I’m just glad it wasn’t worse, you find a previous unknown lump on your body and you think the worst, happy in that regard.
I don’t know how to control myself around food anymore and where to even start is my biggest thing. I’ll be going through with it just as a note I’m def not risking my health.
Hopefully some weight loss and physical therapy fixes it the Dr said surgery is the last option so that’s a plus. Probably gonna be stepping away for a while, hopefully I come back again I like being this big
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I have always had some pain in mid side for along while it comes and goes but over the weekend It was extremely painful and I felt a lump I’ve never noticed before I can’t see it or anything only feel it so i got an appointment. I went to the doctor today turns out I have a rib cage cartilage hernia and because of my weight and the obvious issue of my large amounts of fat they want me to lose weight so they can get in and fix it, and while I get it to an extent is that really there only option? just wanted to vent a little because I just feel like this is turning point for me.
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Bobo:
A tailor is your friend! That's first. I can't tell you how many things fit funny as my body grew and grew and i really wanted to look like a sharp fat dude. Tailor fixes pants, shirts, coats. I mean it's money but I assume you're talking about a professional situation so 5 or 10 buckaroos for an alteration won't kill ya.
Second - to be comfy, let the belly hang out and put a loose (and tailored) jacket over it. Or just let it be "out there" and others can deal.
Around the waist is ok, but ya kinda look like a barge and it can be distracting or uncomfortable because the pants slip down anyway and you have to keep pulling them up which sux.
Suspenders are a classy way to pull off the "fat man in charge!" thing. AND they hold up the damned pants.
Hope this helps!
Yup, Quite telling that when you see big guys they are really dressed up or seemingly underdressed and that’s because expensive tailoring is the only option in many cases
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As you get bigger you’ll realize it’ll get harder and harder to clothe yourself — there’s a reason why bigger guys don’t seem to dress well and it’s because it’s all that fits fat guy stores usually don’t have much more than 5xl
I gave up on non elastic a while back because it became to much of a struggle to reach around my belly to button. But I felt like a goober when my pants went around my belly
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Arame:
Your metabolism or BMR(Basal metabolic rate) is directly influenced by your lean body mass index(how much you weigh minus the body fat). The leaner you are, meaning less body fat you have, the higher your metabolism will be. To slow it down, you need to increase your body fat percentage. One pound of fat is 3,500 calories. So, to gain one pound of fat a week, you need to consume 500 calories above your TDEE (total daily energy expenditure) aka maintenance calories per day to reach 3,500 calories in a 7 day span. Because 3,500 divided by 7 is 500.
By my calculations, you being a male at 5’11, 128lbs. Your BMR should be around 1,593. Assuming that you want to live a sedentary lifestyle, then your TDEE should be around 1,911 calories per day. So, to gain, you should be consuming 2,411 calories a day. Hopefully this helps
Morbidly A Beast:
Exactly! can you like write how to do the math given activity levels and what not, I was always questioning how that effected the math.
Arame:
Sure, I could! But not for you 😊
I don’t think you understand I’m not asking for you to do the math for me I’m asking you do lay out the formula because people always ask for info like it, to help people. I’m not entirely sure why you have a problem with me.
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Enas, you harass women and do nazi apologetics, we know what you are doing.
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Morbidly A Beast:
I’m not talking about hypothetical abuse I’m talking about actual reported abuse or like people being abusive for the world to see in a public space.
That’s why I likened it to women talking about being harassed. While it’s different the same actions should be taken.
Enas:
The example i gave with moderators asking for proof is the most realisitic example i can think of.
I have a suspicion most of the abuse happens in private. That's because a lot of the time the abuse is narcissistic and narcissists are self-aware about not showing their true colors in public.
With public harassment things are very simple because everyone, aside from incels codnems it. No justification, or hell, not even an accusation needs to happen. Except for legal reasons (like so, police can arrest the person who harassed, if that is suposed to happen). Beyond that we'd talk about systemic problems.
I don't know why you bring twitter as an example, people there go through much more abuse, missinformation, etc.
Even offense can be justified. For example if you accuse someone of abuse, and that is a negative quality (which of course it is), that -definitionally- is an insult to his character. The fact that its true doesnt negate that. Why is this importand, though?
Because you *have* to judge if an offense is justified or not. That may be easy if you have first experience of the event that lead to the offense, but its hard if you dont. Most people judge with what feels right, not what is logically right.
All these details are why i think the rules are too shallow btw. They don’t consider all this nuance and its left to the mods' personal judgement ability, which no matter who the moderator is, it will always have room for improvement.
There is more to add too. For example i would really appreciate it if this community cared more for the mental health of its members in order to help them become resilient, rather than take an approach which leads to *only* catering to peoples inabilities, and often those inabilities compromise the social health of a community (leading to people being bitter about each other, etc)
This sounds like a bunch of word salad to justify people being hurt by overt racism.
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Morbidly A Beast:
Well you’ll be very happy if and when you decide to get big and fat because despite being a fat straight man most of my admirers are fit gay men so w you.
I’m not complaining mind you it’s just I’m not into guys
TheUltimate323:
That sounds good. So you're saying that many fit gay men love obese men.
I hope I can grow into a very obese body and find a fit boyfriend who loves my enormous fatness.
yes, that is exactly what I’m saying
I wish you all the luck
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I find it funny that i knew what I did two years ago and I still hold to it, I think a lot of men just have really bad expectations and have a really bad un-evaluated sense of entitlement when entering a space like this.
It’s giving main character syndrome. It’s giving “I had no luck on the apps” vibes.
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X/twitter is terrible for alot of reasons but if you say terrible and offensive things your account is suspended for up to 7 days, why should people here be subject to more abuse when we are here to talk about being/admiring fat?
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