Anjou:
I would be lying to say I didn’t bake the whole office cookies without certain thoughts of someone getting too fat for their suit

Munchies:
Husband wife shenanigans.

Anjou:
As someone who meant the love of her life at work, as well as having worked in HR in the past, it really depends what you mean by “flirting”?

Munchies:
Plus it's not as simple as getting enthusiastic consent. There's power dynamics and conflicts of interest to keep in mind too.

So while there are ways to make it work, it is a very careful game you have to play. You have to keep everything above board as it can impact both of your career paths. It can determine which departments you can work in, what promotions you get, or what teams you work on. I've seen some jobs that make you sign paperwork when it gets serious.

And don't even get me started on the potential fall out if it doesn't work out.

This isn't any shade towards you, Anjou. You and your husband seem to have a lovely relationship. But as a fellow former HR rep, I'm sure you have seen more failures than successes.

Anjou:
As someone who meant the love of her life at work, as well as having worked in HR in the past, it really depends what you mean by “flirting”?

Munchies:
Plus it's not as simple as getting enthusiastic consent. There's power dynamics and conflicts of interest to keep in mind too.

So while there are ways to make it work, it is a very careful game you have to play. You have to keep everything above board as it can impact both of your career paths. It can determine which departments you can work in, what promotions you get, or what teams you work on. I've seen some jobs that make you sign paperwork when it gets serious.

And don't even get me started on the potential fall out if it doesn't work out.

This isn't any shade towards you, Anjou. You and your husband seem to have a lovely relationship. But as a fellow former HR rep, I'm sure you have seen more failures than successes.

Boops Boops:
Flirting is now harassment.

Munchies:
It can be, and I am shocked that you were unaware.

I remember this one job I used to work at. This was in person before the plague. We had a high turnover, so there were a lot of male new hires who came through.

I got hit on a lot. It was gross. It was creepy. I felt so unsafe. One time, a supervisor in another department started hitting on me because he liked how I filled out my clothes (I was dressed modestly, but I am still a curvy woman.)

I reported him to HR, and he was fired shortly after. I found out through the grapevine that he would hit on his subordinates a lot. Several women had reported him, but nothing was done until he stepped outside of his department to hit on me.

I've worked in HR before. Once in a call center and once in a University. I can promise you that you can be disciplined if you hit on someone and they report you to HR. I've seen demotions, suspensions, and terminations.

Please tell me that you aren't doing this to your coworkers because that is classifiable as sexual assault.

And yes, this happens to men too. I had a work buddy who's female boss kept hitting on him. Woman would not take no for an answer. It nearly became a lawsuit for creating a hostile work environment, so the company fired her.

Thehungryone:
Its hard to say. I have a degree health, wellness & fitness & studied 3 years in a dietetics program (Ironic I know) and I have read tons of peer reviewed, double blind studies on tons of health related issues. Lifestyle & genetics play a big part, reducing stress helps a ton, sleeping enough, getting enough micronutrients & water is important, not using tobacco products & drinking helps to keep you healthy as well. Even having great oral hygiene will help reduce your chances of a heart attack. The point of being too heavy to be healthy will depend on the individual. Id say take a good look at his family, what health problems they have had, what type of diet & lifestyles do they have, & that will give you somewhat of an idea of what he might be susceptible to & adjust from there.

Karenjenk:
I "helped" an ex expand his Moobs.
BC pills really moved them along.
He go so that he would only go out in public wearing loose clothes and a jacket or a tight undershirt and a baggy jacket.

Estrogen in guys can do really amazing things as far as changing body type. It also makes them gain weight overall. Some men respond to this more than others. But my man... it was amazingly ridiculous.
He also got lazier and didnt exercise anymore.
in every way this is a good way to make a man change.