I agree with you there because life is far too short to live in shame for having a particular preference that may or may not be deemed acceptable. And I also think that now more than we need to have conversations like this to not only help those people accept their particular preferences, but also seeing the grey area and balance between fantasy and reality.

Coming from my experience alone, the more you are willing to admit and accept that part of yourself then the more that you will be able to embrace that part of yourselves respectfully.

As for the last paragraph you mentioned, I have seen other people who have talked about society making big changes to city structures or something along those lines if governments really care about eradicating fat people in the name of health. Of course, I suppose we shall see what is going to happen. Here’s hoping that folks like us can still live in peace huh?

Hey you won’t get any judgements from me because I’ve always appreciate your well-thought posts and opinions. And honestly it’s nice to hear from the perspective of someone who’s looking after their wellbeing. I mean THIS is the nuance that I am looking for!

However as for governments, I have heard about the Metabo Law in Japan where there’s a mandatory waistline measurement to keep their obesity rates low. While I don’t think there’s a penalty, I’ve heard some people may or may not be giving a hard time to get them the consultation to lose weight. Here’s hoping that something “strict” like this doesn’t end up taking over western society.

I’m suspecting satire from looking at these.

Ha! That’s what I was gonna say. Or at best what specifically kind of messages we are talking about.

So I don’t really know how to start off with this but I have to get something a little bit off my chest. It may come off a little bit rant-like so apologies in advance.

Not too long ago I came across and read this article from Maclean’s Magazine, it’s a bit of a read so do bare in mind.

macleans.ca/longforms/the-end-of-fat/

It talked a little bit about GLP-1s and how they have changed/changing the world. The article didn’t villainize GLP-1s but also didn’t romanticize them either, I guess you could say that it was a more “nuanced” take to say the least? Either way from what it was talking about how that one day they might end up becoming more normalized and more accessible in the foreseeable future, which really makes me think that could we actually now be facing the beginning of the end of an era of fat as we know it?

Now there were discussions about this on this site beforehand and for the most part we shouldn’t be pressing the panic button on whether or not that bigger people will still exist and that a feedist community like ours will remind us that it’s a clear choice people made for this preference and kink. And I agree people should do what is best for themselves and their body either be weight gain or loss.

Okay sounds decent alright yes? But the problem is that the moment I step away from this community I’m in the world of glorified weight loss in regard to health, beauty and being acceptable to society because you took care of yourself. Then when people are doing something else to find their happiness (let’s say via body positivity) they get slammed labels like “delusional” or “brainwashed” or any negative-toned buzzword. Then they also see someone like me - a guy who is open for being attracted towards bigger women would be treated like we’re part of the problem, an outlier and not the norm. Only to find myself back to a site like this to “feel safe” as if it’s some sort of coping mechanism.

But… you know what, yeah of course we’re not normal. We are outliers. Men and women who simp on people’s unhealthy indulgences, lifestyles and (for some of us) even pay for it! But at the same time is that truthfully the worst thing about someone like me? Sure there are horror stories and a lot of bad faith actors, but I also like to think that there are others who are not that stupid when it comes to having this preference.

Now I am someone who really does like bigger women, it will be that way for pretty much the rest of my days. Lately I’ve started to become a bit more accepting of GLP-1s a bit more even if I may still have a slight fit towards them. However I’ve also mentioned before in other posts that I worry that one day having a preference like this will eventually become unacceptable. Sure to many cultures it can be a bit taboo, but to one day be something that’s completely outlawed? Yeah I wouldn’t want that to be the reality that I have to live with. I’ve seen people making crude statements and comments wanting people like me gone - all because we are “normalizing what shouldn’t be” the norm in society.

TL;DR… It ain’t always easy to be attracted to bigger women, especially now that we’re in the GLP-1 era. Sorry for my little rant!

Absolutely. And sure it’s going to be different from one person to the next for who you date and end up being in a relationship with. However there are some things that someone should be able to accept certain things and interests about yourself, take my interests for bellies for an example.

If they are willing to accept that from you then that’s great! If not then it’s a potential dealbreaker.

So here’s my insight based on personal experience with this particular topic.

I have had an interest with bigger ladies since I was in my preteens in which was also the time that I first discovered the Feedism kink as well (but a bit slightly later). There was something that was very erotic about chubbier bellies and deep belly buttons, especially with the fact that there is a thing that some people would actually want to make themselves bigger to achieve such a thing? That lowkey got me hooked into it.

Now I don’t really ever engage with the kink of feeding and weight gain in my dating life anymore as I used to, due to some bad experiences that almost ruined a past relationship of mine (and even within the community itself). Unless of course the potential partner of mine is actually into Feedism as well, really the only thing how it would work. Plus I also have learned the reality that not all bigger people are the biggest eaters as what’s depicted in media and fetish content. However though with my interest in bellies - that’s not changed.

In my dating life now I do bring Feedism up whenever a dater and I talked about sexual interests. But that’s basically it, ultimately it’s up to her if she wants to practice or invest in the weight gain kink. Even if she doesn’t want to do that, I am personally more than happy to embrace her current body/size right now and find other ways to please each other! Even if this means lots and lots of belly rubbing and love!

I’m not sure if my memory is correct, but I think there was a user who mentioned that not everyone knows that there is a thing about this particular fetish without actually realizing it. Can’t say that it might be the case for the situation you are describing, but it’s something to think about.

The irony from this is that I find that the women who want to be thinner/healthier apparently like their man to be bigger than them. 😅

I can even say from my own dating experience from some people I have spoken towards.

The whole “pay to play” thing isn’t anything new in the kink community. I get the importance of the community part of it and in the grand scheme of things I do seek that special acceptance from someone who I could develop a relationship with in this space.

But at the same time I also come to understand that this is also a business. Just like other kink spaces out there. It’s especially true if it’s someone is someone’s side hustle to make an income, if they were a model/content creator.

As for my personal experience, yeah I’ve had my fair share of getting scammed and moments of letting some people down (and not to mention the criticism on the forums). But this particular site is one of the better ones that I’ve been apart of. Could I go other ones? More likely, but I always have trouble figuring out where to go. Especially where it feels safe to be myself within this current social climate of 2026.