Enas:
I think it boils down to two things:

First, make sure she is a competent person. (A heck of a lot of peopel aren't competent at all i think, so thats something to be concerned about.)

Then, just be blunt about it, but at the same time, make sure to not get her uncomfortable. Put the things you wanna communicate to her i a proper order, from first to last.

Munchies:
Just because you are competent does not mean you are compatible.

Enas:
Im doing digital Art. I can help you with whatever you like when it comes to 2D. Do you have a Graphics pen tablet?

Munchies:
It's weird to offer assistance when an artists didn't request it.

Munchies:
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what's something you wish you knew before you dipped your toes into feedism
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Archibold789:
Is that not the nature of threads and forum posts? Pose a question, get some feedback. I’m not interested in other people’s exes at all. It’s a situational query.

Why do you guys immediately jump to concluding that I want other people’s stories or dirty details? I don’t. It was (what I thought) just a question of generality.

I guess topics having to do with exes is too triggering because there is a lot of projection that I have nothing to do with coming my way. I’m merely interested in anything that may have to do with what I’m dealing with. No ill will. No fishing. Certainly no “trolling”. Just a typical question that has snowballed into a shit show for some reason.

Like c’mon guys. This is bizarre.

Archibold789:
Fair enough. Thank you for responding with something other than conjecture. I’ll state the question again:

“Anybody have an ex who was (or wasn’t) into feedism and ended up getting huge after the breakup?”

Same as when I posted it initially. The implied or inferred question being…has this happened to anyone else? I was never sure if my ex was into feedism but she sure seems like she is now.

Things just went from 0 to 100 real quick with people assuming there was some kind of coercion involved. I don’t feel the need to break down every fine point of my situation because A) I’m not obligated to when the first remark is pithy and seemingly “anti-ex” or something and B ) I honestly felt like it was a straightforward question.


I was not aware of the rabid, finger-pointing nature in the forums. I’m hoping it just a couple of bad eggs but jeez. Being called “r*pey” or “toxic” is well within bounds for defense when nothing I said alluded to that at all.

Again, this is pretty common question in feedism circles online and for some reason it’s uh…well I don't even know what it is here. Seems like FF is being held hostage by a bunch of ill-intended bullies who are looking for something to shit on.

ALSO again I attempted this in good faith. So much for that.

Canuck:
trolling for stories about exes is just creepy in and of itself. there's no consent, and it just cries out for something bordering on revenge.

here's my advice: get over your ex. move on. do it silently, if you can. if you struggle with that, try just not waste a lot of time talking about people who are no longer in your life.

now, if your question is something unrelated to that, then rephrase your question.

Canuck:
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everyone who has responded told you: it's creepy!
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Archibold789:
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Why do you care that I care? Maybe it’s more nuanced than you know.