fucking scary as shit for him to be all "oh I've never shared this with anyone! my partner is thin poor me!" and then start talking about benzos. Bet that is something he's explored to do exactly what sick fucks like that do

It is honestly better to assume that any picture not of themselves is without consent.

Surprisingly they have kept their account up. so far.

You came here *specifically* to cheat on your partner. That isn't love, for her, or yourself.

Yes, you *can* talk about it with other people. You choose not to, because you have not yet separated the SHAME (yes, shame) you feel about *being attracted to fat* from the simple fact that everyone (EVERYONE) has preferences, some less common.

If she was really your best friend, you would be willing to talk about this with her, even if you didn't know how. If she was really your "best friend" you would trust not being judged or ridiculed, or confident that if she did reject you, you could end the relationship with dignity and move on to find a better partner.

You are talking about fat women as though they are food on a menu, something to be selected whenever you feel the craving for a specific thing. People in the world are all human beings and deserve basic respect to not be reduced to "wide-hipped with fat asses."

Your problem is not "wanting what you can't have," it is that you literally view women as objects for YOUR pleasure. You are benefitting in other ways from your relationship with your partner; that is why you "love" her, but your "love" is attachment and affection, not love, because love is also a verb. Loving her means you would understand that being vulnerable is the best thing for both of you and your relationship. New kinks and attractions are an expression of vulnerability. If you don't trust her with that, to hold that space for you, then you don't have the relationship you think you do. You have one of convenience, or of other levels and needs that are not romantic at the depth you believe.

Imagine how you would feel if you were in her shoes: would you rather she just confess outright, even if it scared her? Or would you rather she sneak around, go onto forums, and reduce other men she found attractive to nothing but physical features, while *also* actively seeking connections to contain her feelings about it because she can't deal with them on her own like an adult? That'd make you feel like absolute shit, I hope. If that doesn't, then you don't have a relationship.

Instead, you are here, like countless others, acting as though they are dealing with some great moral dilemma that justifies infidelity (I am a person who believes there is sometimes justification for infidelity, this isn't one of them). You are too ashamed to even let other fat people see YOUR body.

Realizing well into a relationship that you learned something new about yourself like this is not the problem. This happens often. In fact, it's inevitable: people are *supposed* to grow and change in relationships. They are *supposed* to learn more about themselves and others around them. The mark on whether or not you are truly growing as a person is what you do when that happens. And this isn't it.

Signed, a fat person absolutely fucking sick to death of cowardly men so goddamn afraid of their own feelings it's never occurred to them they are supposed to exist and thus take them out on the fat people (excuse me, "wide-hipped and fat asses" as though we will welcome them warmly for their immaturity and refusal to take accountability for themselves.

I love when Grandpa Joe goes "I'm not surprised!" when she says she feels funny.

a;sldfja;lksdjfa there are few things that get me as riled up and immediately into subspace as anything along the lines of "there's no air in there... that's juice!" (or whatever other substance contextually appropriate. Fat, for example lol)

Having sexual desires or fantasies is normal, no matter what they are. Kinks don't really *mean* anything objectively. Psychologically our brains just fire off some synapses that connect some specific thing with our sex drives. We don't have much control over that.

What humans tend to do though is experience internalized shame, anxiety, and personalization of their fantasies, hence your question.

Your fantasy is not a reflection of your value or worthiness as a person. It *would* certainly help you to explore and question your desires more deeply; in a curious, non-judgmental way, so you can learn why they work the way they do.

Humiliation of some kind is very common in almost all sexual spaces. So long as you learn what you do like about it, what your limits are, respect others' limits, and engage in it consensually and safely for all parties, you're in the clear!

I'm aware of this. And I'm tired of getting notifications of it because I make it abundantly clear that I don't want *any* comments on my appearance, due to the overwhelming disgustingness of them. That's why I'm asking to have them disabled entirely. I want *prevention* and *proactive* features, not reactive.



I've never used a service where I couldn't edit captions on a photo I uploaded, or a title when it was required. This can be done on literally any other service, large or small.

The obvious solution might be to employ optional albums and sorting.


Thank you for putting them on the list, and I hope we can get some kind of update on them!

I don't want comments on my photos or videos. Ever. From anyone. I would like the option to disable these entirely.

Plus the ability to edit the caption would be very helpful. Some are just outdated, and I don't want to re-upload the photo.

I love blackmail stories!!