Encourager Queer Guy:
focus on your fantasies, find out what you turns you on about gaining and talk to people in the community .. also remember that kinks can evolve and change overtime
I'm 46 years old. I've been a member of this community (here and elsewhere) one way or another since the late 90's. I've been big, I've been small and everywhere in between. A little more than two years ago I was in the best shape of my life. 194lbs, eating well and exercising. Then I decided to take a break and have some of the foods I had been avoiding. Some turned into some more then a lot more. I gained 72lbs in 9 months. Since then I lost some and then regained it and more to my highest ever weight of 275lbs. A few months ago I decided to eat a bit better and get some more walking in. Why? I'm not sure. Just felt like it I guess. Not even necessarily looking to lose weight. I have been a yo-yo dieter my whole adult life. My name here was to say I didn't want to yo-yo anymore. Yet, I did exactly that. Granted I didn't lose as much as I had in the past and rebounded as always. This time while losing some, I've discovered that I have more subcutaneous fat than before. In my years and years of gaining and losing and gaining and losing, I've never been this squishy. I did not expect it. The bigger issue, though, is that my mind is in "healthier" mode. Finding myself squishy has set off a cognitive dissonance I don't know how to deal with. I'm not against being squishier, it's what I've always wanted. I am just having trouble processing the fact that I've accidentally wound up here.
16 hours
Encourager Queer Guy:
maybe it's not about being flabby for you, maybe it's about actual size and feeling physically hindered by your own fat .. soft fat is actually squishy and allows you to be more flexible than a big rock hard belly that shifts your center of gravity
This could be the case. No idea where I'll go from here.
1 day
NoMoYoYo:
My lifelong dream was to become a fat, flabby guy. A few months ago I reached my highest weight of 275lbs. But I had a big ball gut with little flab.
Since then, I've lost about 15lbs. I decided to eat better/healthier and walk some more. It seems like most of the fat I've lost is of the visceral type, leaving me more flabby.
But in a strange turn of fate, I'm not enjoying it as much as I'd hoped. I don't know if it's because I'm in the process of losing weight (don't know how far I'll go), or if I don't actually lile it.
I'm so confused.
Munchies:
Do you prefer the soft flabbiness? Or do you prefer the ball belly you had?
NoMoYoYo:
I've always wanted this body. I've gained and lost so many times over the years and never been able to achieve it. I think the difference is I haven't been below 245lbs in 2 years so the fat I've accumulated has distributed itself more, leading to more subcutaneous fat in my belly area which was hidden because the visceral fat was so dominant. Now that I'm eating healthier, the visceral fat is disappearing and I'm appearing flabby. I've never had this happen before. Previously while losing weight, I just tended to lose my ball gut and that was it. Yes, I had some loose skin, but this isn't that...at least not yet.
To answer your question, I don't know. I think I just discovered that I was a fat guy hidden behind a beer gut. I didn't realize it was the case until the big ball gut started to go away. I just didn't expect it so it's surpising to see.
Munchies:
That's fascinating to me. A fat guy behind the ball belly. Would you say that you placed most of your fat identity on your belly shape?
NoMoYoYo:
I wouldn't say that I've put my fat identity on my belly shape, but that ball belly shape has been my identity. Every time I am in a gaining phase, I wind up with a round ball belly. But it's not the belly I've wanted. And now I've accidentally unlocked the belly I did want. I started to eat better because I felt like it and added in some walking. And, naturally, I've lost some weight. I'm in a good groove, but discovering the squishier me that I've always wanted, has become somewhat a reality and now I don't know what to do. I didn't expect this result.
Munchies:
Good luck to ye figuring out what you are wanting.
Thanks. The ironic thing is that if I actually followed through on what I said I was going to do a while ago (eat healthier and walk/mild exercise), I might already have the body I wanted lol.
1 day
NoMoYoYo:
My lifelong dream was to become a fat, flabby guy. A few months ago I reached my highest weight of 275lbs. But I had a big ball gut with little flab.
Since then, I've lost about 15lbs. I decided to eat better/healthier and walk some more. It seems like most of the fat I've lost is of the visceral type, leaving me more flabby.
But in a strange turn of fate, I'm not enjoying it as much as I'd hoped. I don't know if it's because I'm in the process of losing weight (don't know how far I'll go), or if I don't actually lile it.
I'm so confused.
Munchies:
Do you prefer the soft flabbiness? Or do you prefer the ball belly you had?
NoMoYoYo:
I've always wanted this body. I've gained and lost so many times over the years and never been able to achieve it. I think the difference is I haven't been below 245lbs in 2 years so the fat I've accumulated has distributed itself more, leading to more subcutaneous fat in my belly area which was hidden because the visceral fat was so dominant. Now that I'm eating healthier, the visceral fat is disappearing and I'm appearing flabby. I've never had this happen before. Previously while losing weight, I just tended to lose my ball gut and that was it. Yes, I had some loose skin, but this isn't that...at least not yet.
To answer your question, I don't know. I think I just discovered that I was a fat guy hidden behind a beer gut. I didn't realize it was the case until the big ball gut started to go away. I just didn't expect it so it's surpising to see.
Munchies:
That's fascinating to me. A fat guy behind the ball belly. Would you say that you placed most of your fat identity on your belly shape?
I wouldn't say that I've put my fat identity on my belly shape, but that ball belly shape has been my identity. Every time I am in a gaining phase, I wind up with a round ball belly. But it's not the belly I've wanted. And now I've accidentally unlocked the belly I did want. I started to eat better because I felt like it and added in some walking. And, naturally, I've lost some weight. I'm in a good groove, but discovering the squishier me that I've always wanted, has become somewhat a reality and now I don't know what to do. I didn't expect this result.
2 days
NoMoYoYo:
My lifelong dream was to become a fat, flabby guy. A few months ago I reached my highest weight of 275lbs. But I had a big ball gut with little flab.
Since then, I've lost about 15lbs. I decided to eat better/healthier and walk some more. It seems like most of the fat I've lost is of the visceral type, leaving me more flabby.
But in a strange turn of fate, I'm not enjoying it as much as I'd hoped. I don't know if it's because I'm in the process of losing weight (don't know how far I'll go), or if I don't actually lile it.
I'm so confused.
Munchies:
Do you prefer the soft flabbiness? Or do you prefer the ball belly you had?
I've always wanted this body. I've gained and lost so many times over the years and never been able to achieve it. I think the difference is I haven't been below 245lbs in 2 years so the fat I've accumulated has distributed itself more, leading to more subcutaneous fat in my belly area which was hidden because the visceral fat was so dominant. Now that I'm eating healthier, the visceral fat is disappearing and I'm appearing flabby. I've never had this happen before. Previously while losing weight, I just tended to lose my ball gut and that was it. Yes, I had some loose skin, but this isn't that...at least not yet.
To answer your question, I don't know. I think I just discovered that I was a fat guy hidden behind a beer gut. I didn't realize it was the case until the big ball gut started to go away. I just didn't expect it so it's surpising to see.
2 days
My lifelong dream was to become a fat, flabby guy. A few months ago I reached my highest weight of 275lbs. But I had a big ball gut with little flab.
Since then, I've lost about 15lbs. I decided to eat better/healthier and walk some more. It seems like most of the fat I've lost is of the visceral type, leaving me more flabby.
But in a strange turn of fate, I'm not enjoying it as much as I'd hoped. I don't know if it's because I'm in the process of losing weight (don't know how far I'll go), or if I don't actually lile it.
I'm so confused.
3 days
I'm taking a staycation with my family in a couple of weeks. We were looking into what we could do.
I considered the Amusement Park, but realised that I will not be able to get the bar/belt on for most if not all the rides. I know it was tough a few years ago and I was 30lbs lighter.
There is a Water Park nearby as well. Turns out they have weight limits on a few of the slides. I had never heard of that before. There's a couple that have a 250lb limit. There are a few that have a 400lb combined limit, but no single rider can be more than 250. Apparently they have scales there. Almost tempted to go just to try that out and to be told I'm too heavy.
3 months
I was at a family funeral a couple days ago. At 275lbs, I was definitely the fattest one there. I wore a suit I bought 30lbs ago. To say it was tight would be an understatement.
Saw many in my family who had never seen me this fat. Nobody said anything, but I was definitely conscious of the situation. I am over 100lbs heavier than when I got married in 2007.
It was the first time that I actually felt big. I loved it.
5 months
I plugged my numbers into a BMI calculator. 5'3" and 275lbs. 48.7 was the result.
Then just for fun, I plugged a co-workers approximate numbers. He is 6'5" and he's mentioned that he weighs 400lbs. His result was 47.4.
He is the biggest guy I know, yet technically, I am bigger than he is. That is shocking to me to think of it in that perspective.
I know BMI doesn't tell the whole story, but still to see the comparison blew me away.
5 months
Kitsune:
I will admit I never went on an intense ride ever in my lifetime. I do want to try one though. Maybe Space Mountain can be my first baby steps. Yeah, I think it turns out I am more of an atmosphere type of person. Hence why Tokyo Disneysea and Hong Kong Disneyland tickle my fancy. If only crowds weren't an issue because once again I get very anxious and fear of getting lost.
SumoSized:
Yeah the crowds are the biggest issue and I've heard they've only gotten worse. You basically have to pay extra for the fast pass system so you don't have to wait in crazy long lines
Kitsune2:
I partially watched a Defunct Disneyland video on that. (my attention span is short lol) If my memory serves correctly, doesn't the Fast Pass get used by a bunch of people to the point it causes more lines?
SumoSized:
Honestly probably, there's no such thing as a quick anything at Disney parks. But fast pass is probably still faster than waiting in the normal line
I went to Disney World last March and can confirm that the fast pass is definitely faster, but there are lineups still.
The one thing I like about Disney is that many of the rides are "Pooh Friendly". Meaning portly people like us can fit onto them.
A few months later, my family went to the local amusement park and I could not fit on many rides. I was about 250 or so at the time
5 months
