Can feederism be non sexual or is it mainly that?

EzP:
I know the topic itself is usually sexual, but for me, I don't always feel sexual about it. My journey is part of me being comfortable with myself and enjoying the food and the journey. Sure I feel some sort of sexual gratification from it sometimes, but not all the time. That and I was thinking about having a relationship(which I probably will make a post about on another forum) that wasn't just sexual. Is that a completely different thing or is it part of feederism? I've only joined the community pretty recently, so I apologize if I may be wrong.

Munchies:
Feedism is, at it's core, about feeding people and being fed. Fat fetishism is all about enjoying fatness.

Both of these things are not inherently sexual.

Plus, this community has a good chunk of sex-repulsed ace people. If they can find their bliss here, so can you.


Completely right. I liked being chubby/fat as a kid, and I liked fat characters in books and TV, long before I had sexual thoughts or feelings. My first grade teacher was a big woman, and I thought she was pretty and sweet.

Same with my husband. He is of course sexually attracted to fat, but he also just finds a full figure visually pleasing in a non-sexual way.

Of course fat admiration, gaining, etc. can be sexy, but that's not all it is. There's a place for everyone here!
1 day

Experience with honeymoon travel while supersized

Raven:
Sounds like you guys had an amazing time! Thanks for sharing with us, I've always wondered how traveling would be at that size. My wife and I are no where near that size yet, but if and when one of us does reach this size it's good to know there's accommodations. I wish you two nothing but the best and many happy years together!

BigBallBellyGirl:
Thank you so much!

Supersized travel is definitely possible. I used to fly more frequently but I was 350-375 then. This was my first time on a plane at anywhere close to this weight. It certainly requires a lot of planning, and I'm well aware there would be plenty of places that would be impossible because of inaccessibility.

The best piece of advice I could offer would be to make no assumptions and call ahead. In booking at the resort, we asked for a call from management at the actual property, which we got. I was very transparent about my needs, and the answers we got were accurate.

Additionally, i'd encourage a very large person traveling to understand, there will be some discomfort and inconvenience. Flying simply isn't comfortable, and aircraft bathrooms are impossible. In those cases, you plan accordingly and make the best of it

Good luck to you and your wife with wherever your gaining journeys lead. Don't let anyone make you think your adventures are automatically over as a big person. As long as you're mobile, you have options!

SumoSized:
It honestly really sucks that the airline industry is so shitty, with how many people are plus sized nowadays you'd think there would be an incentive to have a section of seats for larger people.
But hey, I'm still glad y'all were able to make the most out of your honeymoon. It sounds like y'all had a wonderful time, and I hope more feedees on this site are able to take advantage of the travel advice you gave.


Thanks for your kind words. You're SO right about the airline industry. My husband is tallish and fit, and my dad is 5'10" and quite thin. Neither are comfortable in economy. I think the philosophy is 'Sell as many tickets as you can and pack 'em in the flying mailing tube'.
1 day

Experience with honeymoon travel while supersized

Raven:
Sounds like you guys had an amazing time! Thanks for sharing with us, I've always wondered how traveling would be at that size. My wife and I are no where near that size yet, but if and when one of us does reach this size it's good to know there's accommodations. I wish you two nothing but the best and many happy years together!


Thank you so much!

Supersized travel is definitely possible. I used to fly more frequently but I was 350-375 then. This was my first time on a plane at anywhere close to this weight. It certainly requires a lot of planning, and I'm well aware there would be plenty of places that would be impossible because of inaccessibility.

The best piece of advice I could offer would be to make no assumptions and call ahead. In booking at the resort, we asked for a call from management at the actual property, which we got. I was very transparent about my needs, and the answers we got were accurate.

Additionally, i'd encourage a very large person traveling to understand, there will be some discomfort and inconvenience. Flying simply isn't comfortable, and aircraft bathrooms are impossible. In those cases, you plan accordingly and make the best of it

Good luck to you and your wife with wherever your gaining journeys lead. Don't let anyone make you think your adventures are automatically over as a big person. As long as you're mobile, you have options!
3 days

Painful stuffings

Munchies:
Well that's a weird thing to say to someone who doesn't have any pics on FF.

And why on earth would I share my intimate pictures with my partner online? That doesn't seem smart.

BigBallBellyGirl:
YUP, there are SO many reasons not to post pics, even non-identifying ones, on line, but the only real reason you need is not wanting to. Certainly no judgement on those who do... I enjoy the galleries too! But yeah... I'm personally not one to share on a public forum I had some creepy encounters when I put mine out there years ago, and one is still floating around without my consent.

All that said, I'm glad you two had fun. I bet the pizza hit the spot!

Munchies:
Heh, yeah, I've seen a few creeps rudely demand pictures of you in public before. Always wild AF.

And yes! It was very fun! I stuffed him, jumped his bones, and then we cuddled until the food coma took him out.

All and all, it was a good evening.

BigBallBellyGirl:
Cuddling while stuffed is the best! Everything feels so much warmer and snuggly! Not to mention, having a full belly touched in extra nice!

Munchies:
Soooooo true. He got lots of belly rubs - gentle ones because aftercare is important. I even lifted up his hang to rub the underside.

He love it when I do that.


Aftercare IS important, and I think, in the case of newer feedees, helps create positive associations to stuffing!

And yeah, as far as online idiots, the wildest one was some guy who DM'd me, 'Prove you're not a man or I'll out you!' Um, no. First of all, I don't post or send ANY photos, much less the kind that would 'prove' my gender. Second, it was a first time, unsolicited message. Crazy.
4 days

Experience with honeymoon travel while supersized

BigBallBellyGirl:
I consider myself a very lucky woman because I married the person I love most in the world eight days ago. We live in Pennsylvania and chose a Sandals resort for our honeymoon. Because we knew at my size, travel would have special considerations, we over planned, which allowed us to have an amazing time and greatly reduced stress. Here are some of our experiences, which include both inconveniences and things that went very very well!

Air travel-- Getting special assistance at the airports was very smart. So was traveling with my own wheelchair, as the bariatric ones at the airport were smaller than mine. I think I've reached a size though, that outside of flying private (which I've never done), no accomodations are going to be comfortable for someone close to 600lb, even with two seats in business on a front row. The issue for me was the depth of the seats. My size means I sit far forward, and the seats cut me off in the thighs while my belly extended past the seat depth. Also, I advise against flying with a stuffed belly. More on that in a moment

Accomodations -- Sandals resorts are incredibly accessible for people with disabilities and supersized folks. I was comfortable and didn't struggle in most spaces at the resort itself, although I was unable to go on the offshore island excursions by small boat. The king sized bed did support my weight, although the mattress wasn't comfortable (I sunk into it.) The accessible roll-in shower was also smart. I appreciated the setup at the resort pools too. Typically at a pool, I'm confined to actually being in the water because I don't trust pool furniture to support me. However, this resort had the partially submerged concrete loungera at the pool's edge. These helped me stay cool and also gave me another option to sit, read, and enjoy cocktails.

The food - Our resort offered SO MANY options in their all inclusive package as well as full room service. I enjoyed Italian, seafood, Mediterranean, steakhouse cuisine, Asian. Whatever we wanted was available, and the breakfasts were incredible too. We didn't want our whole honeymoon to be about food, but I also didn't restrict myself. On our next to last day though, we did a full fledged stuffing day. I ate huge meals at eight of the ten restaurants and got room service twice. I ended up immobilized, bloated, and short of breath by the end of the day, and somewhat lethargic the following day. I will add, my belly was still stuffed when we flew home, and I suffered from major bloating, discomfort, and leg swelling on the flights. Not sure eating tens of thousands of calories and flying two days later if something I would do again.

Weight gain - did put on about 14 pounds in 5 days, so I'm going to have to be mindful of my health since my body doesn't do so well when I hit 600, but I am glad we got to "play" and enjoy some fun with stuffing me to the brim. My belly button has also almost completely flattened out with the added fat on my gut. It's not quite an outtie, but there's now only a very shallow indent with a puffy, raised ring around it. It makes me feel like I've unlocked a new level of big belly!

So much more to tell, but I'm thankful for a special celebration with people we care about and then for an amazing week. I'm also glad I pre scheduled Monday and Tuesday off from work to unwind before getting back to reality!

Munchies:
Congrats on the wedding! I wish you and your husband every happiness!


Thank you so much, Munchies! I'm grateful for your kindness and well wishes.
4 days

Painful stuffings

Munchies:
My partner and I decided that since he's been doing so well with his fitness journey lately, he deserved a treat today.

I got him an extra-large pizza with lots of toppings and made him eat the entire thing in one sitting. It might not be the most impressive amount, but it's still pretty respectable when you've been eating normal portions for months.

After that, he was so beautifully beached. And, of course, you have to have some vigorous belly shaking, too.

XINGO:
Pics or it never happened.

Munchies:
Well that's a weird thing to say to someone who doesn't have any pics on FF.

And why on earth would I share my intimate pictures with my partner online? That doesn't seem smart.

BigBallBellyGirl:
YUP, there are SO many reasons not to post pics, even non-identifying ones, on line, but the only real reason you need is not wanting to. Certainly no judgement on those who do... I enjoy the galleries too! But yeah... I'm personally not one to share on a public forum I had some creepy encounters when I put mine out there years ago, and one is still floating around without my consent.

All that said, I'm glad you two had fun. I bet the pizza hit the spot!

Munchies:
Heh, yeah, I've seen a few creeps rudely demand pictures of you in public before. Always wild AF.

And yes! It was very fun! I stuffed him, jumped his bones, and then we cuddled until the food coma took him out.

All and all, it was a good evening.


Cuddling while stuffed is the best! Everything feels so much warmer and snuggly! Not to mention, having a full belly touched in extra nice!
4 days

Experience with honeymoon travel while supersized

I consider myself a very lucky woman because I married the person I love most in the world eight days ago. We live in Pennsylvania and chose a Sandals resort for our honeymoon. Because we knew at my size, travel would have special considerations, we over planned, which allowed us to have an amazing time and greatly reduced stress. Here are some of our experiences, which include both inconveniences and things that went very very well!

Air travel-- Getting special assistance at the airports was very smart. So was traveling with my own wheelchair, as the bariatric ones at the airport were smaller than mine. I think I've reached a size though, that outside of flying private (which I've never done), no accomodations are going to be comfortable for someone close to 600lb, even with two seats in business on a front row. The issue for me was the depth of the seats. My size means I sit far forward, and the seats cut me off in the thighs while my belly extended past the seat depth. Also, I advise against flying with a stuffed belly. More on that in a moment

Accomodations -- Sandals resorts are incredibly accessible for people with disabilities and supersized folks. I was comfortable and didn't struggle in most spaces at the resort itself, although I was unable to go on the offshore island excursions by small boat. The king sized bed did support my weight, although the mattress wasn't comfortable (I sunk into it.) The accessible roll-in shower was also smart. I appreciated the setup at the resort pools too. Typically at a pool, I'm confined to actually being in the water because I don't trust pool furniture to support me. However, this resort had the partially submerged concrete loungera at the pool's edge. These helped me stay cool and also gave me another option to sit, read, and enjoy cocktails.

The food - Our resort offered SO MANY options in their all inclusive package as well as full room service. I enjoyed Italian, seafood, Mediterranean, steakhouse cuisine, Asian. Whatever we wanted was available, and the breakfasts were incredible too. We didn't want our whole honeymoon to be about food, but I also didn't restrict myself. On our next to last day though, we did a full fledged stuffing day. I ate huge meals at eight of the ten restaurants and got room service twice. I ended up immobilized, bloated, and short of breath by the end of the day, and somewhat lethargic the following day. I will add, my belly was still stuffed when we flew home, and I suffered from major bloating, discomfort, and leg swelling on the flights. Not sure eating tens of thousands of calories and flying two days later if something I would do again.

Weight gain - did put on about 14 pounds in 5 days, so I'm going to have to be mindful of my health since my body doesn't do so well when I hit 600, but I am glad we got to "play" and enjoy some fun with stuffing me to the brim. My belly button has also almost completely flattened out with the added fat on my gut. It's not quite an outtie, but there's now only a very shallow indent with a puffy, raised ring around it. It makes me feel like I've unlocked a new level of big belly!

So much more to tell, but I'm thankful for a special celebration with people we care about and then for an amazing week. I'm also glad I pre scheduled Monday and Tuesday off from work to unwind before getting back to reality!
4 days

Waffle house

I love the hash browns, smothered in cheese!!
4 days

Painful stuffings

Munchies:
My partner and I decided that since he's been doing so well with his fitness journey lately, he deserved a treat today.

I got him an extra-large pizza with lots of toppings and made him eat the entire thing in one sitting. It might not be the most impressive amount, but it's still pretty respectable when you've been eating normal portions for months.

After that, he was so beautifully beached. And, of course, you have to have some vigorous belly shaking, too.

XINGO:
Pics or it never happened.

Munchies:
Well that's a weird thing to say to someone who doesn't have any pics on FF.

And why on earth would I share my intimate pictures with my partner online? That doesn't seem smart.


YUP, there are SO many reasons not to post pics, even non-identifying ones, on line, but the only real reason you need is not wanting to. Certainly no judgement on those who do... I enjoy the galleries too! But yeah... I'm personally not one to share on a public forum I had some creepy encounters when I put mine out there years ago, and one is still floating around without my consent.

All that said, I'm glad you two had fun. I bet the pizza hit the spot!
4 days

How to sleep better after a big/heavy meal?

Bigandbloated:
Drinking high calorie shakes or eating a big/ fatty meal before bed really messes with my sleep, and I'll sleep like crap and wake up multiple times sometimes with reflux (though not all the time). Some people on r/gainers say they can down a whole WG shake before bed and sleep like a baby, making me wonder is there anything I can do to sleep better? The obvious answer is don't eat just before bed, but with my days being so hectic lately oftentimes those are the only time slots I can fit a big meal in.

Also if you're wondering it's not sleep apnea. I've been tested already and this doesn't happen on days I don't eat before bed. I just seem to be a very light sleeper.

Munchies:
Everyone is different. What is fine for one person might make someone else sick or put them in the hospital.

Biology is wild.

Your best bet is to stop doing this and spread your calories out. Follow the "eat little and often" method. Load up on nonperishable snacks. Make food that you can grab and eat on the go. If you must drink a WG shake, have it for breakfast, or put it in an insulated travel mug to drink on the go.

You are one of many people out there who cannot consume fatty things before bed. You cannot push through this. Continuing to do this will make it worse because you run the risk of developing GERD. And seeing that GERD makes eating hard, this isn't worth it.


Echoing this. Every person is so different. I can eat cheeseburgers and fries and pizza right before bed and still sleep comfortably. My active, fit fiance has to eat light if he has dinner after 8, or he'll have a tough night. Every time he's tested it, he's paid for it. Listen to your body. Try alternatives, like frequent grazing on food you can carry with you. On off days, when you're less busy, have your shakes in the morning or stuff yourself early, if that's an interest. You can absolutely still amp up your gaining. Just listen to your body's signals.
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