I want to ask people who were thin before and decided to gain weight

Frogman:
I cannot say for certain that I do or don’t regret gaining. Mostly I don’t because I love feeling fat and it’s (auto)erotic, but there are also times when I wish I was thin and fit again—like when I have to exert myself. I have a theory that gaining may be more challenging mentally for some who start thin, because we’re not accustomed to being “a fat person”, living as one, and being treated as one.

Being fat was a desire of mine since I was a teenager. I tried padding first, which was fun but ultimately unsatisfying, so I tried gaining on and off for years. My size fluctuated between “very skinny” (when I was addicted to opiates) and “a little bit chubby” when I tried gaining.
By the time I was 30, I couldn’t suppress my burning desire to become fat any longer. I decided to gain 100 lbs. I embraced the feedee/gainer lifestyle, avoiding exercise while eating as much as possible, and eventually I was successful in my goal—plus ~20 lbs. I went from a “normal” weight to “class III obesity”.
Right now I’m not really in a position to continue gaining (I would if I could), so I’m just maintaining, trying to enjoy myself around food, and occasionally overindulging my appetite. smiley

Viktoshka:
Thanks for sharing your story! It sounds like this journey has been about so much more than just changing your body - it's about true self-expression. You say you can't actively bulk up right now, but if you had the chance, do you have a goal you'd like to reach? smiley


You’re welcome.
If I had the chance, I would love to grow to 350-400 lbs. I feel that’s a realistic goal for a very short guy. But the problem with goals is that when you achieve them, sometimes you think: “Now what do I do?” I often fantasize about what 500-600+ lbs. would be like, but for me those are just fantasies.
8 months

I want to ask people who were thin before and decided to gain weight

I cannot say for certain that I do or don’t regret gaining. Mostly I don’t because I love feeling fat and it’s (auto)erotic, but there are also times when I wish I was thin and fit again—like when I have to exert myself. I have a theory that gaining may be more challenging mentally for some who start thin, because we’re not accustomed to being “a fat person”, living as one, and being treated as one.

Being fat was a desire of mine since I was a teenager. I tried padding first, which was fun but ultimately unsatisfying, so I tried gaining on and off for years. My size fluctuated between “very skinny” (when I was addicted to opiates) and “a little bit chubby” when I tried gaining.
By the time I was 30, I couldn’t suppress my burning desire to become fat any longer. I decided to gain 100 lbs. I embraced the feedee/gainer lifestyle, avoiding exercise while eating as much as possible, and eventually I was successful in my goal—plus ~20 lbs. I went from a “normal” weight to “class III obesity”.
Right now I’m not really in a position to continue gaining (I would if I could), so I’m just maintaining, trying to enjoy myself around food, and occasionally overindulging my appetite. smiley
8 months

What mental changes have you experienced while gaining a significant amount of weight

I’m more mindless when eating, also food and calorie-obsessed. I’ve developed an autoerotic relationship with my body. Over time I changed from a more dominant feeder role to a submissive feedee. I’ve become habituated to overeating and avoiding exercise whenever possible.

I also genuinely perceive distances as farther than they actually are:
pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/26854404/
1 year

Coworkers reaction

Thick2bbw:
I know we talked about family and friends reacting to us gaining but how have you guys handle coworkers?

I don’t have a great answer to your question but I’ll relay an anecdote.
My last job was at a small business I worked at for ~10 years. When I started, I wore a medium-sized shirt and was fairly thin. By the time I left I had (deliberately) ballooned up to a 3XL shirt, and was definitely not thin. No one said anything directly UNTIL one day when a coworker (woman in her 70s) asked me a math question and my answer happened to be: “450.” She came back with: “What is that, your GOAL WEIGHT??”
This was only the second experience in my entire life being fat-shamed so it’s not like I had some clever response prepared or defenses built up. (She also said this right in front of a client.) I just sort of laughed nervously, but on the inside I was surprised and hurt since I thought this lady was kind and not the type to stoop so low.
In hindsight I probably would’ve gone the full-on comedy route, turning it into a male pregnancy joke or whatnot.
1 year

Is this fetish permanent?

Baronbeta:
It’s still new to me, and I’m not interested in extreme obesity, but perfectly fine with gaining weight (both fat and muscle).

I’m addicted to femdom joi, and a few dommes have some files that train someone to associate food with arousal. I haven’t done a deep dive yet, but I am noticing that I feel really horny lately when eating bigger quantities, especially if I’m indulging in a sweet (cookie, muffin, etc.)

is this normal for everyone here? Does this ever go away? Am I already in too deep?

Feedism certainly encompasses a spectrum. Where one identifies oneself on the spectrum can change. How one gets off sexually within it can change. The intensity and/or clarity of how strongly a person feels this is an inseparable part of who they are usually varies over time. (It might start off more casual or fantasy-based and turn into a lifestyle.) But generally speaking, it’s not something that goes away.

tl;dr
As a doctor, a scientist, and your attorney, I strongly advise you to eat 16 doughnuts a day. 😉
1 year

What's happening to me? where do i go from here?


Baronbeta:
Any thoughts to my other question on the impact on the public area and how much weight would be needed to engulf a few inches of my penis? I understand everyone is different, but would love to hear opinions and experiences.

Munchies:
Like you said, everyone is different. Some people get fupas at lower weights, and some barely have any at higher weights. That said, generally you get some kind of fupa around 300 - 350.


Personally, my fupa became pretty pronounced and fairly deep (enough to engulf most of me flaccid and some of me erect) after I gained about 100 lbs… but I’m very short plus I was looking to gain fat and not muscle so YMMV.
1 year

What feeder/feedee/gained fantasy is still on your bucket list?

Find a full-time food delivery person who is also a feeder. Endless quantities of tasty food delivered directly into my mouth. Getting fatter and fatter until I’m barely mobile…
1 year

Sighting: see evidence of wg that is a turn-on

RegularGhost15:
I think either side has generally good points, but at the end of the day, unless someone is crossing a line like posting pictures or being specific enough to identify someone on here, I think the issue of consent on posting about it is moot because there is nothing personal about a description of seeing someone wearing tight clothes. Almost every other topic in this entire forum has posts talking about other people in general terms so it's bizarre to see people drawing an arbitrary line at this specific topic.

If you think a topic is cringy, I have some bad news about how people view this fetish in general.

I was going to write something similar but you saved me the trouble. After reading and rereading the OP, the “worst” I could say if I was forced to is it comes across as a little voyeuristic—but I would not personally characterize it as cringey, creepy, or “rapey” as it has been during the course of this thread. I do believe some of the comments have been the product of underthinking or overthinking what started as a simple and fairly innocuous topic.
1 year

Why are people so angry at fat acceptance movements on the internet?

“Why are people so angry at fat acceptance movements on the internet?”

The anger and intolerance on the internet are amplified extensions/reflections of the pervasive attitude in real life that being fat is unacceptable, (for various reasons). This attitude is an “acceptable” prejudice among many.
In my limited experience, even people I would otherwise consider broad-minded, kind, and intelligent may possess this mentality.
1 year
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