I've spent a lot of time researching this subject and I have some suggestions.

First of all, you should know that the majority of this is up to your genetics. Some people simply do not have a strong capacity for subcutaneous fat and there's not much that can be done about it.

Now if you were relatively lean during puberty and are starting from a generally lean base point, it can go one of two ways. Either you're really genetically gifted in gaining subcutaneous fat and it'll start happening as you put on weight, or if you're like most men, a lot of your subcutaneous fat potential mainly gets unlocked at higher weights. This is because your body will choose to max out your visceral stores before prioritizing subcutaneous depots.

So in other words, get fat enough and you'll eventually get soft and wobbly, you'll just also have a belly that projects pretty far forward as well (that projection does decrease overall softness but at a high enough weight it effectively stops mattering).


But here's the kicker... it is possible to influence your body to favor subcutaneous storage more than it normally would. It won't be a giant change but it will lead to an overall improved subcutaneous to visceral ratio (you'll have more subq fat at a given body weight if you do this)

The only thing is... it requires insane discipline and a lot of exercise.

The idea is based on sumo wrestlers, who have remarkably low visceral fat levels for their size. It's not easy though, cause you basically need to work out a lot and eat super healthy, while also eating a modest caloric surplus.

The idea is that if you do a lot of big muscle activation before your main surplus of the day, it's more likely to be stored subcutaneously than it otherwise would be. This is largely driven by the effect of exercise on insulin sensitivity and things like GLUT4 activation. Working out legs and posterior chain is basically essential since they are the largest muscle groups and recruit the most energy (which leads to less visceral fat).


But it's not just exercise, you also have to eat in a way that preserves insulin sensitivity as much as possible to continue increasing priority towards subcutaneous fat. This means avoiding saturated fats, sugars, choosing complex carbs over simple ones, always eating carbs last in your meal after fiber, protein and fats, etc.


Now you're gonna see a MYTH online, especially in this space, that claims heavy cream leads to softer fat. It sounds nice but I can tell you this isn't real and it's mostly upheld by confirmation bias from people who swear it lead to that effect on them. Heavy cream leads to quick fat gains cause... well it's pure fat... but it's also loaded with saturated fat and it totally derails your insulin sensitivity, which ultimately leads to MORE visceral fat instead of less.


The last big thing you need to know is that it's ideal to gain at a relatively slow rate to not accidentally drive visceral fat, something like 2.4lbs per month is a good place to be in my personal opinion.


As someone who has tried it all, including heavy cream, I can tell you that following this more disciplined exercise-based method has yielding the strongest results in terms of subcutaneous fat gains for me, and I say that as someone that thought I was doomed to never be soft.

My extra pro tip for maximizing the ratio is to purposely overshoot your gains by like 20lbs, hold that weight for 2 years, and then gradually lose about 10-12% of your body weight. This will prioritize visceral fat loss and lead to you being much softer overall. You can regain like 5-8lbs after that loss as well to push it even further, as the initial gains after a major weight loss tend to refill stubborn subcutaneous stores.

I think some health trade offs are inevitable depending on the size you wanna reach and there's only so much you can do about it.

I try to gain weight in a healthy way, which for me means blunting the glucose impact of my meals to prevent insulin spiking, and exercising a lot. This also has the benefit of moderately improving subcutaneous to visceral fat ratios as long as the weight gain is at a controlled pace. My final plan also includes dropping at least 10% of my weight to hopefully further improve my metabolic health while still being a fatty.

But even with that in mind, I know I'm gonna be less healthy at high weights than at lower ones, it's simply inescapable.

I like to eat big at the start of the day so that I can easily achieve my surplus by the end of it.

Does he still reach orgasm from super mild stimulation like when you started this?

Was 135lbs until my early 20s, up to 217lbs now and hopefully I can hit 235lbs later this year.

Though my next milestone is gonna be at 220lbs because that's officially 100kg, which excites me even though I don't actually use KG to measure my weight lmao.

Looking to hopefully hit that milestone in February.

In my opinion it's all about taking it slow.

Start with a small gain, see how you feel about it and the way it impacts your life (or doesn't) and go from there.

Much easier to be okay with getting huge when you do it one step at a time.

For most of my gain it didn't really change in size but very recently the lower roll that connects to the bottom of my belly button has been getting puffier.

So who knows, maybe as I continue to gain it will deepen a bit.

I sort of lived this one out, only I was still young and too worried about judgement to go full out and only gained about 12lbs.

Still it was quite noticeable on my then-skinny body.

When I was younger I used to fantasize about being sent on exchange to a southern state like Texas, in a small town where everyone was fat.

Always loved the idea of that lifestyle rubbing off on me permanently as I happily return home with a BMI over 40 and a sense of acceptance that I'm gonna live out the rest of my life fat.

chia seeds and hemp hearts go a long way in terms of adding healthy calories.

I like to add them to things like yogurt or hummus