CelticBlimp:
In my experience, most feeders talk a big game, but when it comes to the moment of truth suddenly it's silence or stuttering. Grommr is full of unreliable feeders and begging gainers, and most of the interactions I get are "big belly" and nothing beyond that, it's honestly disheartening. I can only speak about gay/mlm sites, but I guess it's the same everywhere else.

Buffetlover:
Go to bbwwikistories it's on there along with alot of other stories from dimensions

FAMGM:
I’ve never had much time for so called feeders. For the most part they obviously only contact you when they are horny.

The best interactions I’ve had are with mutual gainers. They understand what is involved, and they are much less transactional.

CelticBlimp:
This is a frustrated rant, but I do believe this is a good question.

As I gainer I've never had any experience with a feeder, not in person nor online, so my expectations come from what I see others tell about their own experiences. In a way we're sacrificing our bodies, health, mobility, clothes, furniture, job possibilities and social relations. All for a body size we find desirable, yet also making life harder. Is it unfair to expect a feeder's job has to reflect that sacrifice we make? They face monetary loss, that's true, but if I break up with my partner after he fattened me, he walks away with less money, but with his mobility and health intact, while I have to deal with the downfall of not having access to many jobs, fitting clothes or an outside life.
I say all this because in every conversation I had with a feeder the focus has been on what I have to do, what I have to eat, what I have to buy. Some time ago a feeder said that he would care and fatten me, that we would get a disability pension to expend on my gains. And it clicked, that way he didn't loose anything, but I did. He would gain sexual pleasure from fattening me and taking advantage of what I had, but he wouldn't give anything. I'm giving my body to you, but you won't even reflect that? What is the fairest exchange I can expect from a feeder in this regard? On my current weight and without intentionally gaining I don't expect anything from anyone but the basic respect and dignity as the humans we are, yet if making me fatter is the conversation, can I expect from my feeder that his material input reflects what I'm both giving him and giving up?

MickRidem:
Milk and cream for me, generally. I'm trying the heavy cream for a while to see what happens, and already I'm noticing it. And I'm too old for this! 🤣

But I'm willing to temporarily sacrifice my extreme handsomeness for a little progress. 😆

Tinygirlfoodie:
want to buy them for me?

Tinygirlfoodie:
I want some messy tacos soooo bad

Fattoo:
Fair and well.
You come across repulsive about a topic I'd expect desirable for someone wanting to fatten up.
Also applying yourself as you mentioned, shows you are a non conforming member and wanna be righteous know it all. Your advices reveal your acting as a moderator / interceptor to topics you are against. Rather than indulge in fair rationality. To make someone's new post and a new member sound preposterous instead of fine tuning what is interesting about food and getting fat. Respecting those who take the time to share their experiences and thoughts. Instead of giving them a wise ass warning. I would not want a girl like you, that doesn't enjoy my pleasures.
This site is here to revel in the fetish of food and the people who eat it.
You made yourself sound like a person who just eats to live, instead of a person who lives to eat. Your 168lbs isn't even fat yet to enjoy it. Where is your loving the fattening that comes with trying new ways to fatten up?
Maybe you could send me some recipes you find either delicious or for just getting in those extra calories at the end of the day without needing much time to prepare.. That would be nice of you, and a better way to respond.

Weetabix:
Well said. Your points are well reasoned and evidenced where as Muchies cannot link us to the posts they said existed here. Instead Muchies insinuates that anyone who does not blindly agree with their advice is an idiot.

Delta9:
How is he measuring his bodyfat? There are a lot of ways to measure and most of them aren't very accurate.
Basically, if you look fat, you're fat. If you have visible muscle definition, you're not. Maybe suggest he try a different type of measurement.
Also, a lot of people obsess over percentage numbers. Just like they do over weight. Only thing is weight is objectively much easier to measure.

Natatat:
Okay so my boyfriend said he has a higher body fat percentage than he would like. He said he wants to be at 15% body fat or below. Right now I guess he is at 20%. I’m so confused by this because first off he looks way more muscular and built. Second he’s not fat at all or even more whatever. Third is that he has clearly put on more muscle. It was fucking annoying to hear. He said that his concern over the percentage has to do with longevity and setting himself up for success in his later 30s and 40s and so on. He said the muscle now will make it so his body will have a tendency towards that. I understand that just I am really digging how he looks. I’m worried he will get all scrawny or something. Idk I’m also just dealing with a lot of stress right now in general because a lot of my work got very inconsistent so I’m on edge already. But yeah I mean I told him all of this. But yeah idk I’m so confused. I never think about that stuff cause I have a tendency to straight up forget to eat even if I’m hungry. To the point where I’ll have a meltdown and not realize it’s from forgetting to eat. I’ve been in shape and strong and healthy all my life. Most of it probably underweight not on purpose though. A lot of food just did not agree with me. Apparently I can’t handle things with corn syrup in them or dairy and just a lot of processed stuff messes with me. So I tend to only want to eat useful food. And I won’t eat the food if it doesn’t count as useful. Just I often would rather not eat than eat stuff that will make me sick. I honestly was not aware that he would get crappy food on the days that I’m not with him. I also am not as affected by food in terms of body composition. I either have more layers of muscle or I just have less on me. As in I lose the fat first and I guess would gain the fat last. It’s strange. It sounds like a good thing but it can be bad if I get sick or am unable to get the food I need. That’s why I’m so confused by his whole percentage thing. Idk sry this is so random.