Enas:
There is no reason to feel proud or ashamed for something you didnt conciously decided!
JN_TumLover56:
Well I certainly appreciate that.
Enas:
I hope you also understand the underlying logic!
JN_TumLover56:
Kinda. I have no shame for what I am attracted to. I mean I am what I find attractive too (hello it says in my username 😅). But I do have bad days at time.
Just to be clear, im more concerned with you being able to make solid arguments against criticism (of the stupid kind) on your fetish.
2 weeks
Enas:
There is no reason to feel proud or ashamed for something you didnt conciously decided!
JN_TumLover56:
Well I certainly appreciate that.
I hope you also understand the underlying logic!
2 weeks
Munchies:
So, today is my birthday. Just turned 29. But when I look at my profile, it says I am 28.
I double checked the birthday I put in my profile. It's definately correct.
What's happening here?
This is just me speculating, i dont know your timezone but if you noticed this just past *your* midnight, and the server is in a timezone that experiences midnight later, that might be what's causing it.
Also, imo wishing happy birthday is very lowbar, english doesnt have good wishes, but Greek does, so i wish you to have years many, and good!
2 weeks
JN_TumLover56:
You know I’m not exactly crazy about the kink as I used to. However I also do find that reading into these forums/threads do sometimes make me feel that bit of comfort. Or at best give me some kind of insight into a better understanding about the world of either the kink itself or just being someone who’s into larger people.
From when I found out about my interests within larger people I did knew about the stigmatization and the guilt that comes with it, but I’ve always wanted to find a place where I don’t have to be ashamed of myself anymore or at least a lot less guilt?? Either way it is kinda nice to be in a place without the outside noise from society telling someone how incorrect their body is and that you have to fix it to be more acceptable. kinda a breath of fresh air if you ask me?
Also I also kinda find it interesting for how in a community like this there’s some kind of an understanding when it comes to weight change. It’s almost there’s a nuance towards it, compared to the outside where it’s so noisy and how weight loss is celebrated like hardcore. 😅 Maybe I’m sounding a little extra, but that’s what I have noticed anyways.
Now yes as you probably already notice, I am not a bigger person myself. But I believe that there is a place for someone like me (someone who’s into bigger people) to belong to a place like here. And trust me, the negative noise out there can affect people like me too. Maybe not that often, but it does happen.
There is no reason to feel proud or ashamed for something you didnt conciously decided!
3 weeks
123456kevin:
I’ve been dealing with an ED for a while due to beauty standards, I feel like I have to starve myself cause I’m ugly if I’m not skinny and no one will ever love me. I’m not into this but this forum is strangely comforting when I’m really deep in my ED, that some people wouldn’t find me ugly for my chubby appearance. So uh- Thanks for existing ig?
Beauty standards, especially for women, are completely ridiculous and stupid. Please, be aware, you dont need to subscribe to a stupid idea!
(i'd write a wall of text, expanding on this, but i'm not sure if anyone would appreciate it)
3 weeks
Munchies:
Idk, but I'm also black, so Imma leave that one up to the white people to figure out.
Im curious on why you would say that. Do you think the color of your skin affects your ability to judge the sppearance of people that have a different colored skin? (propably not)
Im also asking because i know that you’re really not uncomfortable with expressing your opinion on others' sppearances (and im not saying this as a bad thing, im just making an observation), so why is race the consideration for what is axeptable or not?
3 weeks
Maybe it is too early to speak about solutions to problems, we have not yet identified clearly (i think what has been mentioned so far is somewhat surface-level observations) but, i think this should be also mentioned, an element that is missing is a lack of intentionality in the conversations that have to do with the betterment of our communities.
In general, people want to fix what annoys them, not problems, necesarily. And the rarely go on a theoretical analysis to identify their problems correctly (or at least, to not confuse symptoms as their problems). For example most people have a sentiment against comercialization, they will identify it as a problem and if the space allows them, they will try to push back on it. Thats one thing. It is another thing entierly to actually build community.
I've tried to do a few things with, more or less, the intend to improve FF in fundamental ways (for example i have asked Hiccupx to create a forum-like space, but one in which people will engage in a hegelian dialectic when in it, i dont know what's going on with that request. I could try to share this somewhere though!) but it seems that each time i end in bigger and bigger trouble.
And on that note i want to ask for advice. I do want to see a better community and i do want to participate in community building. What can i do? (meaning, what can a person do to at least faciliate this process of community building?)
3 weeks
Im really interested in this discussion, as with others similar to it.
I think all these characteristics you two mention are true, and i can see this being an effect of people mentally degrading, mostly due to working much harder due to economic crisis. Many people dont even have the time to think. Either they are wasting up in a gig economy job, or they collapse into a couch and recoop for the next day. This, then, means that people dont develop at all! Ideas, from the worldview of someone to something pragmatic like "how do i attract a partner" remain at a shallow level, almost as if waiting to be refined. People in general are very shallow now (On the other hand, im not convinced that the situation has ever been much better).
EDIT: Narcissism! I forgot about narcissism! So, our (western) culture encourages and glorifies more and more narcissism. It is very likely that much of the behavior you inscribed is also an effect on the increased levels of narcissism, among the general population.
What do you think?
4 weeks
First of all, this is a wonderful thread! 😂
Im really uncomfortable with cum shallowing, but i enjoyed very much all the rest!
So, ive seen this term being thrown a bit lately on Tumblr, "Lard locked", which refers to the situation of a feedee's genitals being completely burried under their fat pad!
Id definetely love to be fattened up to that point, no doubt! O.o
The other thing i wanted to say, in response to the mention of androgyne, is that i think maybe some people are into some kind of... I dont know what term to use but, act like child subs? For example i really really love being called "good boy", or "fat boy". It makes me feel like i can be an irresponsible feedee who can just eat, cum and sleep all the time, preferably even on the request of a hypothetical mommy dome feeder girlfriend who will take all responsibility, but also control with it, away from me!
Like... I dont get the same kick at all from being called "fat guy"!
1 month
Munchies:
FF is not a dating site.
Out of curiosity...
There *is* actually a section in profiles about dating interests / characteristics or whatever. Doesnt that make FF a dating site by design, at least among other things?
1 month
