Tbh, gaining specifically with cream wouldn't make the difference, but gaining a lot of weight in a short length of time may lead to stretch marks emerging. Which, once those appear, are kinda permeant, even if they go from red to silver in colour.
1 year
Heya, I'm trans femme just kinda looking for friends and maybe the casual flirt or relationship if I get lucky ^ ^.
1 year
It's kinda why I tend to stick to messages here and see if they last a week of fun chatter. If they don't, well, they're probably gonna ghost on other platforms and aren't serious. I kinda at this point don't take it too seriously since I think while I'd love something more serious, most people here just want kink.
Edit: I will also say that I feel like at times there's crossed wires. I am kinda more of an incidental gainer who likes to gain and watch someone gain but in no rush whatsoever. Where some feeders will expect me to blow my entire wages to stuff myself for their satisfaction. Like, maybe others will be willing to sink tons of wages on this fetish, especially to random people on the internet, but not me tbh. More interested in friends and a partner.
2 years
Would say definitely a 4.5 or 4.75 since last post. Before had a small tummy that I could easily hide, and now it has definitely grown to a big belly. With the right clothes I can kinda hide it, but, I definitely wouldn't be surprised if people could tell I look a bit thicc'er. Not quite full on fat, but, seem to be kinda heading there!
2 years
I think for me empowerment is accepting that the lighter weight I used to be was just something I achieved through unhealthy methods and temporary. To accept that if I eat normally, I will end up at least chubby if not fat or obese, and that I should like my body still for it. Along with my whole gender stuff, I feel like I could actually be attractive to someone, at least one day I could be.
Empowerment for me is acceptance I am fat and growing, and that's okay.
2 years
Miachu:
What's people's views on this? Do you view this as a normal thing? Or do you think it is not etc etc
People can ask, and I can say no.
2 years
Finickyfeedee:
I also want to say I think a good idea might be to require people to answer questions before joining the website and go through an approval process by a real person reading their answers - NO personally identifiable information or photos should be required because it’s not a safe space if people have to risk being outed if information leaks, but short-answer questions about appropriate conduct (e.g. “Why would it be inappropriate to send this message to someone?” or “Give an example of a respectful way to approach a person you’re interested in”). This would serve the dual purpose of weeding out creeps who are foolish enough to say things like “Actually, I think it’s fine to send unsolicited sexts,” and weeding out creeps who are lazy or impatient because it would take time and effort to fill out the questionnaire and then wait for it to be reviewed and approved. Of course, some would still get through, but they’d be in smaller numbers and therefore easier for users to block and moderators to ban before things got out of hand.
I kinda disagree with an application form style for two reasons:
A. Those who would potentially be abusive would happily lie on such a form.
B. It would weed out neurodivergent people who may not have the social skills to navigate such an essay form. This could be a slightly good thing only in the sense that neurotypical people absolutely do not have a monopoly for bad behaviour, but it would inevitably weed out neurodivergent people who need such a safe space but are unable to pass a form due to lacking the ability to articulate their thoughts in isolation of someone else to talk to.
However, I absolutely agree that heavy moderation and deeply ingrained moderation tools would be key to it working.
2 years
For me I kinda initially found my weight gain to link to personal deep-seated gender dysphoria. Once I came out as trans and started to embrace being a woman, I felt my gainer urges slack off. Now like a year later, I have found myself a gainer again somehow.
Sooo, I think it can totally be a situation where you will keep coming back until you just do it, but it can also be a situation where once you've tried it you may find it isn't for you. I do actually recommend just trying it, as you can always lose weight if you hate it.
2 years
I think the ability to block & report people would be handy, especially as reporting means I can hopefully have creeps banned so they don't harass others.
Also, being able to acknowledge I am a trans woman can also help, so, I don't end up with an uncomfortable conversation with someone who thinks I am cis and then feels like I deceived them in some way when my transness comes out.
2 years
Heya!! Fat (ish) transfem here too! Just looking for friends too to chat about my weight and transition journeys.
2 years
