Funny thing I don’t think it’s often talked about that even people like us who like bigger people get our fair share of hate as well. I’ve been called many things like: “Delusional/Disgusting” “Torta Pounder” “Liar” “Liberal” and things of why that I even find someone bigger than me attractive while saying such dehumanizing terms.

People who don’t understand something are going to hate it, it’s basically an easier response in a way. I know that it’s not very fun to be at the receiving end of the negativity from people. But for me personally I try my best to prioritize my own happiness over other people’s opinions. In fact, this should be about YOUR love life and should be about what YOU are attracted to. And if others tell you otherwise, then it’s on them and what they have been indoctrinated into believing.

Hey there my guy I totally get your frustration and struggle with being a part of a community like this… 101% dude.

I’ve had my fair share of getting stung by people who had scammed me. It’s really such a pity because you feel like you’ve finally are getting that special acceptance from someone who sees you and are into the same kinks, in a world where society wants to eradicate obesity, only to then come out completely empty-handed and feel bad for being ripped off. It’s worse when they try to beg you to help with their “emergencies” or something along those lines.

For this, this is precisely why I’ve let go of the whole feeder thing to begin with. However I didn’t exactly dropped everything though because regardless of what I’ve been through, that didn’t stop me from being attracted towards what I like in chubby people and enjoying the “eye candy” in some way. I’ve also had accepted reality I don’t need this kink to be satisfied in a relationship. I’ve had relationships in the past where while it had been brought up and talked about, it was never engaged. Honestly from my experience I’ve been completely okay with that!

Also what Harleen said beforehand is also a great point as well. Sometimes you can be part of the community without going into the deep end of it if you don’t know how to swim! If you know what I’m saying?

I have to say that this was beautifully written there. Bravo to you for standing up for yourself and your own happiness!

I even agree with the last statement a lot. People should consider being encouraged to be happy with however look that they want instead of what society wants to tell/indoctrinate you for. 💯

Ah yes good old PowerPoint. Good times! Sometimes I still use that to make content depending on what I want to present. I have actually been pretty okay with talking on to the camera beforehand and being doing so for quite some time.

Though this particular one that I am doing is going to be a bit different. But we’ll see what I can do when it comes down to the process.

I have noticed that myself as well! Or just people talking and going about their day without any sort of flashy editing. It’s almost like people want to push for the return of authenticity on the platform again or something like that?

I think this particular style is what I am planning on doing by speaking what I want to say, without a script, with some minor editing. It might be a little harder to do for me (joys of being autistic) but it’s probably worth it for the sake of sound more real and authentic. Y’know?

Haha! Well hey this is why I keep coming back to a site like this. 😁

Well looks like this thread went in the direction that I was not hoping for.

In the end of the day I respect Munchies as a fellow user and her insight, knowledge and real work that she’s done for our community. Despite what I think about her. I can’t always control what people think about me nor do I can’t make everyone happy and vice versa, that’s reality.

And to be a better ally with the community (or any sort of community) you have to learn from your criticism within and grow to be more mature and do better. Perhaps now I might have come to a point where I actually want to do something positive for once?? I suppose we shall see what happens.

True, I mean someone had to call out the spade in something to help this place to become more ordered. In which I do respect.

Also I’d like to kindly ask anyone to keep the “beef” of Munchies out of this topic? Yes I know I brought it up, but that’s NOT what this thread is about.

I will agree hard to this one! Because yeah with the fact that we even got to this point where everything has to be policed and politicized is exhausting. Especially when we’re talking about the echo chambers that dogpile you for trying to say something reasonable.