water actually does seem to help. You don't want to be dehydrated, and it's almost like it lubricates and help you digest more food. Also, this may be anecdotal but I noticed that if I made a point of having a good bit of water after the cream, the number on the scale went up faster. So don't skip the water.

P.S. Man you're so lucky that you live with someone who doesn't mind and is accepting that you're trying to gain weight on purpose.

Limited budget? That always hurts things.

I wonder if you considered how many calories you're getting in? And whether you're being consistent.

Massive stuffings can be fun but will be self defeating if it means the next day you eat almost nothing.

Some have reported that fasting for a day sometimes can cause the extra calories to seemingly almost cling as extra weight, though I don't think that works for me.

Certain condiments can be particularly loaded with calories. If you don't like mayo, you don't but if you, that has a lot of calories.

I do know you like to get fast food sometimes, either because you want to or it's late after a long day and you don't have the energy, time, or will to prepare something. Paying close attention to the specials can often get you more than you otherwise could.

Taking half an hour or so to study the weekly sales at the supermarkets can also often mean spending $20-40 less than you otherwise would have.

Heavy cream shakes/drinks can be particularly effective, especially if shortly before sleeping or times when you don't think you can eat much or anything for awhile. But I don't know what your roommate might say or think about that. And you should make sure most of your calories do not come from that way. But, I will say heavy cream has very likely helped me gain a considerable amount of weight over the years.

Other than that, not really sure what else I can say based on the limited information provided. That and I don't really want to ask probing questions.

I wish the OP the best of luck in what he's looking for but Canuck is right, it does belong in the Personals so I'm moving it there.

First off, welcome to FF, and we hope you enjoy your stay.

I'm not sure if I fully understand your question. I guess it depends on what you definition of a "normal relationship" is? Some clarification on this point would be nice.

I hope you are not implying that folks in relationships where one or both of them are large and heavy, isn't "normal." If you are, you might find yourself not well received here.

There are plenty of members here in fulfilling relationships. Long term relationships, even marriages, divorces, second marriages, raising kids together, etc.

Such relationships however, do tend to be built on other things, in addition to or outside the fetish.

It's true that amongst our membership, users tend to be a good bit heavier than the average in their respective countries. However, the vast majority aren't so large that they are prevented from engaging in typical day to day life and able to engage in primary life activities, such as being able to shower, maintain a home, go to work, etc., and to do so independently.

While there are a small number who may actually engage in the more extreme aspects of the fetish, such as immobility and helplessness, they are the rare, uncommon exception, not the rule.

Even within feederism communities, some topics are still highly controversial and borderline taboo - most notably, death feederism and immobility. The vast majority are not interested in such things.

Fantasy is also a big part for many of us, but most will never actually engage in these things in real life. Sometimes I might dream about polishing off an entire buffet table, but I know that simply isn't possible.

The majority are also generally cognizant of the fact that weight gain would have to cease at some point, and they do not want the relationship to end because that comes to an end.

I think most of us would want a relationship like most others. Taking me for example, I would look for a lady who's sweet and friendly, but is strong and won't take B.S. Maybe a bit bubbly or goofy, but knows how to be serious. Intelligent, respectable, honest to a fault (but hardly a saint), and responsible, since I wish to have a kid or two someday. Someone I find attractive, and hopefully finds me attractive too. Someone who has pride, a sense of decency, and knows how to take care of herself. Independent, and probably doesn't need me, but wants to be with me. Sounds pretty much normal, right?

I just so happen to think the ideal lady for me is a BBW who weighs something like 250-400ish lbs, perhaps likes cooking, and knows all about the delicious food/eats.

I hope this answers your question.

Management was aware of this problem, but it appears to be fixed now.