Like reaalllly why, in detail? It's fun to think about, because there are so many awesome aspects about feederism. Here are my thoughts, x-posted from the ol' feederism blog: thefeedbackblog.tumblr.com


In a completely non-sequiter moment, a friend recently asked me “So, why are you into feederism?” I told her I could go on and on and on, and she flatly replied, “Do it.”



So I did. Here’s what I said.

For me, it’s the convergence of three independent things that I enjoy very much. When they’re combined, they become this amazingly addictive thing that allows you to become intimate with someone in a way that nothing else does. It’s taboo, it’s warm, and it’s personal.

Firstly, I think fat women are gorgeous. This is by no means discriminatory against thinner women - they’re definitely attractive too - but heavier women just float my boat. They always have, and they always will. Curves, hips, softness… yup, love it.

In addition to that, I’ve always loved taking care of the people I care about. This is probably dangerously close to bragging, but it’s honestly one of the reasons I love feederism. Thinking about feeding someone, taking care of their every need, and spoiling the crap out of them is immensely satisfying. Seeing them gain weight is the manifestation of all that – they got fat because they’re so happy and well taken care of. I realize this sounds kind of creepy when it’s written out like this, but all it really means is that making other people happy makes me happy. It’s simple:

Food = Happy.

Food + Food + Food = Fat.

Therefore, Fat = Happy + Happy + Happy.

Mmmmm feeder math.

Despite the feedist theorem above, my favorite part about feederism has to be the exciting intimacy of it all. You’re going on an adventure with someone, and you’re going to a place that’s normally completely off limits. In doing that, you’re trusting this person – telling them your deepest desires, giving in to them, and sharing them together. It creates an extremely deep connection, one that I think is even deeper than sex. It’s dangerous and taboo, but it’s also reassuring and sublime. When you have a true feedist relationship with someone, you have a bond that 99% of other couples don’t have. An extra dimension – maybe that’s the best way to put it. It makes me feel lucky to be a feeder.

Thanks for all the kind words, I really appreciate it!

@Angelique - Careful with that pumpkin bread recipe, it's dangerously addictive

@Greywinter - I totally agree, fat stigma is probably the number one reason why there are so many more feeders than feedees. Like I said though, people who flaunt their fat are generally pretty strong willed, and that's always a positive trait. Quality > quantity

An excerpt from my blog, thefeedbackblog.tumblr.com
Thoughts?

Alright, let’s shine a little light on that elephant in the room.

Us feeders like to think that we’re in the same boat as feedees. We have similar preferences, we go to the same websites, and we love something that most would consider taboo. So we’re the same, right?

Sadly, we ain’t. The reason is simple, but many people never seem to fully wrap their head around it. At the end of the day, a feeder is the same as he ever was. There’s no evidence of his/her sexual preferences, and there’s nothing different about them for anyone to notice. A feeder is free to denounce feederism and start anew in seconds. There’s no accountability, and it just isn’t the same for a feedee. Because at the end of the day, a feedee is, well, fat.

As we all know, fat in today’s society comes with a healthy helping of stigma and negativity. It’s nasty, it’s evil, it’s unwarranted, but it’s reality. I have a hard time getting over this fact, because I know that helping someone gain weight is akin to introducing them to this cruelty. And what happens when a feeder/feedee relationship ends? A feeder simply moves on, but a feedee is left to deal with the hateful public on his or her own. It’s a huge, huge bummer.

Now I’m not trying to be negative. There are so many great things about feederism, and I could wax poetic for days about belly rubs, tummy rolls, and jiggles. I’m just trying to bring some recognition to the crap that feedees go through, and how audacious they are for swaggering through it. The feedees that make it through are the ones who are confident and full of self-esteem. They know who they are, they know they’re beautiful, and they don’t let the world bring them down. Some of the toughest, most strong willed people I’ve ever met have been feedees, and that doesn’t surprise me at all. So to all of the feedees and gainers out there, let me give you some props. You guys have nerves of steel and you aren’t afraid to be who you are. That’s ***ing admirable, and that’s ***ing awesome.

As I sit here with my stomach full of delicious thanksgiving leftovers, I thought I’d pause for a moment and reflect on how excellent it is to be one of “us” during the holidays. For a feeder, feedee, foodie, FA, BBW, or BHM, there just isn’t a better time than the present. Every year, between now and the new year, people around the world put their diets on hold and indulge. We cook feasts, bake desserts, drink our share, encourage overeating, and succumb to laziness. As a result, our belts become unbuckled, our buttons burst, our clothes begin to shrink, and our collective waistline grows. For everyone else, the holidays come with a healthy helping of guilt. But not for us.

We look at things differently – as our bellies grow and our shirts shrink, we feel accomplished, blissful, and satisfied. The added pounds are a reminder that we get to experience something that no one else does – a guilt free holiday season. We get to enjoy the pleasures of eggnog, gingerbread, cinnamon rolls, and cheesecake, plus the excitement of belly rolls, love handles, jiggles, and softness. And honestly – is there anything better than a big holiday meal, a warm blanket, and a belly rub?

Unfortunately for us FA’s, things aren’t always so easy. We often face animosity and stigmatization for our preferences, so it’s important to remember just how good we have it. The holidays are a prefect time to do that. Celebrate your preferences this season, and remember that as FA’s, we get to enjoy the holidays more than anyone else. If you ask me, that’s something to be thankful for.

This is our season. Enjoy!